This poll is the contrapositive to my other poll about the outcome of you saying it first, but what happened when SHE said the 'L' word first? Did she really mean it in the end?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
What was the Outcome when SHE said the 'L' Word First?
- Thread starter bigneil
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
zekko
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As I said in your other thread, I have always recommended letting the girl say it first. I figured this gives you the frame, and indicates high interest on the girl's part.
However, after reading the results of your poll, and thinking about my own experiences, I don't really think it makes any difference after all. The frame is something that you maintain on your own, it isn't really dependent on her. And if you're at the point where you're going to bring up the L word, you should have already determined that her interest is very high anyway.
That said, at this point in my life I would still let her say it.
However, after reading the results of your poll, and thinking about my own experiences, I don't really think it makes any difference after all. The frame is something that you maintain on your own, it isn't really dependent on her. And if you're at the point where you're going to bring up the L word, you should have already determined that her interest is very high anyway.
That said, at this point in my life I would still let her say it.