"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Whats too young?

Foe

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Im 47 and had two dates for tonight, hot 33 year old and a not quite so hot 43 year old. My mates wife said the younger one is too young. Is that true? Should I choose the older one because she's closer to my age? Thoughts?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If both parties are over 18, it's fair game. Don't care if it's 60 year old with a 21 year old.

But guys have to be realistic. If it's 20+ years, it's likely a total money play for the woman.
 

BadBoy89

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Im 47 and had two dates for tonight, hot 33 year old and a not quite so hot 43 year old. My mates wife said the younger one is too young. Is that true? Should I choose the older one because she's closer to my age? Thoughts?
Why did you tell your mates wife you were going out with a 33 year old woman?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Barrister

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Maybe it is trite to mention it, but I always feel like the "Rule of 7s" is a pretty good litmus test. Take your age, divide in half, add 7, and this is supposed to be the perfect age for you to "date." For you, that would basically be right at the younger chick's age if not making her a bit old.

And full disclaimer, if she is of legal limit in your jurisdiction and you are good with it, then you of course can date them. Old women are always going to say you dating anyone more than 5 years younger than you is "too old." Its their own defense mechanism kicking in as they worry they are obsolete in men's eyes.
 

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What's too young? Any and all cooter that could result in you being hailed as Jimmy Saville's modern day counterpart
 

Jor-El

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Im 47 and had two dates for tonight, hot 33 year old and a not quite so hot 43 year old. My mates wife said the younger one is too young. Is that true? Should I choose the older one because she's closer to my age? Thoughts?
Do you even need to be told ? Who cares what mates wife thinks,you are both of legal age. Pick the one YOU like most
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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