"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mouth and body speaking differently

PlentyOfLove

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Sup guys,

I've a bit of a problem. Or a confusing situation at the very least. There's this girl, who I had a bad oneitis for about a year back or so. She had high IL, and showed all the classic signs. Everything looked good up until last new years, but my oneitis got the best of me and I made some bad decisions, so we became friends on a mutual agreement. Which was cool, she is really a fun person to be with even as just friends, and she's also great for attracting other girls when we're out together.

It's been about a half a year now since we agreed to be friends, and my game's been improving a ton. I have a lot more plates, my social circle is a lot wider, I have a great job, and I even improved my clothing and personal appereance further. I've also spent a lot more time with her now, since we're just friends.

Up until now, anyway. I just came back from a rock festival where we were at to celebrate mid summer with a group of about 10 people, me and her included. She shared a tent with a female friend of mine, and I had my own tent, but as the night progressed and she was about to go to sleep, I told her that I'm coming along. She had no complaints, so I did, and about an hour later she was laying on top of me, trying to reach my tonsils with her tongue. We were just about to do the dirty deed, when this god damned female friend of mine burst through the door drunk off her a$$, gave us a drunken description about her latest sexual encounter that had apparently just ended, passed out on the floor and started snoring. So that was a wrap on the evening.

Your take on this? I have plates spinning now so I'm not really looking to go back into the oneitis mode, but still she's a great gal, and if she is to be judged by her actions instead of words, I'd say there's potential here. Is this going anywhere, or should I just keep her in the friendzone?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Subology

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Don't put a label on it, just continue playing it by ear. Don't expect anything, but don't stand in the way of anything either.
 

Desdinova

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Agreed. Don't get your hopes high on anything. If she's doing things like this, just go along with it until you've got something solid with her. When she's absent, make it like she's not a high priority for you. In other words, let her chase, but keep yourself attractive and just slightly out of her reach.
 
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