"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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NEW Bootcamp Starting Friday 4/9 - Competition!

ENIGMA16

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The deadline for participating in this bootcamp is Friday, April 9th. Please be sure to PM me before then if you are interested in participating!!!

Alright, so there's been some interest in starting up a new bootcamp recently, and since I'm only a week into my own personal one I figured I'd start over and we'll get a big group one going.

However, this bootcamp is going to be in a competition format. Because we are all competitive by our very nature, it should provide us all with an additional incentive to get out there and kick everyone else's ass!

Rules
The rules are simple. For each week of the boot camp you are given a certain amount of tasks to complete (i.e. "Greet 50 people"). At the end of the week I will tally up who has the most of that given task and post the results in this OP for each week. Then, I will give everyone points based on their standings. The point amounts will be entirely dependent upon how many participants we have in the game. I will also post the overall rankings in this post.

Also, the only complicated rule that I have is that if you go further than you are required by the task in terms of what you do, it will only count as a normal task. For example, if the weekly task is to greet 50 people, and you strike up a conversation and get a number, this will only count as one greeting. This is because I want to retain the bootcamp style and don't want a free-for-all where everyone just goes all out and does whatever, mainly so that those that are having a harder time don't fall too far behind.

Finally, remember that we're doing this based on the honor system, and that if you lie you're not only ruining the fun for everyone else but also deceiving yourself and not getting anywhere in terms of your own personal development. Plus, there is no real prize for winning aside from bragging rights.

If this takes off I might make a leaderboards thread where weekly records are recorded, but that's way in the future.

Here is the DJ Bootcamp.

Please PM me before Friday if you are interested in participating in this. Friday will be the official start of this bootcamp (Day 1 of Week 1).


Participants:
JLay87
crossboss
Cure
Blind_Fury
F!DELITY
Donnie Darko
HolyG
Scion
Forty0ztoFreedom
2crudedudes
ToBeTheBest
VDot
Hikapo
If Sixth I Will
Irs88
chese12
master-p
Exhumed
Tide
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Scion

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I'll try it. Although I may not be able to keep up with some of the guys in the later weeks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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2crudedudes

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I'm in
 

ENIGMA16

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Awesome! I had absolutely no idea this many people were interested! This should be a lot of fun. :cool:
 

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count me in...

I've be putting this off and i see a perfect opportunity to get started
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Accension

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I've finished this bootcamp twice now.
What do people hope to gain that they can't already get from a thriving social circle I wonder.

Honestly, why would you want to get a stranger's number when you could get the number of a girl you already know to be worth the time :cool:.
 

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JLay87 said:
Awesome! I had absolutely no idea this many people were interested! This should be a lot of fun. :cool:
Sign up a good number. 70% will be gone come week 2, 80% during week 2 and 90% by week 3 ;).
 

ENIGMA16

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Accension said:
Sign up a good number. 70% will be gone come week 2, 80% during week 2 and 90% by week 3 .
We'll see about that. I've seen a lot of these posters around before, which is a lot different compared to the "Boot Camps" I've seen in the past since I've joined this forum that were comprised mostly of new posters and Forum jockies. I think we'll get a decent amount of people past week 3 before we see a lot of people dropping off.

Plus I'm going to bug the hell out of everybody that falls behind or gets lazy. :cool:

I've finished this bootcamp twice now.
What do people hope to gain that they can't already get from a thriving social circle I wonder.

Honestly, why would you want to get a stranger's number when you could get the number of a girl you already know to be worth the time .
Building up a thriving social circle requires the ability to talk to strangers and interact with people you don't know. Also, it's about more than getting the girl.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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in!!!
 

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my first day on the forum.
lets give it a shot and take a change to something hot:p
 

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i cant pm

sign me in for the bootcamp plz

"way to go young brotha, getting paid getting paid"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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