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You may be a natural introvert (which is different from being shy). You just have to run the "low-level energy" game rather than the "high-level" one: http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2013/10/23/the-sexiness-of-shallow-communication/

You are being far too reticent. Facebook? No.

Are you pursuing other women? No contact due to oneitis is not merely resisting the urge to call her. It is getting back into the mindset that you have options, and maximizing them.

My working theory is that "Nice Guys" tend to gravitate toward BPD chicks, and vice-versa. It is a symbiotic relationship between the broken woman who is never satisfied and the guy who will bend over backwards to pedestalize the woman, fix/rescue her, and try to please her. He will never be...

I think I'd break her.

Cosign on what Tomthebomb said.

The red flag for me would be: if she is so hot, and virginal, why isn't she married already? Either she has a good degree of personality defect, or she has unrealistic expectations for a husband. Also possible: she believes in "the one" hat Jesus will gift wrap and hand-deliver himself, and...

You missed an all-too-common chance to be miserable.

Nice troll.

Obviously, yes. Don't let her control you like that. How is she "taking your phone"? You are letting her have your phone. I would stop that if I were you.

Do you have a lawyer? Don't give her anything or even respond to her until you consult with one. Seriously, man.

What other plates are you spinning? If you are not going out with her, who are you going out with instead?

If she is as hot as you said, you have to run some extremely tight game. Don't let up on your frame. Not even an inch. "****y and funny" and "outcome independent" should be in the front of your brain. Don't let a single thing she does rattle you, and you just may have a chance with this chick.

You should date others. It isn't about control. It is about creating attraction through preselection and not developing oneitis.

You are spinning other plates, right?

Who else are you dating?

You don't want a RELATIONSHIP with this chick, do you? If you can manage to give her just enough attention to string her along in hopes of more (what I call an "IV drip" level), you may get the chance to bang her. That's all you'd ever really want from a chick like this, though.

Number one priority for you and your wingman: isolate her from the friend. Isolate, then escalate. If you fail at the former, you will almost certainly not get the opportunity for the latter.

I have been in that situation with an unresponsive chick giving off the vibe so weird that I didn't pursue it. The weird part for you was that she was there in the bed (signaling that she is DTF) but your overtures at escalating were being met with indifference, not interest nor rejection. My...

Yeah. I have been in an almost-four-year relationship myself. It's not and never will be unconditional.