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“The audacity of this b****”

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I’m going to keep this sh*t short and simple and to the f*ckin point... I just agreed to go steady and commited with a chick I’ve been dating for a couple of months. We have many mutual friends and had planned a group hangout sesh. I get there way before she does, however when she arrives, this b**** has the audacity to come in and acknowledge everyone (not individually but as a collective) but ME, her F*CKING BOYFRIEND, in the entire room.....and nothing else.... not even a quick shoulder rub, grab or the slightest touch....

We saw each other earlier that morning, but am I being a straight up c*nt a*s b*tch about this whole situation or is something the f*ck up and wrong and I reconsider what the f*cl is going on....
 

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***DISCLAIMER***
Time spent together alone is literally incredible and perfect.....but outside of that, wtf???
 

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Not sure what I just read...
If you're so mad at this "b1tch of a girlfriend of yours", and your time spent alone with her is perfect...stop taking her out of the house.
Problem solved.
 

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I’ve noticed that women are rapidly losing any sense of social calibration and plain old good manners. Their behavior is that of a maladjusted little girl who hasn’t learned how to socialize.

Very often in business, I get the most appallingly retarded phone calls and messages. They Don’t even have sense enough to identify themselves such as “Hi Atom, it’s [name]”. They just talk as if they’re writing an entry in a diary.

But that’s business. With girlfriends I’ve always had to correct them with even the most basic, fundamental social awareness. Women are being turned into morons on a grand scale. This, in my opinion, has a spiritual basis, because just as it was in Eden, to take down the man, you do it indirectly through the woman.
 

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I’ve noticed that women are rapidly losing any sense of social calibration and plain old good manners. Their behavior is that of a maladjusted little girl who hasn’t learned how to socialize.

Very often in business, I get the most appallingly retarded phone calls and messages. They Don’t even have sense enough to identify themselves such as “Hi Atom, it’s [name]”. They just talk as if they’re writing an entry in a diary.

But that’s business. With girlfriends I’ve always had to correct them with even the most basic, fundamental social awareness. Women are being turned into morons on a grand scale. This, in my opinion, has a spiritual basis, because just as it was in Eden, to take down the man, you do it indirectly through the woman.
Its alot of them. World revolves around them. So she wasn't dissing you on purpose. As usual there is a suave way to handle this situation.
 

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I’m going to keep this sh*t short and simple and to the f*ckin point... I just agreed to go steady and commited with a chick I’ve been dating for a couple of months. We have many mutual friends and had planned a group hangout sesh. I get there way before she does, however when she arrives, this b**** has the audacity to come in and acknowledge everyone (not individually but as a collective) but ME, her F*CKING BOYFRIEND, in the entire room.....and nothing else.... not even a quick shoulder rub, grab or the slightest touch....

We saw each other earlier that morning, but am I being a straight up c*nt a*s b*tch about this whole situation or is something the f*ck up and wrong and I reconsider what the f*cl is going on....
Don't ever be afraid to slap a b1tch. With my ex Cambodian hood rat, from west Philly, I was living in a sober house and she used to come see me a lot, bring me authentic Cambodian meals, and the first time I spent the night at her condo, when she went to work I got a four pack and drank. I hadn't drank alcohol in about 6 months. She comes back, realizes what I've been doing while she's at work. She got so fvcking mad. This b1tch went straight up hood on me, yelling all ghetto like. I've never EVER had a woman speak to me like that before. But what could I do? I let her just be loud and run her mouth for like 30 mins. I tactfully asked her just to drive me back to the house, coaxed her into the car, I'm a very white guy from rural Wisconsin so I'm not used to this type of behavior. We get in the car, this ho keeps going and going, and I'm certainly not going to lose my cool and yell back. I just tell myself I'll be away from her in about 45 mins. I let her go on and on and on, but the moment the word b!tch came out of her mouth, we were going 70mph on i95 north. I slapped her open handed one time hard. I was still a little tipsy, I very much surprised myself. What have I done I thought. She starts swerving, hits the breaks, gets out, starts scream crying. I sigh, roll my eyes, ignore her, and light up a ciggeratte and lean up against the car praying to the lord the police don't roll up. After like ten mins she's still irate. I ask a few times "please just take me home and I'll never bother you again." she kept on about 5 more mins. I coax her into the car. The rest is the way she cried a little but didn't say anything else. We pulled up, my buddy is sitting outside, I get out she rolls down the window and screams" TREZ HAS BEEN DRINKING!!!" my home boy just smirks. I tell him" I'll explain tomorrow " and I hit the rack.

