"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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12 bonk rule.....

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Sex mathematician Clio Cresswell's rule for how many partners you should have before you settle down.

 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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One of my main life rules is never rely on any kind of relationship advice from a woman.

Nice girls always say nice things. Nice things never helped any man in the history of civilization.
 

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This rule has no merit. Women with multiple notches often lack the ability to pair bond long term. While all relationships can be viewed as transient, women with higher notch counts are more likely to have failed longer term relationships.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Listening to a fish telling how to fish in the waters must be one of the greatest definition of stupidity...
 
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This rule has no merit. Women with multiple notches often lack the ability to pair bond long term. While all relationships can be viewed as transient, women with higher notch counts are more likely to have failed longer term relationships.
It's not clear whether she talks about 12 notches or 12 partners . Quite the difference. She might have 12 notches before 18.

12 partners on the other hand might take many years. And would be crazy advice to say to take your first 12 partners/ relationships with a grain of salt.

On the other hand, strangely enough she might be on something, as this seems to be exactly what most women do nowadays. Settle after 30.
 

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It's not clear whether she talks about 12 notches or 12 partners . Quite the difference. She might have 12 notches before 18.

12 partners on the other hand might take many years. And would be crazy advice to say to take your first 12 partners/ relationships with a grain of salt.

On the other hand, strangely enough she might be on something, as this seems to be exactly what most women do nowadays. Settle after 30.
I think she was referring to 12 different partners. Or at least evaluating 12 different men over an extended period of time, possibly not having sex with all of them. But it would entail multiple dates in the evaluation.

I do find her physically attractive with a nice tan and arms. The face looks aged. She is 45 now as she was 36 in 2013.


I did watch this. Her "12 bonk rule" is based on an equation predicting marital stability for 6 years. If the marriage is 6 years long, total relationship time is 8-10 years. That equation might not have any merit in predicting marital stability after 6 years. Nor does that mathmatical relationship predict the quality of the interaction during those 6 years. It just predicts for staying together for 6 years in a committed marriage and it assumes quality exists if the marriage part of the relationship lasts 6 years.

Marriages aren't supposed to last 6 years. Divorce risk doesn't evaporate after 6 years of marriage or 8-10 years of relationship time.
 

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I think she was referring to 12 different partners. Or at least evaluating 12 different men over an extended period of time, possibly not having sex with all of them. But it would entail multiple dates in the evaluation.

I do find her physically attractive with a nice tan and arms. The face looks aged. She is 45 now as she was 36 in 2013.




I did watch this. Her "12 bonk rule" is based on an equation predicting marital stability for 6 years. If the marriage is 6 years long, total relationship time is 8-10 years. That equation might not have any merit in predicting marital stability after 6 years. Nor does that mathmatical relationship predict the quality of the interaction during those 6 years. It just predicts for staying together for 6 years in a committed marriage and it assumes quality exists if the marriage part of the relationship lasts 6 years.

Marriages aren't supposed to last 6 years. Divorce risk doesn't evaporate after 6 years of marriage or 8-10 years of relationship time.
You mention age, and maybe that's the elephant in the room. A 25 year old woman might have the urgent need to move way faster in life than a 25 y.o man. So its probably a mixture of dating, ONS, and relationships she talks about.

About the movie: Unfortunately, this seems to be about the maximum lifespan of modern LTR's. So in a morbid way it makes sense.
 

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this seems to be about the maximum lifespan of modern LTR's. So in a morbid way it makes sense.
I have written extensively about my hypothesis that the shelf life of the good part of modern LTRs is roughly 5 years.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I have written extensively about my hypothesis that the shelf life of the good part of modern LTRs is roughly 5 years.
Yes you wrote about it, and it's true.
 

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This has to be the dumbest advice I’ve ever heard. Not surprised that it comes from a woman who describes herself as a “sex mathematician”.
 
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