Im 47 and had two dates for tonight, hot 33 year old and a not quite so hot 43 year old. My mates wife said the younger one is too young. Is that true? Should I choose the older one because she's closer to my age? Thoughts?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Whats too young?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bokanovsky
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What's too young? Check the laws in your local jurisdiction.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Barrister
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Maybe it is trite to mention it, but I always feel like the "Rule of 7s" is a pretty good litmus test. Take your age, divide in half, add 7, and this is supposed to be the perfect age for you to "date." For you, that would basically be right at the younger chick's age if not making her a bit old.
And full disclaimer, if she is of legal limit in your jurisdiction and you are good with it, then you of course can date them. Old women are always going to say you dating anyone more than 5 years younger than you is "too old." Its their own defense mechanism kicking in as they worry they are obsolete in men's eyes.
And full disclaimer, if she is of legal limit in your jurisdiction and you are good with it, then you of course can date them. Old women are always going to say you dating anyone more than 5 years younger than you is "too old." Its their own defense mechanism kicking in as they worry they are obsolete in men's eyes.
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What's too young? Any and all cooter that could result in you being hailed as Jimmy Saville's modern day counterpart
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."Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.