The next day I text her, to appear to apologize, but because i felt bad, but because I just assumed that's the proper thing to say. She said" don't worry about it ". Even when I saw her next she had a slight black eye. I tried to say sorry again and she didn't want to address what happened. But she kept seeing me, we kept fvcking. I even eventually moved into her condo.

I've never hit a woman like that before. But now I understand why some of these hood b1tches get their a$$es beaten, and I'm probably a little racist, but you cant blame these guys from the hood who beat their women.

I'm telling you most of the guys locked up for domestic violence didn't do it. The guys who do it rarely catch charges for it because it's almost like the women wanted it.
 

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Total overreaction by OP.

I hope you didn't blow up because it would have made you look really insecure and bad.

Had that happened to me, I would have smiled, been looking at my phone, and when she was done greeting the room, I would have said "Now, get over here and give daddy a kiss before he spanks you...hard." Then I'd grab her ass, hard, and kiss her. She'd giggle and that would be it.

Damn OP, you need to check your game and emotions. True DJs are cool as a cucumber and not so easily riled.

Hopefully you'll learn and can rebound.
 

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I’ve noticed that women are rapidly losing any sense of social calibration and plain old good manners. Their behavior is that of a maladjusted little girl who hasn’t learned how to socialize.

Very often in business, I get the most appallingly retarded phone calls and messages. They Don’t even have sense enough to identify themselves such as “Hi Atom, it’s [name]”. They just talk as if they’re writing an entry in a diary.

But that’s business. With girlfriends I’ve always had to correct them with even the most basic, fundamental social awareness. Women are being turned into morons on a grand scale. This, in my opinion, has a spiritual basis, because just as it was in Eden, to take down the man, you do it indirectly through the woman.
With them more than ever "it's all about them".

Even in the Bible it says basically a woman will appear as wise if she makes her man look good.

This is not a biblical lesson but a wisdom one. Thousands of years wisdom which i have no doubt similar wisdom is found in all of the religions.

Proverbs 31:13 "She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life" and. ( she will make you look good and find ways to add to you )

Ecclesiastes 26:26 "A woman that honoureth her husband shall be judged wise of all; but she that dishonoureth him in her pride shall be counted ungodly of all.".. ( a woman who makes her man look good is considered wisest. A woman who makes her man look bad is considered foolish. )

Ecclesiastes 25: " A wicked woman abateth the courage, maketh an heavy countenance and a wounded heart: a woman that will not comfort her husband in distress maketh weak hands and feeble knees." ( basically a selfish or woman whose using you will decrease your strength, vitality and courage. She will make you weak. )

Ecclesiastes 26:13 "
The grace of a wife delighteth her husband, and her discretion will fatten his bones." ( fatten his bones means to increase his spirit. Increase his strength. A woman that deals with her man gracefully increases his influence and swag. )

Proverbs 31:3 "
Do not spend your strength[a] on women,
your vigor on those who ruin kings.(C)" ( basically don't deal with women who minimize or shrink you or your influence. Its simply old wisdom )

So the wisdom is accounted for. It's our decisions to be good judges of character. A woman will do these things if she wants to or it's been built into her. There are many who have no clue and will decrease your worth simply by association. Im not sure it's for us to train them how to see it. In your case she figured that event was all about her. And it will make you look weak and eventually question yourself if you allow it to persist. To correct her perhaps you set up a few situation to return the favor. Saying it comes across as weak. Its up to you if you want to train a person or to just deal with ones who treat you with respect from the start.
 
