"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
A man who can cook.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
MDgood
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A man who can cook always has an in with the ladies.
Francisco d'Anconia
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Well, perhaps you need to start mentioning it. Not to brag or try to impress, but include it in the conversation as in "I often cook for my family", now that will show so many positive aspects of your personality without you having to state them one by one.onyx said:
But I think its great to be able to do that, and have that type of aspect. Also work on the wine deal, and try something that most guys dont do to add that little extra impression.
I dont know when it started, but I can crack two eggs at once while I make breakfast or what ever. I put one in each hand, slam them down and split them right into the bowl or skillet. Usually gets a woman wet. :yes:
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Just to quote Anti Dump, I like this one,... "Real men are not available. They are climbing mountains. They are swimming across rivers. What are YOU doing? Making spagetti?!?!?! "
It's always good to have basic and some advanced knowledge of prepping, cooking, food, and wine, but like I said, I prefer my women do the cooking.
Charm&Style
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
KarmaSutra
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You're a fvcking fool. I suppose a woman being barefoot and pregnant is your idea of heaven?aussiegoat55 said:
You spout this rubbish and I'll bet it's because you can't boil water.
Watch Good Eats on Food Network and let Alton Brown become your best friend.
penkitten
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yes and it is because women know that if a man can cook for himself, he will not settle down with just any old broad that can throw together some hamburger helper. it means he never has to settle, because we were taught "the best way to a man's heart is thru his belly."Charm&Style said:
it means that you have to do everything to impress him, because it will not be your cooking.
i encourage all of you to learn to cook for yourselves before you choose someone to be in a ltr with. i am going to teach my sons before they leave home just as i will teach my daughter's how to maintain the most usual things in a house and car before they leave home. it is because i never want them to feel like they have to settle for the first person that comes along just because they don't know how to do something vital.
does that make any sense or am i rambling?
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"penkitten said:
amen:rockon:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Francisco d'Anconia
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Ummm, when I was dating in college I'd cooked dinners for my dates which was a mix of marked down strip steaks, frozen mixed vegetables and Ramen noodles. For under $5 I was able to prepare a dinner for two (sometimes with leftovers for the next day). The coeds thought I was fvcking Emeril!Prof said:
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Whoa, don't get your apron all in a bunch. I bet you're getting defensive because you don't know how to tie knots, row a raft down grade 10 rapids, or climb a mountain. Yeah, lets make assumptions! In my world, women would be pregnant,... and yours? Men would?KarmaSutra said:
When you come home from a long day of manual labor, lifting 10 ft EMT electrical conduit weighing approx. 100 lbs, do you have any idea what's the first thing you want to do when you get home? (I don't expect you to.) You want something to eat, then you relax, and then crash. You don't have the patience, time, and energy to prepare mango chutney, steak, and grilled asparugus. This is where your gf/wife comes in, she prepares something just for you. This is also where you appreciate being cooked for, where you feel like a king. Women in America view cooking as a chore, but in other countries it's viewed as expressing love towards another. What's another difference between America and other countries? The rise of feminism. Read this article, it's long, but it's spot on...http://russianwomen.wordpress.com/2006/11/07/dont-american-women-cook/. Also refer to the sosuave thread about how the guy became an optimist in the Philippines.
I'm not bashing men that know how to cook, I believe it's a valuable skill, especially during college, bachelorhood, and when your gf/wife is away. It makes you a more worldy, cultured, and interesting person. Emeril, Wolfgang, those guys are cool, they've found their passion.
However, it's when guys demasculinize themselves by wandering down the metrosexual path all in the name of impressing their girl, pleasing her, having ulterior motives, cooking for her every time she comes over, etc. Cook for her all the time and boy, she'll get used to that, take you for granted.
So by impressing your dates, girlfriends, and women with your cooking ability, you may be getting them all wet, maybe that's because they don't know how to cook, a huge burden lifted off their back. And them not knowing how to cook is a great example of the surge of feminism, the very reason websites like this were created. So keep fanning the flames.
Serialized3
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Sure, it's slightly "attractive", but it's not gonna get you any closer to a relationship or sex.
edit: I'm no sous chef but I can put some quality meals together.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.