"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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First time dating a foreign

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Got matched on fb dating, i invited her to fish and hike and thats nextweek friday. im filipino - cebuano to be exact. This is a big progress boys and sir's
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm pretty sure in the UK these foreign girls (can be 3rd or 4th gen by now) get overlooked a lot, and get lumped into the "Muslim, no point trying".

Even those that aren't Muslim (plenty) don't like our ridiculous culture of excess drinking around everything. As a non drinker myself, not really enamoured with our "evening scene" any more they are a pleasant cohort although their looks are wildly binary. Attention off a sober white man is novel to them.

Good luck.
 

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I'm pretty sure in the UK these foreign girls (can be 3rd or 4th gen by now) get overlooked a lot, and get lumped into the "Muslim, no point trying".

Even those that aren't Muslim (plenty) don't like our ridiculous culture of excess drinking around everything. As a non drinker myself, not really enamoured with our "evening scene" any more they are a pleasant cohort although their looks are wildly binary. Attention off a sober white man is novel to them.

Good luck.
Muslim there and here in my country is very different (as what they told me) i think rejection is better than regret anyways
 

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Got matched on fb dating, i invited her to fish and hike and thats nextweek friday. im filipino - cebuano to be exact. This is a big progress boys and sir's
Let us know how it goes
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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