"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Do you talk badly about others?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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If you want to say something to someone be a man and say it to their face.
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-If I find someone repugnant, I'll express my sentiments out loud and to their face(s), yep
-We all "judge" ourselves and others. Our contemporary fixation on being "non-judgmental" is the equivalent of trying to cook spaghetti, without boiling water... We're trying to do an end run around the sometimes disquieting work of investigating the accuracy of our thoughts and beliefs I.E. Our judgments
If you find yourself deifying someone, dehumanizing them, or labeling them a mediocrity, it's prudent to explore alternative ways of viewing this same person. Real-Life Ex.
Joseph Stalin was apparently deemed unremarkable by many of his peers, yet he became one of the most powerful men on Earth, remained so until his death, and was/is one of a minute handful who can honestly boast: "I altered and shaped the course of human history"
Perhaps he wasn't as bright, attractive, eloquent, or charismatic as his aforementioned peers who sneered dismissively at him. Dude who was anything but "a mediocrity" though
