"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The type of girl you want?

The Duke

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This post isnt for the masses to debate what the best girl looks like or how she acts. What works for you might not work for me. It's pointless to debate, so please refrain.

This post is to ask the simple question....are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?

For me, yes I have a solid girl. She has a great mind, good looks, and is young. We get along very well. She definitely looks up to me.

I wasnt always capable of getting a girl with a solid mind and good looks, but these days my SMV is a lot higher so it makes it easier to get the total package.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What you're essentially describing is finding a unicorn
Or levelling up so that a unicorn finds you

Basically this:


(adapt for this decade and don't pay too much attention to exact numbers and figures)

There is abundance, in which poosy is plentiful enough that you don't really give a sht whether or how long it takes for a plate to break
Abundance is good.

This is not about abundance
This is about poesy that you DO give a sht about

not because she's such an amazing lay (but doesn’t hurt, you will probably have your best non-crazy sex with her. Yes that's quite the disclaimer)
But because she spurs you on in bettering yourself
Supporting your "mission"
Per antidump, her nature will not be apparent until after months of vetting

the one in a million (or even 1/1000) girl.
 
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How did you ride your SMV Duke to get the younger lady? And what’s the age gap.

Serious question.
Edit; how old are you btw . Profile doesn’t say.
 

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After sleeping with more than 200 and been on perhaps hunderds of dates Ive accepted that basically every woman has some flaws.

I've learned that a loyal woman will also be jealous and a tad insecure. But it still the best way to go...

I need a pretty face, azz ( t1ts dknt matter that much to me) and a feminine character. No need for ambitious career women. I want a woman - woman..
 

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I have my own list of what an ideal girl should be like, but I certainly can’t say that every single box gets checked.
We all have to settle for what we can find in a particular place and at a particular point in our lives.
The best available.
But it will never be "the ideal."
It’s just the best you’ve managed to find.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What you're essentially describing is finding a unicorn
Or levelling up so that a unicorn finds you

Basically this:


(adapt for this decade and don't pay too much attention to exact numbers and figures)

There is abundance, in which poosy is plentiful enough that you don't really give a sht whether or how long it takes for a plate to break
Abundance is good.

This is not about abundance
This is about poesy that you DO give a sht about

not because she's such an amazing lay (but doesn’t hurt, you will probably have your best non-crazy sex with her. Yes that's quite the disclaimer)
But because she spurs you on in bettering yourself
Supporting your "mission"
Per antidump, her nature will not be apparent until after months of vetting

the one in a million (or even 1/1000) girl.
I had to like this because I love that you quoted Anti-Dump. One of the best posters of all time.
 

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To stay more focused on the topic:

Are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?


How did you ride your SMV Duke to get the younger lady? And what’s the age gap.

Serious question.
Edit; how old are you btw . Profile doesn’t say.
Close to 50, we have about 20 years between us. My looks were the initial attractor. My ability to dance got things going. How I made her feel in my presence sealed the deal(her words, not mine). I didn't care what we ended up being.
 

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To stay more focused on the topic:

Are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?



Close to 50, we have about 20 years between us. My looks were the initial attractor. My ability to dance got things going. How I made her feel in my presence sealed the deal(her words, not mine). I didn't care what we ended up being.
My 1000% perfect world- Gamisch- king of the universe- Genghis Khan -preference is with Arabic looking women, big booty curly hair ,petite...

Now im seeing a mixed Indian/ white woman with beautiful eyes and some azz. Beautiful woman but kinda crazy. Really sweet though..but crazy and emotional as feck LOL. She simply refuses to let me go!!

I like Persian type women BUT they're extremely materialistic. Being an afro Latin man thats an uphill battle ...

Generally speaking I tend to be attracted to literally all kinds of women. Blonde ,redhead brunette, Latina, Arabic, black , Asian...

Women are simply the most beautiful thing God created..and as @Divorced w 3 said, they ALWAYS come with some baggage . Always..

One colleague said me his dad told him ; " all women are crazy, so just pick one and ride it out " . Old school bluepill mindset, but I do like that qoute..

Personality is a dangerous one...I've learned that bubbly women always have a dark side to them. They simply know how to sell themselves and leverage their initial attractiveness perfectly. As DW3 said omcd you REALLY get to know them its downhill from there.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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To stay more focused on the topic:

Are you with the type of girl you want looks and personality wise? If you arent, then are you capable of achieving that given time and commitment to pursuing such? Why not? What's holding you back?



Close to 50, we have about 20 years between us. My looks were the initial attractor. My ability to dance got things going. How I made her feel in my presence sealed the deal(her words, not mine). I didn't care what we ended up being.
thanks.

In line with the topic.
-No I am not .

Why not?
-my current face and height I would say.
But also my status and money :)

And I capable /What’s holding me back?
- my standards are possibly too high
-Father Time mainly.

But I could do with some gym also tbh…looking into that atm.
 
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@The Duke

interesting that you say ‘My looks were the initial attractor’.

very interesting indeed! :) :D
you haven’t mentioned your status or money either.
Do you have those also … serious question
 

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I wasnt always capable of getting a girl with a solid mind and good looks, but these days my SMV is a lot higher so it makes it easier to get the total package.
Are you looking to trade up?
 

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I learned that my frame is as effective as the French WW2 defense against certain types of women so no I am not. I did have to make some sacrifices, but my frame is and continues to be strong. Men need to realize that some women are for pleasure and others are for who you keep around. Women do the same crap too on us.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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