"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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All you have to be to get in the top 30% of each gender is to be a Healthy Weight & Average looking face. But that 30% woman doesn't want a 30% man.

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MatureDJ

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Bro, think of the mathematical fallacy you're saying. Even if the top 30% of women only want the top 10% of men, there aren't enough men for all of them. Only one-third will suceed.
These chicks will succeed 1/3 of the time. :rolleyes: They will make rules for the 90%Cels, but break those rules with the 10%. :mad:

I really think the meme of men no longer being interested in women is simply that they are tired of having to hew to a ruleset that Chads don't have to.
 

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I really think the meme of men no longer being interested in women is simply that they are tired of having to hew to a ruleset that Chads don't have to.
It's more the issue that most women are now obese and tattooed imo.
 

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For a healthy-weight, average looking man, the practical reality is:

Stay fit.
Dress well.
Be socially competent.
Have a stable life.
Meet people in real life, not only on apps.

That doesn't guarantee a model level partner, but it puts someone in a much stronger position than obsessing over whether they're in the 25th, 30th, or 40th percentile.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Cheeky_James

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you just gotta looksmaxx man , as much as possible. Face, fashion and body.

I would go so far as to say, spend most of your disposable income on this - only wear designer clothes and nice suits if you can afford it.

maybe consider tattoos also. Because this is what is trending for attraction.

And you are older - stop looking at data for younger age brackets. Look at the dating landscape for YOUR age bracket.

Godspeed brother.
 

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you just gotta looksmaxx man , as much as possible. Face, fashion and body.

I would go so far as to say, spend most of your disposable income on this - only wear designer clothes and nice suits if you can afford it.

maybe consider tattoos also. Because this is what is trending for attraction.

And you are older - stop looking at data for younger age brackets. Look at the dating landscape for YOUR age bracket.

Godspeed brother.
First step bro for you is stopping drinking most nights.
 

zekko

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Think about it..... 70% of men and women are overweight or obese in the USA (similar in UK), so no higher than a 4/10. So just being a healthy weight, somewhat slim/fit and having an average face gets you in the top 30%, perhaps even top 25% because there's always guys and gals who are of healthy BMI's but have butt-ugly faces.
I'm always interested in hearing these percentages, at least you give some reason behind your statement. I did a quick check on Google AI, and it said 75% men were overweight in the US. I didn't realize things were that grim here in the West.

I remember Coach Corey Wayne used to talk about the 3% man, basically I think he said all you had to do was follow his system and you'd be in that top 3% Rich Cooper, who wrote "The Unplugged Alpha", talks about the top 1% or 5% - follow his advice and you're basically a 1% or 5% man already because so many guys are Betas or plugged in or whatever.

Somehow I get the feeling most of that misses the point, but whatever.
 
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