escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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why do girls think it's creepy to cold approach them and ask for their number? I really don't understand this.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Only when you're ugly.escaleraroyal said:why do girls think it's creepy to cold approach them and ask for their number?
It's how you approach that makes it creepy. You don't ask for the number before talking to her. It must be very non-chalant like it's a part of the conversation.escaleraroyal said:why do girls think it's creepy to cold approach them and ask for their number? I really don't understand this.
Dont be so mean LOLvatoloco said:Only when you're ugly.
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some times girls are intimidated by average joes with so much confidence , they can only explain it by him being weird. if you dressed liek a goth dude , no mater what your gonnabe creepy , to all but goth girlsIn2theGame said:Dont be so mean LOL
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
No, I'm serious. Nowadays, if you cold approach girls who don't dig you (i.e., they don't find you physically attractive, you are "ugly" to them) you will be labeled a "creeper," etc. Do you think they'd label a high-status, physically-attractive male (like Clooney or Pitt) a creeper for cold approaching them? *shakes Magic 8-Ball* "My sources say no."In2theGame said:Dont be so mean LOLvatoloco said:Only when you're ugly.![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.