"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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escaleraroyal

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why do girls think it's creepy to cold approach them and ask for their number? I really don't understand this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MartyMcFly

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I hope you're not just running up to them and asking for their number without building rapport first?
 

Mantis Toboggan

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It's creepy if you suck as a person.

But you know damn well these girls dream of walking to the coffee shop and "bumping into" the man of their dreams. Girls want to be picked up.

If a girl is telling you that it's creepy, it's because she didnt like the guy.
 

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The difference between creepy or self confident is how you look like and how expensive your clothes are.

Also most of the girls are like kids,when they hear a "impressive" word they find any possible way to make it fit in the line,they like to impress people.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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vatoloco

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escaleraroyal said:
why do girls think it's creepy to cold approach them and ask for their number?
Only when you're ugly.

;)
 

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escaleraroyal said:
why do girls think it's creepy to cold approach them and ask for their number? I really don't understand this.
It's how you approach that makes it creepy. You don't ask for the number before talking to her. It must be very non-chalant like it's a part of the conversation.
 

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I guess its how you approached them, what did you do or how did you say it, what did you say?

Honestly im not that good at approaching, i hardly ever approach girls, if ever. Girls always initiated talk with me and that opened the door to talk. How were you dressed? what was your style? did you make eye contact atleast before you approached?
 

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In2theGame said:
Dont be so mean LOL
some times girls are intimidated by average joes with so much confidence , they can only explain it by him being weird. if you dressed liek a goth dude , no mater what your gonnabe creepy , to all but goth girls
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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vatoloco

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In2theGame said:
vatoloco said:
Only when you're ugly. ;)
Dont be so mean LOL
No, I'm serious. Nowadays, if you cold approach girls who don't dig you (i.e., they don't find you physically attractive, you are "ugly" to them) you will be labeled a "creeper," etc. Do you think they'd label a high-status, physically-attractive male (like Clooney or Pitt) a creeper for cold approaching them? *shakes Magic 8-Ball* "My sources say no."

That why I only cold approach the ones who smile back. ;)
 

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Who cares.

Your only concern is success or fail with your approaches and learning from them, so what if you make a few girls feel a bit uncomfortable?! its not going to ruin their day, as a a matter of fact they will just talk about it to their friends in order to show how hot they are which will make them feel good in the end.

read this instead:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155965&highlight=obey+****
 

Cherokee

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lol plenty of girls have told me they call a guy creepy if he's ugly/smells/dresses weird.

Pick one.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The only difference Between a creep and a hot guy is that one is hoe and the other is not

Edward Cullen is a prime example of this. Imagine Jaba the hutt doing all the sh1t that man gets away with to a chick and see how attractive he is.
 

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It's all about how you approach. You've got to notice body language well and pick up signs from them. That makes a cold approach alot easier. It also helps of you're at least average looking and not dressed like a turd
 
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