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Recent content by rAFCOliver

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    Relationship, red flag check please?

    Fantastic advice, as always. Thank you. Especially the comments I’ve liked. For me, for now, I’m satisfied enough to enjoy the ride and progression of the relationship. Simple takeaways are pretty obvious, if it’s wearing down on me, if more flags arise, it’s time to protect myself only and call...
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    Relationship, red flag check please?

    This is the surprising thing about it all. Two bestfriends, no children. Extended friend group the odd one here and there. Work colleagues, the odd few have them. She’s fine around them, she’s also expressed how she doesn’t even want them at all for a few years due to career progression. The...
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    Relationship, red flag check please?

    Insecure, yes definitely agree. The moving thing is not an issue to be fair, its about 25-30 minutes journey, doesn’t impact my commute to much. I couldn’t get my head around how this was something to bring up 6 months in without just enjoying the relationship and seeing how it naturally...
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    Relationship, red flag check please?

    Red flag check. Hi guys, been a while since I’ve posted. Things have changed for me in a year since my previous woeful breakup story. I’ve been in a relationship for about 4 months, been dating this person for about 6 months, enjoyed myself at the start of this year, had some fun, got back in...
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    How do I approach this?

    So I went out on Saturday with friends, spotted someone I used to know at the club, one thing lead to another and we ended up back at her place. Ended up having sex pretty briefly but I was pretty smashed and didn’t finish. I come home, speak to her the next day and sleep off the hangover...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Keep positive as much as possible bro. I had a new lease of life when I decided to break up with my toxic distant ex. Get in the gym, focus on work, exhaust your hobbies and get socialising. Take some time for yourself, I wouldn’t recommend getting back out there cause you’ll not be yourself...
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    In love with a huge red flag… In need for a slap in the face!

    You’ve taken the time to list all of these red flags, can you re-read them, then move on from this girl. There’s plenty more out there, why put yourself through this? You do realise you’re only preparing yourself for failure here, you’ll get too attached, become needy and you’ll become a doormat...
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    Thank you SoSuave

    True, without the split I wouldn’t have turned into the man I am today.
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    Thank you SoSuave

    100% totally agree, it’s crazy how such an event can have a profound change on your life. I’m alive, feeling so much better than ever before. I’ll be really developing my career and any areas of personal weakness that I’ll identify as I go on.
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    Thank you SoSuave

    I’ve helped two people so far, giving them my advice on their breakup, I’ll definitely be doing more moving forward.
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    Thank you SoSuave

    Thought I’d share my expierence. This forum has been so beneficial in recovery. I’d hate to think what I would’ve been like without the advice.
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    Thank you SoSuave

    Yeah you did, those words of advice kicked me into a realisation, I was ready to leave but you went a soft ... has that much power over you. Wake up call, thanks man - like I said, great advisors on this forum.
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    Thank you SoSuave

    Consistently flirting with co-workers for about a week after she had been pulling away from me, acting distant for about 2-3 weeks.
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    Thank you SoSuave

    So I thought I’d share my story of my breakup and how I got to SS. Long story short, I was a very confident, underlying Beta in disguise salesman. Polar opposite huh? Well, I got into a relationship at work in a male dominated company, things were going well until she started pulling away...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Well done man, complete change to how you were at the start of the challenge. It’s hard when you genuinely have feelings for them but you’re a better man now, different chapter of your life.
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