HaleyBaron
Master Don Juan
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Instagram DM is a waste of time. Don't do it. Keep it brief just like any texting.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Oh I agree, I'm just disagreeing with OP thinking he has her in the bag.Better to maximize the likelihood of a yes and shooting your shot, than not shooting your shot because the likelihood of success is low
at the end of the day is a numbers game, and a good proportion of the time is not because of you
what we can do is to improve the likelihood of a yes as much as it is up to us
I think the most painful things are when the vibe is good but she is dodging meeting with you, or when she meets with you things are electric and then you never manage to see her again or starts playing games
I’ve recovered and dealt with much worse to know that this can be recovered if I do it right. I can continue the path I know and make it a longer path to success or ask if anyone on here knows a shorter path to success.Oh I agree, I'm just disagreeing with OP thinking he has her in the bag.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Stop wasting time with disinterested women and find interested ones.I’ve recovered and dealt with much worse to know that this can be recovered if I do it right. I can continue the path I know and make it a longer path to success or ask if anyone on here knows a shorter path to success.
Yes, there is an interest alright. An interest in selling him a ticket.There is interest as she's playing along " would be fun to torture you in a class " isn't being polite it's investing in the conversation its not something you would say in small talk lol
OP's responses were poor and the chick knows she holds all the cards that is the problem theres zero tension or flirting
But you're not doing it right. You're starting to sound like you have oneitis. Your way to success at this point is literally just leaving her alone. You've already told this woman that you have no redeeming physical attributes, while casting jealous shade on the fact that she gave a personal lesson to other men. I would just step away from the DM.I’ve recovered and dealt with much worse to know that this can be recovered if I do it right. I can continue the path I know and make it a longer path to success or ask if anyone on here knows a shorter path to success.