Recent content by AbleDad

Women create drama because they are bored. In a perverse way, they are trying to help the relationship by alleviating the boredom. As a guy, don't be boring and you'll minimize the drama. If you are inherently boring and can't see a way to change it, then you will forever be responding to her...

I see two issues here: 1) All women have some inherent level of insecurity that never gets better as they get older. In contrast, men's insecurity improves over time as we address our weaknesses in life and learn to ignore the things that we can't change. Women can try to do the same thing, but...

I've been really successful at building-up a workout routine at home over the last couple of years. It's a mental thing. Here are the two brain hacks that have really helped me: 1) Think of your workout routine as a system. You start with a simple system and then tweak it as you progress. Scott...

You sound like a white guy who doesn't fit in with the Latino culture that surrounds you. It's my understanding that Scottsdale is still a white enclave. You'll do better there.

Location matters. I spoke with a lady from Scottsdale a couple months ago. She found dating in Scottsdale to be a lot more competitive than Seattle, where she lived previously. So, you should find that dating will be easier for you.

I have a chemical-engineering degree from a top-tier university and an MBA from a mediocre school. I currently work with patents and make good money. For the last 30 years, my engineering degree has opened doors for me and given me instant credibility. Of course I still need to prove myself and...

You are doing great. I went through a similar phase. What the other comments show is a lack of appreciation for just how much energy goes into raising 3 kids with shared custody. It's a big deal. You barely have time for anything else. Career is your secondary focus and then women are just...

This is 100% true. A fun thing to do is go to a bar and people watch with a lady who is just a friend. Get her opinion on the dynamics between the men and women in the place.

Classic power move.

Honestly, just pick someone that you can work with, have kids, and make the best of it. Think about whether they would make a good long-term parenting partner. That's it. For me, everything else in my relationship with my ex-wife became superfluous.

I would add a nuance, you need to accept the things about yourself that you can't change and improve the things that you can change. When you've achieved what you can with what you have, then you have accomplishments and greatness, which leads to confidence. Here's a link to an article about...

Yes you delete her number, because you shouldn't have it in the first place. And if she never contacts you again, so what? Go on with your life. Honestly, it's kind of creepy that you keep contacting a woman who is clearly with someone else. Wouldn't you feel that it's creepy if a lady kept...

I don't connect as well with women who don't have kids. Being a parent is a fundamental part of who I am. As for child-less women being selfish, inflexible, or difficult to date, I haven't really experienced it. I don't have much of a tolerance for bad attitudes though, so it may be more about me.

A few years back, I met a lady at one of my kids' soccer games. She was interested, but she had a boyfriend. I respected that, gave her my card, and asked her to contact me if things ever changed for her. A couple months later, she contacted me and we ended-up dating for a while. It was a fun...

Looking for a wingman for this event: https://www.northvillefoodwine.com/ Me: 53, white, 6'1", attractive, 170 lbs., Fight Club toned, advanced degree, six-figure salary, good kids (they're older now, so I'm empty nest), and natural social skills complemented by game. You: not an idiot...