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I needed to read this, thanks Dgwizdal Been to the dark side and coming back Note: You can never "attain" enlightenment. It must be fought for and won on every single day that you exist.

No. Here's why. Let's say you initiate one time and let's say she says "no I already have plans". You respond "no worries" and leave it at that. Eventually the little timer in her head will go off with you not having contacted her for a while and she will relieve the anxiety that this causes...

Yes.

We have a limited amount of energy that we can spend on various things. The amount of attention that a guy gives a girl is a close proxy for the amount of energy he can spend helping her with the physical things that she needs. The more energy a girl can get from guys around her, the more of her...

Who gives a sh!t? It is what it is. Avoid her, build up social circles that don't involve her, and work on yourself until you get someone who is worthy of you. Eventually the bitterness will melt away and she will only remember the good times. P.S. Here is the technical answer to your...

I agree. Just go out and fail repeatedly for a few years and your mind will learn how to do some amazing things just by itself as you unconsciously take on all the lessons you learn. Case in point: At a club on the weekend with two mates. One of them wanted me to open a table of 3 girls so he...

Yep. Before, during and after. It seems to be related to how emotionally wound up they are. Some are disconnected from the world because of various stuff that has happened so they use sex with a high-quality, emotionally mature and empathetic male to reconnect and unwind some of their anxiety.

This is turning ridiculous. There is only one reliable predictor of interest whether in a mono, poly, boundaries, no boundaries, long term, short term, long distance, short distance or whatever relationship. What she will do in bed. That's it. If she has sex whenever you want, wherever you...

Keep going out and getting the emotional sh!t kicked out of you until it no longer bothers you. In my experience it takes about a year of non-stop partying. Have fun mate!

Heh heh heh. I remember those days. Just after I broke up with my long term partner and fixed up my life I went balls out for a month. Started the month with zero plates and ended up with six, three of whom I was fvcking, and two of whom were only giving BJs. It was insane. I only really did it...

OOPS! My mistake and my apologies. Ignore the bit about abundance/scarcity mindset, or modify it to mean "additional plates" rather than "additional girlfriends". I think the bit on setting boundaries still stands. Since it is impossible to remember which posters favour which type of...

Danger, with all due respect, you are also missing the point. But I believe that I understand your thinking. You are mixing up the ability to set boundaries with the need to set boundaries. Beta: So afraid to lose his woman that he won't set boundaries. Monogamist "alpha": Is so afraid...

You're completely missing the point. The reason I have the lifestyle I have is to give MYSELF more options. Plus I WANT my girls to be fvcking other guys and using them for emotional crap I don't care about. This reduces the amount of time and energy I have to spend on any particular girl so...

The problem is that you are worried about keeping the relationship interesting for her when you should be focusing on yourself. Now if you're focused on yourself, the single best way to get the most out of a relationship is to assume that it could end at any time. To live completely in the...

I was the same as you but roles reversed. I was in my relationship only one month with a girl I really liked before embarking on a long planned holiday of almost a year. I think your mistake was to go exclusive so soon before her trip. The thing is that anything can happen in the space of four...

If you think you're seeing something then you probably are. Strike now. Assume attraction. Escalate. Isolate. Copulate. If she accepts your advances then you were right. If she doesn't then simply withdraw for a while then act like nothing happened and go back to being friends with her.

I've just gone and read this entire diatribe. Frankly you don't know what you're talking about. If a girl wants to cheat she will cheat. I have fvcked girls whose boyfriends were more "alpha" on paper than me i.e. better looking, socially superior, doesn't matter. I made out with a hot girl...

But then who is gonna look after my kid when I knock some girl up if she can't string a few betas along and make them think she likes them? Lest we forget that in the alpha/beta dichotomy espoused here the alpha is the one who provides the genes and the beta is the one who provides the money. If...

FWBs are just fvcking stupid and pull all this crap all the time. One day it's "your d!ck tastes yummy" the next day it's "I only think we should be friends". Hot, cold, absolutely retarded sh!t. I don't really know what to do about it other than spin plates and ignore them when they are being...

Heh heh heh. I have heard your girlfriend's words before. It's all in the cosmo manual mate. http://dontmarry.files.wordpress.com/2008/08/the_manipulated_man.pdf On the flipside, one of the greatest things I uncovered was that when I told a woman that I was an unemployed crazy drug addict it...