I got to know a girl in Zambia, what's the best way for her to relocate to the US?

[Scaramouche]

Hi intricatedesign,
this Guy clearly states he in the U.S.

 

[NiHaoMike]

Wow
so you never met up?

you live in China? Wow!
what dating app did you meet her on?

so she’s dark black and you are Chinese?

perhaps I’m reading this wrong but it sounds like you’re just connecting with some babe online and that’s cool but

this stuff is hot though. Is she a hot skinny black girl from Africa? This stuff is interesting

but it seems a long shot

Not yet, hence the plan to meet up during the summer.
I was born in China but moved to the US at an early age. So genetically, I'm 100% Chinese but act like an "American Born Chinese".
It looks like she's about average skin tone by Black standards. Not sure how she compares to most other Zambians, but I'll definitely find out once I visit there.
She's plus sized, but is working to lose weight. Basically the same situation I'm in, and will likely be something to continue working on together.

 

[intricate design]

Hey ni hao mike
youre pretty cool
i like your style

You’re a player. lol seriously

keep up the great work

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP, Paypal me 43 Trillion and I"ll make it happen. I'll send you a PM

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Sure, American ladies (Or AWs if you like, as is common in expat forums) aren't exactly known for tenderness when it comes to 'loyal svuckers' and AFCs. HOWEVER, American men ARE known for these sought after stability or "sure thing" traits throughout the internet developed world! In other words, a half decent looking lady in another country knows she only need be present, pleasant and ready to please you to get you to fold. Many of them are also aware of how American men who are fed up with dating view American women; especially those of a more feminism/progressive inclination.

I'm not saying all women abroad who seem to be seeking American men are predatorial. I'm just saying be on the lookout and assume something is up until you're D@MNED sure that they aren't. In short, a failure to understand the nature of women is the failure to understand women. END OF. This includes women in island tribes wearing grass capes where the most advanced tech is fireplaces and handlooms. A woman from any country that could even beguile an AFC out of 40 USD a month will have several women who might say/do anything to make that happen. I've seen and known people personally who have been had by these women WITHOUT the woman even so much as setting foot in the US. Worse in some cases.

Try looking into the other side of the stories of Winston Wu and how he fell prey to various scams. Good on you for bringing it here though. Please carefully consider what DJs here say. And read the DJ bible! It can save your life! And your wallet....

 

[Bokanovsky]

Not yet, hence the plan to meet up during the summer.
I was born in China but moved to the US at an early age. So genetically, I'm 100% Chinese but act like an "American Born Chinese".
It looks like she's about average skin tone by Black standards. Not sure how she compares to most other Zambians, but I'll definitely find out once I visit there.
She's plus sized, but is working to lose weight. Basically the same situation I'm in, and will likely be something to continue working on together.

Nice trolling, bro.

 

[devilkingx2]

There was this guy who faked his death and disappeared one night from his wife and kids to move across the world to an Eastern European country to be with a woman he fell in love with online.

as far as anyone can tell, the woman was real, but for some reason he grew tired of her while they were together, so he came back to America and faced the music. (On trial for insurance fraud, wasting police and non profit rescue efforts, etc.)

his name is Ryan Borgwarth

 

[BillyPilgrim]

There once was a girl from Zambia
Who wanted me to buy her Abercrombia
I tried to say maybe
She said "okay baby"
Next thing I knew I was a Zombia!

 

[NiHaoMike]

I'm not saying all women abroad who seem to be seeking American men are predatorial. I'm just saying be on the lookout and assume something is up until you're D@MNED sure that they aren't. In short, a failure to understand the nature of women is the failure to understand women. END OF. This includes women in island tribes wearing grass capes where the most advanced tech is fireplaces and handlooms. A woman from any country that could even beguile an AFC out of 40 USD a month will have several women who might say/do anything to make that happen. I've seen and known people personally who have been had by these women WITHOUT the woman even so much as setting foot in the US. Worse in some cases.

And yet so many Americans blow over twice that monthly on just one overpriced streaming service that's even less loyal than the mystery woman who refuses to meet up in person. But that's a different discussion...

There was this guy who faked his death and disappeared one night from his wife and kids to move across the world to an Eastern European country to be with a woman he fell in love with online.

as far as anyone can tell, the woman was real, but for some reason he grew tired of her while they were together, so he came back to America and faced the music. (On trial for insurance fraud, wasting police and non profit rescue efforts, etc.)

his name is Ryan Borgwarth

Sounds like a scheme to cheat with the intent to not have the family find out the true intentions. Definitely not something I would do.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

And yet so many Americans blow over twice that monthly on just one overpriced streaming service that's even less loyal than the mystery woman who refuses to meet up in person. But that's a different discussion...

Sounds like a scheme to cheat with the intent to not have the family find out the true intentions. Definitely not something I would do.

You're not wrong on that streaming service point and how it can be costly. However, you knew exactly what you were getting and there was no scam. The general message of most SSers and myself is "BVFC" and protect yourself on all counts.

The more someone is convinced in their mind that they can't be tricked, it has been my experience that those people are in fact easier to trick. Not saying this is you. But for every action or intended planned event have one or two alternatives ready. From what I understand, your goals are somewhat specific. At least how you perceive them. There are a lot of things that you'd need to accomplish as well as just hitting it off with the lady and adjusting to her and her you.

To say nothing of a large socioeconomic and societal leap. It becomes necessitous for one of you to take on the challenge of being a newcomer and overcoming culture shock while the other becomes somewhat of a mentor requiring incredible levels of patience and willingness to put themselves in that role. Either of you could be in either position depending on who is relocating where if you're intent on an LTR. There will be no way around it. It will require BOTH of you to compromise a lot in the beginning. If you've decided that it is worth it, best of luck. There are a few resources out there, though. I once considered doing what you're talking about and decided it wasn't for me.

I highly suggest joining a few expat networks and asking them anything that you'd even be mildly concerned about. Most of the people on there have ideas for every scenario you thought you had known about. They learned the stuff the hard way. I strongly suggest looking up "Ladislav." He's seen as a "Chief Expat" on HappierAbroad.com who has lived in over 30 countries and speaks 10 languages. Don't know if he ever got married or whatever, but there ARE success stories.

Just like anything in life, the more daring the undertaking, the wider the scope of error and a larger number of those who give up. Best wishes, man.