"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Have You Ever Felt Like You’re Not Enough for Her?

Pumax

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Hi guys!

Have you ever had the feeling that you don’t approach a woman. or don’t ask her out, because you believe you’re simply not enough for her?

Let me give you an example.
I have a single female friend (but this happened multiple times), who comes from a socioeconomic background that is significantly wealthier than mine.

Her father runs four companies. Her family travels every couple of months, they own houses and villas with swimming pools, and overall, they live a lifestyle that is far more luxurious than mine.

I’m not much of a traveler. I’m a saver. I live a very frugal lifestyle.

So I don’t ask her out, because I feel I already know she would probably have something to say about my lifestyle, and I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world. That’s the feeling I’m talking about: you know who you are, you know the kind of life you want to live, and you know you’re not willing to compromise on it.

Not even for a woman who is wealthier than you or accustomed to a more luxurious lifestyle.

So what do you do in these scenarios?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Prepostereax

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In general, you approach or not, depending on how much you like her and how well you two connect.
Peripheral stuff like what her folks do, comes after, maybe if you wanna get into something long-term

This is your problem:
I have a single female friend
You are in her friendzone, her orbit.
Doesn't matter whether she drives a maserati or a moped.
 

Pumax

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You are in her friendzone, her orbit.
I mean the word friend is not friend but someone i know.
I'm not her friend.
I've expressed myself badly.

In general, you approach or not, depending on how much you like her and how well you two connect.
Peripheral stuff like what her folks do, comes after, maybe if you wanna get into something long-term
Okay, so you say you approach either way.
But, what happen next if you both want LTR?
 

Clockwerk50

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If you think so little of yourself that you assume you’re not enough for a woman, you obviously have self-esteem, insecurity, and confidence issues.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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