"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I know you people hate these, but get the F*** over it and help me anyways. I really just want some words of encouragement, thats what I came for and what I need to get me going again. I am building up the self desire and need a kickstart. Basically, I have this one chick I like, lives about 2 hours away (used to go to my school but moved) she is single but flirts alot with another guy. We usually only talk on the internet also. Now what do you think my next move is in this case.

The other, is normal hot cheerleader things, but this one is odd, different. Don't know if she likes me or feels bad for me or what. But she always says hi and stuff and when I first got my facebook account she was like one of my first 3 friends and she asked to be my friend. Odd, when very few others have.

What do you guys think and help me make some decisions.

Thanks, Kegger, not a DJ,YET!!!:up:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hey, we haven't talked in a while.

Flirt and Tease, I can't stress it enough. You can't build attraction and interest by just chatting with them. Hang out with them (at least the CL), and get to know them, and if you and her have fun together, and she takes your flirting well....well..you escalate.

Now is not the time to just be normal. CL is interested, amplify it =)

-as for the 2 hour flirt-machine, unless you plan on travelling a lot.....don't worry about her too much
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Yeah, I am really at a loss right now not knowing were to turn. I know that I must improve some important skills, like communication. I always grew up around lots of adults and few other people my age. So I am at a loss, I have trouble holding a conversation with someone my own age while I can talk for hours with an older adult. Also, I am soft spoken as it is, that is one thing I must overcome, do you guys have any ideas on that? Shyness is a problem but is slowly moving away. With things like facebook were you are behind the security of your keyboard I have been able to see that people really dont hate you because they interact with you there. P.S. Our high school is really big into facebook. So if you have any ideas, please let me know asap.

Thanks, Kegger
 

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Just talk to her, ask her questions and develop from her answers....sure..it might not be older subjects...but it's something in tune to her.
 

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I am on it. Thats what I kinda figured was best, build up a knowledge of each other. When you are stuck 180 days in a building with someone, its not as easy to just randomly ask people out as if you were in a bar with people you would never see again.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yeah, just have short conversations with her for a bit, and then ask her to grab something to eat or anything like that after a few days...

Light Flirting/Teasing helps too =)
 
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