"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Smoking fetish - do you find women who smoke sexually attractive?

Guitar_Whizz

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I don't smoke but I've always been quite attracted to women who smoke cigarettes.Visually at least, it's definitely a turn on for me. I don't like the smell or the negative health aspects of smoking, and I've never smoked and never will, but I definitely like the look of a hot girl smoking a cigarette (she has to be attractive to me....an ugly girl smoking doesn't turn me on).

This is known as a smoking fetish, i.e being turned on/aroused by women who smoke.

After doing some research, it seems that smoking fetish is actually quite common and a lot of guys think female smokers are sexy.

Just wondered if any other guys here also find women who smoke attractive?
 

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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Guitar_Whizz

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Hell no...I hate the smell and it sticks to their clothing and their teeth.

Not really a weed fan either for the same reason.
I don't like the smell of weed either.

I also don't like kissing women who have just smoked a cigarette - it's gross and is like kissing a dirty ashtray. The taste is harsh and lingers in my mouth, literally making me gag.

I do find smoking sexy from a visual point of view, though.
 

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I had a 'phase.' I definitely appreciate non smoking and being around people who don't. I used to smoke as well.

I will say that most of the freakiest and 'willing to do stuff' type of women I dated were smokers. Good time, not long time.
 

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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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zekko

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I've heard of the smoking fetish, not my cup of tea though. Smoking has always looked cool, I guess.
Unfortunately, it's turned out to be one of the dumber things that humans do.
 

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I've heard of the smoking fetish, not my cup of tea though. Smoking has always looked cool, I guess.
Unfortunately, it's turned out to be one of the dumber things that humans do.
I mean if you 100% rationally think about what you are doing to yourself in detail there is NOTHING remotely intelligent about it.
 

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@Guitar_Whizz "Visually at least, it's definitely a turn on for me"

Comparable to the thrill we all experience watching fictional gunfights on screen, imagining ourselves as the protagonist(s), and those whom we find disagreeable in RL being the antagonists who bite the dust

It's not the sight of her sucking on that cancer stick itself that have your blood pumping, but your fantasies of how skillfully she might service you... As others have already pointed out, that fantasy doesn't take into account probable realities, like how funky her breath likely is, what her overall lifestyle is, etc etc
 

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The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hal9000

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Studies have indicated women who smoke are quite a bit more promiscuous than those who don't. Do with that what you will.
 

BadBoy89

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an ugly girl smoking doesn't turn me on
It doesn't turn any man on.

Just wondered if any other guys here also find women who smoke attractive?
Sure, if she's hot and under 30 and hasn't been pregnant before.

Sydney Sweeney: "I am 29, very sexy and voluptuous, A+ list actress, but I have one cigarette per week."

Laymen on Sosuave:
"Next!!!"
 

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She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Duke

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On a side note, I once saw a $tripper blow smoke rings with a cigarette in her coochie! LMAO. Those Missouri girls sure do put on a show. I knew I should have left as soon as I walked into that place.
 

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What about vaping? I think around half the people who smoke these days vape instead.
 

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Everyone is sexy when they smoke, thats why the marlboro man was such a successful campaign. That's why Mad Man scenes are so awesome. Without cigarettes they would be nothing....NOTHING I tell you MWAAAAHAHA
 

Jor-El

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Visually appealing to a point,on a young pretty thing,I can get that,but,wait while the effects of those same cigs kick in over the years,,wrinkled skin,yellow/black teeth,crinkly hair,yellow fingers,raspy cough...yuck. Seen many a pretty girl ruined by cigs,dosent happen straight away,but you watch as the decades roll on
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

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