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  1. Herb

    How do regular dudes who aren't manly in the SoSuave/DonJuan fashion maintain relationships?

    Let's be real the vast majority of men out there are not players or slayers or red pillers, and most are not even aware of this kind of material on sites like this, and even if they are they often blatantly reject it. I see a lot of average or even relatively feminine men who still manage to...
  2. Herb

    How is this for advice if gf is ignoring you?

    https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Your-Girlfriend-Ignoring-You
  3. Herb

    Been seeing a girl for a few months but no actual sex

    So I've been dating a girl for a little while now, like almost three months. Actually I initially saw her a few weeks, followed by a weird sort of hiatus for a few weeks cause she "needed space", and then she randomly reinitiated again out of nowhere, and we've been seeing each other since...
  4. Herb

    Going on on a date when sort of sick?

    What do you guys think about going on a date with a girl when you're kind of sick with a cold but not noticeably? Like you feel like you're about to be coming on with one and it will probably come out full force the next day, or say you're at the tail end of it but still getting over it and in...
  5. Herb

    Girls who are more into you when they're drunk

    I've had a friend who I've had an odd, interesting relationship with over the last 6 months or so. When I first met her I wasn't really interested in her as a mate much at all, and I was kinda seeing her friend casually at the time, until it didn't work out with her anymore, and then it got...
  6. Herb

    What is better in initial interactions: comfort or tension?

    Many people say that if you "click" with a girl and you spend hours talking when you meet or have a first date, and are very comfortable with each other, you have it in the bag. But the more I think about it, I don't know if that's true, at least to that extent. If they become too comfortable...
  7. Herb

    did i screw up

    So i went to a friend's bday party last night, and one of her friends who was there was a girl I went out on two dates with like 3 months ago, and it didn't end up working out with her. But this time, since I wasn't paying too much attention to her and talking to a bunch of other girls and...
  8. Herb

    How do un-manly men get women?

    Even though guides like the ones on this site and various other dating/women advice products tell you to behave a certain way, why is it that you still say many guys who blatantly violate all these rules and guidelines and still manage to have attractive girlfriends? Like I know guys who are...
  9. Herb

    Getting out of friend-zone you intentionally put yourself in

    So I met a girl about a month and a half ago or so at a reception. At the end of our talk, when it's often customary to exchange business cards, she said she didn't have one but gave me her number. I also became friends with a few of her acquaintances, and we went exploring the city as a group...
  10. Herb

    Slipping a girl your number

    What do you guys think about giving a girl your number? I've heard this works sometimes. Last night I was hanging with an old friend (who I briefly dated but was never really into and we just became friends, and have been for two years), and she had her friend with her too, who I had met before...
  11. Herb

    Interested women will help/facilitate you setting up a date, right?

    By this I mean, if a girl is really interested, she will enable you to effectively make a date as opposed to making it hard for you to do it; she'll give you when she's free if you ask and give you alternatives or otherwise let you know in some way that she is for it, without outright saying it...
  12. Herb

    Where do guys make approaches on girls?

    Do you ever see guys making approaches anymore? I feel like in almost every bar or club setting these days, at least where I'm at, and even most parties, everyone already seems to know the people they're with and came there with them. I try to pay close attention to my surroundings. Maybe I'm...
  13. Herb

    How to handle virgins/religious girls?

    I'll try to spare y'all the usual overly long intro and stick to pertinent info; I'll just say there's a girl I've gotten to know who I think is really cute, but she's still technically a virgin (she's almost 23 now), because she was raised in this goody-goody Irish Catholic way, and still...
  14. Herb

    Do the majority of girls think they're hot regardless of reality?

    I was just curious about others opinions and experiences with this. It doesn't really have to do with any current situation in my life. I just noticed a lot of girls are unrealistic about where they stand, like if you approach a more average girl at a bar, they can actually be more testy and...
  15. Herb

    Lack of "connection" after some dates?

    So I've refined my conversational skills for dates a lot since I began, especially over the last six months to a year, where I now pay attention to the little things. Gone are the times of awkward pauses or silences, running out of things to say, blatant social faux pas, visible nervousness and...
  16. Herb

    What to do if a girl has to go on a trip or something before she can meet up?

    I've always had trouble when trying to set up dates with girls in situations where the timing is just unfortunately not quite right. We hit it off in our initial interaction quite well (whether it be in person or by text) and she seems very enthusiastic to meet up. Only problem is, she has, say...
  17. Herb

    Dealing with younger girls and testing/challenging

    I guess I am technically in the "Mature Man" category, at least age-wise, but just barely. I had a date with this 22 year old last night that started off very well but then devolved into a weird experience, especially due to the way she started testing me. The reason being that she was one of...
  18. Herb

    Bad "wingman" experience

    Not that there's much I can do about it at this point, but I feel like venting about this ****block experience I've had recently, and am hoping people have tips about ways to avoid a similar experience in the future. This weekend, I was going out to a cool club and was having a great time, just...
  19. Herb

    When to apologize or clarify things?

    Let's face it, realistically speaking, at some point, especially for guys that are not quite the smooth Don Juans they aspire to be with women yet, they're going to make some mistakes in handling a girl, either by teasing or negging the wrong way or just saying something dumb or odd...
  20. Herb

    Deferring Sex?

    So last Wednesday I went to an electronic concert at a major venue in my city, despite having work early in the morning the next day, since I was dragged by a friend last minute and it was actually an artist I really liked and wanted to see. When we got there we sort of split up, with him going...
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