"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Signs of High Interest

CoolWave1331

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From my experience:

If you've already talking and know each other, then they ask questions related to whether you have a girlfriend / they mention to you they don't have a boyfriend/are single.

If you don't talk to each other and are strangers, you can tell when you look at each other. If she smiles when you make direct eye contact, starts fixing herself etc
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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CoolWave1331

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Here's one: your presence changes their behavior ie suddenly start becoming louder, "funnier" etc

We've had crap weather lately but right around time I joined there was a stretch of consistently good weather. Was walking around the neighborhood on a weekend in shorts and flip flops. These two women ran past me from behind and stopped at the light I was walking towards; waiting for it to turn green. They looked good, they were blonde fit women, the type that does lots of cardio and a million barbell hip thrusts at the gym. As I was getting close to them they started randomly dancing with each other & acting like goofballs. I couldn't hold back the laughter & knew I had to say something to these jokers. I planned to ask them where they got their wild moves from. The light turned green and they ran off, unfortunately didn't get the chance as they were few steps ahead.

I don't know for sure if either found me handsome or whatever but i'm pretty sure they were purposely showing off. That can be a good thing - somethin to look for.
 
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