1 week in No Contact and then contact- advice needed

[arathorngr]

Beautiful girl, 36 yo.
Hit it off for 3 months, smooth sailing till 2 weeks ago when she became distant.
Chased (a bit), we finally broke up (her choice, she said too many things happen in her life and all this crap)
I agreed, said "ok, call me if you ever want to" and went NC.

Yesterday she SMSed me. Did not respond.
She sent another text saying that my non response is rude.
Did not respond to that too.

How to play it from here?

 

[Glassguy]

What did she send you?

 

[arathorngr]

Some generic crap about a photo i uploaded on insta.

 

[ZenoB]

She broke up with you. Isn't that rude?

If you do respond, agree and amplify what she said when she broke it off, albeit in a cordial way.

Read THIS

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

How to play it from here?

Try some honesty.

"You said you wanted to break up, so I respected that. If you want to start dating again, that's fine, I'll give it a go. But I can't be friends with somebody I'm emotionally and sexually attracted to, because it makes it much harder for me to move on and try and find a more compatible relationship. So do you want to start dating again, or not?"

 

[arathorngr]

I feel she tries to string me along.
Sex would be fine but i want the whole thing.
I think that if i just sex her, i will gain nothing in the big scheme of things.

 

[arathorngr]

Part of me worries that by not responding i may appear bitter and butthurt...

 

[guru1000]

While gaming, never explicate, manipulate.

And in post-breakup exchanges, X 2.

 

[arathorngr]

I chose not to respond.
Lets see if she persists...

Thanks for the advice guys.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Beautiful girl, 36 yo.
Hit it off for 3 months, smooth sailing till 2 weeks ago when she became distant.
Chased (a bit), we finally broke up (her choice, she said too many things happen in her life and all this crap)
I agreed, said "ok, call me if you ever want to" and went NC.

Yesterday she SMSed me. Did not respond.
She sent another text saying that my non response is rude.
Did not respond to that too.

How to play it from here?

Don't play. "Hi its good to see you reaching out. Contact me the next time you want to hang out. Otherwise I'm busy.". Don't say anything else unless she's trying to arrange a meeting.

 

[arathorngr]

I will not respond or make contact till she breaks, eg. says something like "i made a mistake" etc.
This is my decision.

 

[arathorngr]

She SMSed again, at 5 in the morning
"This it it? You will not talk to me ever again?"


Weird

 

[Billtx49]

If she sent that 5 a.m., she's thinking about you really hard in a major way right now. If she sleeps normal hours and its soon after she wakes up, or earlier than usual. What that means for you is anyone's guess, but her hamster is running at full speed right now.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If she sent that 5 a.m., she's thinking about you really hard in a major way right now. If she sleeps normal hours and its soon after she wakes up, or earlier than usual. What that means for you is anyone's guess, but her hamster is running at full speed right now.

Work the hampster

 

[arathorngr]

Ok, point taken.
Next steps anyone?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Arathothorne,
All the above are on the money...No contact is just that,but take care,this one is not going to let go easily!

 

[Once Bitten]

Her reacting this way, says you're playing her right. Keep up the good work.

 

[arathorngr]

Ok, but what now?
Keep the hard NC?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Ok, but what now?
Keep the hard NC?

If she hits you at 1-2 AM go over there an phuck.

 

[arathorngr]

UPDATE
She called. Three times in a row. Did not answer.
She insisted after one hour. I picked up. I was nonchalant, she was flirty.
She proposed to go for drinks tomorrow night.
I accepted. I could be more reluctant, but i chose not to play hard ball again.

Seems that there is still some interest here. Let's see how it goes tomorrow guys.
I intent to f#ck close of course.