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I'm an introvert myself and always found it hard to show high social value when I'm in a mixed group of girls and guys. During such situations, the extroverted alpha guys are the ones doing and leading the convo, and I'm sure those of you introverts here can agree on this. What happens is that...

tks for the wealth of golden advice here, i learnt so much today. i'll check out the book by debra :) yes, i do encounter situations like this where in a group convo (informal between friends), one person (usually the ALPHA MALE, holds the most respect among all) would keep on talking and...

Hi all, I seem to have this issue all my life but only got about to trying to fix it recently. In group conversations, usually the talking pattern will be one person talking, the rest listening and occasionally contributing here and there. My problem is : when the person talking has paused...

Ok, so I'm part of the local community group that hosts events for tourists visiting my area. Its a nonprofit, volunteery kind of organization. You just volunteer your time when you're free, no salary whatever. Now, we have this monthly "meeting" for organizers, where we sit and have dinner...

Tks! 1) how long did it take for those fobs to be comfortable with u? 2) do u feel like u're at a serious disadvantage against her fob male friends? they can speak her language n relate much better than u, while we've to put in x50 effort to perhaps get somewhere close to that level. 3)...

any reason for this?

There's this girl I can't figure out. She's about 8.5+ out of 10. Think Blake Lively at her prettiest + 2 points. Almost all pretty girls I've seen, they're almost always extroverted, love fun, hang around with lots of guys etc. And even if they're not loud, they'll always be in places where...

Hi all, I need some insight on this new company I just joined recently. Overally, everything about the company is perfect. I mean, really perfect. Except for one really disturbing issue : the office is too quiet. You guys ever been to libraries? Especially the most deserted area in the...

Tks for all the advice! Such valuable and encouraging insight! I'll step up my moves then. In any case, Valentine's Day is coming, so I guess it's gonna be easy to see the answer for myself soon enough if she really has a boyfriend. ;)

Ok, so I met this chick recently at a closed-social-circle sort of social setting (ie: language class, dance class sort of settings where everyone knows everyone unlike the pub/club scene). So far, the vibes are good, but then overall, I think she's always giving positive vibes to people in...

Recently, I noticed something (albeit a bit late) that I believe most guys here are aware. Why is it that in any given social setting, older women (approx 35 and above) seem to be more friendly and open to conversations? I mean, you don't even have to use any DJing whatever, you can just talk...

Tks guys, great to see there's others who have experienced this positive personality change before. And yes, Atom's post is epic! :up: Learnt a lot from all these posts here! THIS. No wonder some of the lower-energy people I know tend to distance themselves after my personality gradually...

Tks for the input, guys. Yeah, I notice the smile really has a positive effect on girls so far. When you smile at them when you say hi (of course, not every single second), their eyes lit up and their faces beam, compared to my previous behavior where I would keep my face stern and unflinching...

Hi all, Earlier this year when I started working on myself, attending dance classes often, reading self-help books, befriending positive fun people, staying away from put-downers etc, I've become a lot more lively, cheerful and happy nowadays. However, externally, this kind of energy...

Man, THIS. I need to frame this holy quote up in my room for good. Blow it into a A0+ size typography poster. Most epic **** I've ever read in a long long time! :rockon:

Hi guys, How do you guys let girls know that you've interesting exciting hobbies / life and not just a boring average guy? Like, how do you insert those topics into the convo naturally without sounding like a show-off? Tips? I realized that humans being humans, we tend to be more judgmental...

Hi all, Is it true that when a girl looks at you first, or establish eye contact with you first, it generally means they're either ready for you to approach them or they're ready to talk with you? Recent cases in mind: in a social setting like a cooking class, or a dance class where...

Tks guys! It's good to know there's others who've faced the same issue. Guess I just have to suck it up and be positive! ;) Tks!

Hi all, There's this problem that has bugged me for some time which I just brushed off in the past: the baby face issue ( http://www.buzzfeed.com/robynwilder/problems-anyone-with-a-baby-face-will-relate-to#38fse8e ) I got told recently by some new people I met that I look 10+ years younger...

Tks guys! @3agle 3yes : Actually, the main reason I don't go to pubs / bars / clubs is because I don't drink (alcohol) due to health-conscious reasons. Of course you can take non-alcoholic drinks, but it just makes one look like a sissy which is why I rather avoid those places LOL