"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how to make freinds in 30s

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hey everyone (title),

was wondering how people make friends and join social groups in their 30s. Im not going to lie, im sort of scared that im going to be running into some issues during that time period in terms of making friends since im not the best at it, so i was wondering if you have any reccomendations on how to do this if so.

any reccomendations from anyone? If so, thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The key to making good friends with males is to have common interests. So if you have any hobbies or sports you really enjoy, that might be the first place to start looking. When I was working on my social skills (although this was in my 20s), I used to constantly try to seek opportunities. Start with your social group or the people you work with, whoever you know, and try to expand from there, network, try to get invited to parties, trips, activities. Sort of like those movies where you're always saying yes, you don't say no. Be on the lookout for new experiences and new interests, you might enjoy them.
 

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The key to making good friends with males is to have common interests. So if you have any hobbies or sports you really enjoy, that might be the first place to start looking. When I was working on my social skills (although this was in my 20s), I used to constantly try to seek opportunities. Start with your social group or the people you work with, whoever you know, and try to expand from there, network, try to get invited to parties, trips, activities. Sort of like those movies where you're always saying yes, you don't say no. Be on the lookout for new experiences and new interests, you might enjoy them.
what types of comment interests and hobbies and sports do you think yield the highest return on investment?
 

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what types of comment interests and hobbies and sports do you think yield the highest return on investment?
No idea. But I'd say it's a mix between whatever you are most authentically interested in and what's popular in your area.
 

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Zekko is right, it's a combination of having a daily activity that you like to do and what's popular in the area. I'm into basketball and maybe karaoke, so those seems to be good ways to bond with people out here where I'm at. I'd check around and ask around, better do your research and don't get discourage when things don't go your way the first few times around.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The key to making good friends with males is to have common interests. So if you have any hobbies or sports you really enjoy, that might be the first place to start looking. When I was working on my social skills (although this was in my 20s), I used to constantly try to seek opportunities. Start with your social group or the people you work with, whoever you know, and try to expand from there, network, try to get invited to parties, trips, activities. Sort of like those movies where you're always saying yes, you don't say no. Be on the lookout for new experiences and new interests, you might enjoy them.
Do this, plus expand into your professional networks as well. Find networking breakfasts, lunches and dinners, and then start to build out connections there. It’ll give you an added bonus of opening doors for new business.
 

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Slow and steady and regular...rushing in will make you look desperate or potentially gay.

Gym is my main scene, the odd comment then a week later, a sentence. And later a bit more longer chat. Perhaps even find out their name!
 
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