"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why Are Men Losing Sexual Desire?

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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also stress from work

Tech jobs, despite being well paid, they also come with a lot of stress and makes you extremely logical ( towards autism ) which makes you brain need more relax time

the human brain is not built for 9-5 jobs + dealing with complex and abstract stuff all the time

I was working as a data engineer at some point, and my sex drive and social skills went down the toilet while I had this tech job despite being in my late 20s
Super relevant and underrated comment. It might be a good job financially speaking (I also did it), whole days of sitting inside stressing over abstract stuff in your head (and dealing with office politics at the same time) do not make it a good job physically and spiritually speaking. That's why I quit such a job (still do it for my own business, so I make my own agenda) and now work my body with manual labor as a side job.

P.S. Pick a side job carefully! Exhausting your body with manual labor might be just as bad. Walking around, carrying not too heavy stuff and twisting your body in all kinds of angles keeps the body and mind fresh. Only when you have balance, you feel your natural horniness come back.
 

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Until you fantasize about the middle aged woman at work bending her over the desk and ****ing her during after office hours. Or even during office hours with the office door closed. I lift weights, so my mind wanders everyday.
Was with you until you said "middle aged woman"
 

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At some point you will lose interest in having s*x with a woman you are seeing. The hotter the woman, the more amazing the s*x and the less frequently you see her, the longer this will take. But it’s inevitable; there are no exceptions.

And when this happens the desire to experience a new or a different woman will be much greater than the desire for your current one.

Why do you think Leonardo De Caprio looks bored most of the time despite his ability to pull more women than the average guy? Even he experiences this.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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At some point you will lose interest in having s*x with a woman you are seeing. The hotter the woman, the more amazing the s*x and the less frequently you see her, the longer this will take. But it’s inevitable; there are no exceptions.

And when this happens the desire to experience a new or a different woman will be much greater than the desire for your current one.

Why do you think Leonardo De Caprio looks bored most of the time despite his ability to pull more women than the average guy? Even he experiences this.
I’ve always felt that Leo’s dumping of his girlfriends once they reached 25 was subconscious to a degree. Once they lost their youth he just naturally lost attraction and moved on. An average guy will lose attraction, but it’s difficult for him to attract a younger woman, so he stays.
 

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I’ve always felt that Leo’s dumping of his girlfriends once they reached 25 was subconscious to a degree. Once they lost their youth he just naturally lost attraction and moved on. An average guy will lose attraction, but it’s difficult for him to attract a younger woman, so he stays.
Leo is addicted to getting any woman he wants. He's living the dream, and I'd say he could die happy.

The one thing he lacks is a child to carry his legacy and that's the part he will come to terms with.
 

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For me the two biggest variables have been the amount of stress in my life and my level of physical fitness. Even in my 50s living a stress free life and being in good shape has resulted in a strong libido. During my 30s or 40s I was much more stressed with work or relationship issues, not to mention being overweight, and I had so little libido I thought I was impotent. Obviously there can be other reasons for folks but those have been the two that have impacted me most.
 

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In my 20's I used to be able to get off to any woman. In my 30's she had to be semi attractive. In my 40's she HAS to be attractive.

I wouldn't say I "lost" my sex. It's more like it took me into my 40's for my sex drive to stabilize because I no longer have raging hormones.

Guys don't start off with a 100% sex drive. They start off with a 500% sex drive that gradually goes to 100% as they mature in age.

The biggest misconception is that teenage guys have the perfect sex drives. It's literally uncontrollable and makes you think with your penis and do dumb/risky things. Some guys would like through their teeth and promise a girl the world just to hit it and quit it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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In my 20's I used to be able to get off to any woman. In my 30's she had to be semi attractive. In my 40's she HAS to be attractive.

I wouldn't say I "lost" my sex. It's more like it took me into my 40's for my sex drive to stabilize because I no longer have raging hormones.

Guys don't start off with a 100% sex drive. They start off with a 500% sex drive that gradually goes to 100% as they mature in age.

The biggest misconception is that teenage guys have the perfect sex drives. It's literally uncontrollable and makes you think with your penis and do dumb/risky things. Some guys would like through their teeth and promise a girl the world just to hit it and quit it.
Yes, I have noticed the women has to be more attractive in order for me to maintain an erection. When I was 25 I had sex with a woman who was nearly 300lbs. Don’t know if that would work out at 39.
 

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Men will always desire sex , the problem is they lose desire for it with the same person

We were never built to be in 20,30,40 year relationships with one woman its a social construct designed by Churches and governments

You put a young chick in lingerie in her 20's in front of any man and given half the chance he will fvck her senseless
 
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