HaleyBaron
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Instagram DM is a waste of time. Don't do it. Keep it brief just like any texting.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Instagram dm game advice
- Thread starter steeringclear
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
crowolf
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Roll off for a bit. A day or two. And if she doesn't initiate back, you ping for once (preferably voice note, a meme or something), and then after she responds, straight up offer to meet. Whether it's coffee or the pilates thing.
I would probably go for a regular date, because otherwise you are too much in her frame. Unless you are genuinely curious to try that stuff. Then go try it but don't hit on her too much. And don't be a nice friendly guy too. Just spike and challenge. While being cool, calm & collected.
You got this!
I would probably go for a regular date, because otherwise you are too much in her frame. Unless you are genuinely curious to try that stuff. Then go try it but don't hit on her too much. And don't be a nice friendly guy too. Just spike and challenge. While being cool, calm & collected.
You got this!
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BackInTheGame78
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Nothing is happening with this girl, IMO.
Also Pilates are pretty amazing for people who lift heavy for a long time because it causes the muscles to shorten and limits the range of motion, so Pilates helps to stretch the muscles back out, increasing the range of motion and promote size and strength gains.
FYI.
Also Pilates are pretty amazing for people who lift heavy for a long time because it causes the muscles to shorten and limits the range of motion, so Pilates helps to stretch the muscles back out, increasing the range of motion and promote size and strength gains.
FYI.
BackInTheGame78
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Oh I agree, I'm just disagreeing with OP thinking he has her in the bag.
steeringclear
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I’ve recovered and dealt with much worse to know that this can be recovered if I do it right. I can continue the path I know and make it a longer path to success or ask if anyone on here knows a shorter path to success.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
BackInTheGame78
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Stop wasting time with disinterested women and find interested ones.
Bokanovsky
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Yes, there is an interest alright. An interest in selling him a ticket.
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But you're not doing it right. You're starting to sound like you have oneitis. Your way to success at this point is literally just leaving her alone. You've already told this woman that you have no redeeming physical attributes, while casting jealous shade on the fact that she gave a personal lesson to other men. I would just step away from the DM.
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