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  1. jimjam

    No text back

    No text back? Who cares? Do your own thing and find someone else. If that one doesn't text back----NEXT! Who cares?
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Day 13t Tuesday Good day. No desire to talk to or text or even see her. Fact, I could feel a shift in my thinking in regards to her. Whereas before I would be concerned with what she might be doing, who she was with,, etc---now I really don't care so long as she just stays away from me. Was...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Monday Day 12 Today was a breeze. Was actually removing her from my mind. I was glad to be moving away from her. Looking forward to moving on, meeting new people and simply operating without her. Did not have the desire to call or text and I quickly changed my thoughts whenever she entered my...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Sunday Day 11 Spent a lot of time this weekend at sporting events concerning my son. Of course, she was there, cheery as can be. I wouldn't even look at her. I only answered her in monosyllabic responses whenever she asked me anything. She texted me once too but I never answered. We have a...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Day 8 Thursday Skipped yesterday. Had to attend an event that involved our son. Course she was there. I just wnt her out of my life. I hate the fact that I have to see her. I understand that this is a part of my life. She is his mom, after all. What I really want is to get to the place where...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Day 6 Tuesday Not a bad day as far as getting over her and closer to myself;lf goes. Easy...cuz I didn't have to see her. Felt great...free and easy. Happy-go-lucky. Which is where I want to be. The trick is maintaining this attitude all the time. Like I said before, things would be easy if...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    You're right, of course. I've often that that searching for a reason will continually lead you back to the problem. Circuitous thinking. I'm trying to NOT think about it. Like you say, it happened, move on. That is exactly where I want to go. Tough when I see her a couple of times a week...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Day 5 Monday Kind of sucked because I had to attend an e vent for my son and she and her parents were also there. My parents were there as well. It sucks because any resolve I may have built up just erodes whoever I see her. It's as though birds start chirping. Not only that, she was being...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Alright. Sunday Day 4. Not much today. Worked out and worked on a car. She has not contacted me nor I her. Still thinking of her, though. Trying to keep busy
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Day 3 Saturday. Well, I kept busy throughout the day but thoughts of her kept invading my mind. Sucks. I'm like, get the fvck outta here. Her bday is next week and her, our son and her mom went somewhere this weekend. Some event. I thought she would've texted me pictures of our son but she...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Day 2: Friday. Some of the old good time feelings creep up today. Still not going to contact or reach out to her. The weekend will be tough for sure. But I'm working on my car tomorrow, probably another on Sunday, so there's that. I> can't help but think in the back of my mind that me radio...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Gents, first off, let me say that you all were RIGHT. OK. I should've listened to you all but I didn't. I got mixed up again with my possible NPD but most definitely cluster B ex. No point in going over the hole thing again. Suffice to say that I was told she'd dump me again. And she did. But...
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    Finally, finally get it

    HaHaHa. Too much, man. That"s exactly what mine did. Every time I called her out on her itrational and inexplicable behavior, she'd just stare at me with this confused expression. Dumbfounded. Worst of it is she has everyone close to me convincef she csn do no wrong. Convinced! I can't get...
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    Finally, finally get it

    Whatever it is, I'm just glad I'm free. Definitly tough, though. They have a way of crawling inside of you and attaching themselves. Its weird, scary. I'm just trying to stay limited contact. Can't go full on no contact cuz of our son. That and trying to determine what it is about me that...
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    Finally, finally get it

    My ex wife was BPD.....NEVER again
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    Finally, finally get it

    Thanks. In a way, it's almost sad to see somone like this. But i'm also grateful it happened. I learned a lot and I know that I can finally leave it all behind me. Feels good. Like finally paying off a years old, past due and high interest bill.
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    Finally, finally get it

    Hey everyone. Wanted to write that I finally understand the inherint danger of messing around with NPD women. Nothing heartbteaking happened to me and I'm not gonna rehash the whole saga. Some of you may remember. Suffice to say that I distanced myself emotionally and observed her actions...
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    BPD story. I made it.

    HaHaHaHa Sounds EXACTLY like my ex wife. Only exception is that she never told me she was incapable of conceiving until a year after the ceremony. Getting divorced was one of the best things that ever happened to me
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    Losing Wife

    Dude, my experience is that she didn't just decide to leave your marriage cuz of your illness. Bet she's been thinking about it for a while and this is just the last straw. Even so, it's still a sh1tty way to do things. But....tnat's women for you. Other posters are correct. You are in the...
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    The ugly truth. Whats next?

    Dude.... You are waaaaayyyyy overthinking this. Way overthinking. That'll ruin you every time. I've been realising that any question you may have wth a woman can be answered wirh who cares. Who cares? Meaning, any woman that"s interested in you will go out of her way to make it known to you...
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