Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The only problem I see with that is it doesn't sound like their visions are congruent, unless I'm missing something. Maybe I'm misreading what he wants, which he said was to leave things as they were.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
What's there not to understand? He's basically stringing her along. He doesn't deem her relationship-worthy, but doesn't want to flat out say it because he wants to keep her as a plate as long as possible.
It sounded to me like she's saying (in a female way) "Here's what I want, do you want the same thing?" If yes, great. If no, I'm moving on. If OP strings her along just for s*x, that's his choice, but he's also missing out on other women more consistent with his goals if he wants something more stable.