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Hey fellas, all great advice and I appreciate you taking the time to share it. Last night I was pretty intoxicated when I wrote this and left the gathering hence the aggressiveness.

I’d like to think I handled it cool. Honestly I said nothing to her about it and acted like nothing was wrong.

the next question is do I bring it up in a reasonable conversation or act like it never happened and move on?
 

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Hey fellas, all great advice and I appreciate you taking the time to share it. Last night I was pretty intoxicated when I wrote this and left the gathering hence the aggressiveness.

I’d like to think I handled it cool. Honestly I said nothing to her about it and acted like nothing was wrong.

the next question is do I bring it up in a reasonable conversation or act like it never happened and move on?
In my life and dealing with that type of person you can't say nothing. It'll make you look weak. As she will minimize it. A wise woman would never have you on that position unless it was a fact that you were her escort or body guard.

What you can do is to setup a few similar situations to put her in the same shoes so she can see it.

In the meantime do some things that make you happy so it's not weighing on you.
 

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In my life and dealing with that type of person you can't say nothing. It'll make you look weak. As she will minimize it. A wise woman would never have you on that position unless it was a fact that you were her escort or body guard.

What you can do is to setup a few similar situations to put her in the same shoes so she can see it.

In the meantime do some things that make you happy so it's not weighing on you.
To the contrary my son, what if you can't find the door? At what point is enough enough? Be cautious, demons lurk among you m demons only fake weakness....
 

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These are some of the sh1t tests you get from women at times. I do agree with some of the others though that you are way too fired up about this as in the grand scheme of things I would not consider this a huge deal especially depending on how serious you are. I know you stated you both agreed to be exclusive, but there are a lot of different levels of "exclusive" from sleeping with only each other with no other strings attached to being in a serious LTR. I get the feeling you are still feeling each other out a bit -- and considering you consistently hang out in the same social circles I don't view this as a major slap in the face since I am guessing this may have simply been business as usual when you are out and about with your group-- but I do think she should have acknowledged you.

For what it is worth, I think you made a good decision to not bring it up. I would not directly challenge her on it given your relationship is so new. I would feel differently if you had been together for 2 years instead of 2 months and you were viewed as a couple by your social circle. I would, however, subtlety bring some tension to increase attraction. If there are other women in your social circle, start making a point to talk to them when she is around talking to the others. My guess is you are going to get her attention and this problem will resolve itself without any drama of challenging her about it directly.
 

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You needed to bring it up at the location, she walks in, greets everyone collectively, you greet her back/make yourself known. Don't sink into the foreground, if she has hurt your little feelings either tell her or downgrade her - but don't lie to yourself - she hurt you and made you feel "less than".

I don't agree with dash riprock's ass grabbing PDA filled faux-alpha stance either

Maybe she was embarrassed? Maybe she clammed up and didn't want to make a scene, women can be mentally like this. You have similar friends so we don't know the full dynamic here, nor do we need to, because as I said she disregarded you and that's not cool. You suppressed it, got drunk came home, and acted like a b*tch making this thread. No, you didn't make a scene in person, but your behaviour here making this thread tells me you easily could have, work on that.

Either talk to her or downgrade her, but don't keep doing what you're doing which is suffering in silence working yourself up.
 

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To the contrary my son, what if you can't find the door? At what point is enough enough? Be cautious, demons lurk among you m demons only fake weakness....
So your saying just drop her because she already knows and chose To DO that.
 

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So your saying just drop her because she already knows and chose To DO that.
Look dood. I grew up with two Germanic older sisters busting my balls constantly. Than my mom homeschooled us all and she's Swedish and German. Then in my father's side my s grandmother was Norwegian. I've had a constant braggege of blond beautiful woman on my. Case. Of course colored woman are easy peasy.
 

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Look dood. I grew up with two Germanic older sisters busting my balls constantly. Than my mom homeschooled us all and she's Swedish and German. Then in my father's side my s grandmother was Norwegian. I've had a constant braggege of blond beautiful woman on my. Case. Of course colored woman are easy peasy.
Oooh it's you. The homeless crackhead from Cali that comes and goes.

Hope you are well.
 
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