"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Abundance

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I finally did it. I feel abundance, that was the whole issue. When you finally realize women are little children and you understand the dynamics fully you become detached.

now after so many years training myself I fully feel abundance, its such a free and relaxed feeling. I came back to say that.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You joined this forum around the time I did and I've followed your saga through the years. I'm happy you finally get it (assuming you actually do), it sucks to do this blind. Many times you have denied experienced members pretty much screaming at how you're making mistakes and you didn't listen/understand. I hope you have finally found your way.
 

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No offense to @OP but consider this:

This idea of "finally figuring it out" is very often a cope.

1) You try to engage successfully with women and keep coming up short.

2) You come to the "conclusion" that you are "above" the game for whatever reason.

3) The "reason" you come up with varies, but it's often a negative label you give to those who won't give you what you want. (e.g. women are children, I finally understand it now, etc.)

4) You now glow in your newfound "awareness' or "realization" or "red pill truth."

So, how do you know whether this is a legit leveling up of your understanding of the world or just a cope?

In this case, if an outside observer would notice you are much, much more successful with women, then it's legit.

But if you need to explain this to people, because it's more of an "attitude" then it's a cope rather than a realization.

This is the basic structure of Aesop's "sour grapes," which is as old as time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No offense to @OP but consider this:

This idea of "finally figuring it out" is very often a cope.

1) You try to engage successfully with women and keep coming up short.

2) You come to the "conclusion" that you are "above" the game for whatever reason.

3) The "reason" you come up with varies, but it's often a negative label you give to those who won't give you what you want. (e.g. women are children, I finally understand it now, etc.)

4) You now glow in your newfound "awareness' or "realization" or "red pill truth."

So, how do you know whether this is a legit leveling up of your understanding of the world or just a cope?

In this case, if an outside observer would notice you are much, much more successful with women, then it's legit.

But if you need to explain this to people, because it's more of an "attitude" then it's a cope rather than a realization.

This is the basic structure of Aesop's "sour grapes," which is as old as time.
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That is a good and smart post. Well what I mean that I know understand that its a mindgame you always have to have a rock solid frame. I know when you lost and I also know that you have to raise interest and see what she does after instead of chasing. Let her text, just you have a dont give a **** attitude more then her basically.

I raised my smv so strong, great body, car, that my ego is in the way but that would never be possible if I settled a long time a go. So im happy.

Abundance is more that you finally really take the red pill and know that women are little children that push buttons, play and need to be put on their place to respect your boundaries. And you show her by withdrawing attention and punish her for bad behavior with withdrawing attention! You have to be in shape and happy about yourself to attract new girls whenever wherever so you can maintain this energy.

I can go on and on to explain. But you know. I also know when to cut my losses know and hold my pride instead of chasing when its already broken what I used to do.
 

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I would like some insights if you don't mind.
When I get signs shes playing with me or disrespecting me I just quit. Quit earlier.

Women punish weak men. You can be nice and good but ruthless when it comes to protecting your manhood and character. I used to want to win in business and be the boss and saw women as entertainment, to ease stress and have fun with and take ****ty behavior from them sometimes to Fvck. I used to get my feelings in with hé women too much and give them too much energy, attention, love.

now, i safe it up until she revealed shes worth it. Test her instead, see if she stays in your présence in the bar for a long time, see if she makes eye contact with other men, see if what time frame she replies to your tests, see of shes availble for you. And check her if shes late, also they fvck around you can not trust a women if your not a real man. They do fvck other men even when your 25 meters away they could do it. They are not trustworthy my friend. Ive seen it happen over and over and over

they go for as much as they can get away with without consequenses. Until they feel rock solid boundaries not with talk but with Action. Thats the main realisation I made! If she does stuff while knowing she could lose you, YOU ALREADY LOST.
 
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