"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
F closed my ex
- Thread starter Hyper2010
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
Hyper2010 said:
Best advice?
GO STRAIGHT BACK TO NC... it is for your own best, no matter what, there was a reason why you left her first time.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
That would be a dream scenario, unfortunately, 9 out of 10 fail to keep thoose feelings down, why the NC is the only thing to go with.Vidrio said:
Trust me, i speak through experience. To op, you will be better of finding a new girl, all of your old problems will come creeping back within the first month.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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NC is more for you than it is getting the girl to come back.
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Eh? he had sex with her, the only thing he lost was sperm.betheman said:
he had some sex and can go NC again.
Quite a few threads recently along the line of "im getting too much action and interest from girls and I don't like it" like seriously what?
Send her my way for the sex next time if you don't want it, I won't complai about getting some
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Standards gentlemen. Standards. Raise yours and these feelings of disgrace will be forgotten soon enough.
BeDJ
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The reason you feel crappy was because you did something you weren't supposed to do. You lost self-control.
Now, your ex figures that she is your main source of intimacy and will continue to use sex to keep you around. She'll also be sampling popsicles while doing so and sooner or later, she will drop you. This will leave you emotionally and mentally crippled.
Walk away now and generate options.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Still it was my birthday today and made a nice present whilst Im spinning other plates....
She even confessed that since I went NC she had nearly rung me a few times.
BeDJ
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Okay.Hyper2010 said:
It's a lose-lose scenario.
You will not recover until you get her out of your life for a good few months. It's been nearly 2 months for me and it is getting better. Sleeping with other girls will help in the meantime.