Giantsfan88
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How do you smile less and talk more aka not being a *****?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Smiling=death
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Slash Dolo
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I'm not with the idea that smiling is bad, or beta. How you smile though is different. Smirking and giving evil grins will turn a girl on like a faucet if you're doing everything else right.
Not smiling and asking how the weather is is worse than smiling like a pre-teen at a Good Charlotte concert and busting her chops and displaying confidence.
Here's a tip: don't focus on her. Focus on saying things that YOU would find amusing. If you're TRYING to make her laugh, you're doing it wrong. Say things that you know would make you laugh. This is what I do and never, ever have a problem conversing with an attractive woman and making her chuckle.
Not smiling and asking how the weather is is worse than smiling like a pre-teen at a Good Charlotte concert and busting her chops and displaying confidence.
Here's a tip: don't focus on her. Focus on saying things that YOU would find amusing. If you're TRYING to make her laugh, you're doing it wrong. Say things that you know would make you laugh. This is what I do and never, ever have a problem conversing with an attractive woman and making her chuckle.
Giantsfan88
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Yeah the past two times I saw this girl (who I used to date) I smiled. One time I stopped and said hey and the other time I smiled and made eye contact as I was leaving after telling her what I've been up to. You guys think it's too late for me to charm her?bigneil said:
thelonewolflegend
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How do you charm a girl and how do i know whats funny to me? Usually things i find funny are stupid
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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zekko said:
Lmao at this no smiling stuff...you are going to stop smiling because you think it turns girls off? The problem isn't smiling it's obviously n your mentality...
Do what you want when you want ufbthey dont like it then that's their problem not yours...
If you have confidence, it really doesn't matter what you do...
Do what you want when you want ufbthey dont like it then that's their problem not yours...
If you have confidence, it really doesn't matter what you do...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.