"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Cheeky_James

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The point I'm trying to drill into you here is that looks do not correlate with game.

There are plenty of guys who look like me, or better, who sleep with way fewer women and/or way less attractive women.

The difference is that I developed game and they did not. Yes, it is a numbers game - that is true for dating as a whole - but there are plenty of good-looking guys who suck with women, and plenty of average-looking guys who are good with women.

Case in point: the guy whose face you had me rate.
And the point I’m trying to drill into you is that it absolutely does correlate, under usual circumstances. (Where a guy has an healthy interest in women and does actually make some efforts to approach fhem)
And if you look at every PLAYER IRL it is redic obvious that it does.

The fact that you know 3 other guys with high looks who cant be bothered to approach women or settled down young doesn’t actually prove otherwise mate. There must be an epidemic of NiceGuySyndrome in Delaware idk

To prove what you’re saying is just semantics and moving words around - just look at RSD TYLER/OWEN COOK.

He’s definitely an average looking guy, whose given 20 years FLAT OUT to getting ‘game’ with women. He’s ought to be a grandmaster player at this point. With confidence and charisma through the roof levels.
He’s put ALL the effort.., and it’s widely reported his game with women fvcking SUCKS.

he’ll go out and do 30-40 approaches (maybe more) in nightlife and get blown out over and over and over again. And that’s out there ON VIDEO. Not hearsay.


SOMEONE PLS EXPLAIN HOW CAN THIS BE?
COS HE DID EVERYTHING THATS SPROOKED AROUND HERE AS LEADING TO SUCCESS WTH WOMEN.. AND HE STILL SUCKS WITH THEM.

Ps - my mate does not have an ‘average’ face. This is my fvcking point. He’s above-average. /cuted faced. That’s how he performed so well for his height, cos he had a very handsome face mate.

TYLER was an average looking guy.
MY BUDDY was an 8 faced guy. at least!. How many different ways can I explain my point??

Sigh.

For YOU to actually prove your point .. you will have to post up a pic of an actual average looking guy that slays women with his mad confidence game… like average =5/10 . Not a 7 or an 8 faced dude.

So.., can you do that or what?
Or point towards such a guy .. THAT ISNT A TOTAL PUA FRAUD?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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And the point I’m trying to drill into you is that it absolutely does correlate, under usual circumstances. (Where a guy has an healthy interest in women and does actually make some efforts to approach fhem)
And if you look at every PLAYER IRL it is redic obvious that it does.

The fact that you know 3 other guys with high looks who cant be bothered to approach women or settled down young doesn’t actually prove otherwise mate. There must be an epidemic of NiceGuySyndrome in Delaware idk

To prove what you’re saying is just semantics and moving words around - just look at RSD TYLER/OWEN COOK.

He’s definitely an average looking guy, whose given 20 years FLAT OUT to getting ‘game’ with women. He’s ought to be a grandmaster player at this point.
He’s put ALL the effort.., and it’s widely reported his game with women fvcking SUCKS.

he’ll go out and do 30-40 approaches (maybe more) in nightlife and get blown out over and over and over again.


SOMEONE PLS EXPLAIN HOW CAN THIS BE?
COS HE DID EVERYTHING THATS SPROOKED AROUND HERE AS LEADING TO SUCCESS WTH WOMEN.. AND HE STILL SUCKS WITH THEM.

Ps - my mate does not have an ‘average’ face. This is my fvcking point. He’s above-average. /cuted faced. That’s how he performed so well for his height, cos he had a very handsome face mate.

TYLER was an average looking guy.
MY BUDDY was an 8 faced guy. at least!. How many different ways can I explain my point??

Sigh.

For YOU to actually prove your point .. you will have to post up a pic of an actual average looking guy that slays women with his mad confidence game… like average =5/10 . Not a 7 or an 8 faced dude.

So.., can you do that or what?
Or point towards such a guy .. THAT ISNT A TOTAL PUA FRAUD?
Are you trying to convince us, or yourself?

Nobody really agrees with you here, and nobody thinks your friend is as attractive as you think he is.

Are you dying on this hill because admitting otherwise would destroy your argument? Since your slightly-above-average friend is still successful with women?
 

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Are you trying to convince us, or yourself?

Nobody really agrees with you here, and nobody thinks your friend is as attractive as you think he is.

Are you dying on this hill because admitting otherwise would destroy your argument? Since your slightly-above-average friend is still successful with women?
no buddy. I’m looking for you guys to display some acfual evidence . Which of course you cannot. Because there is none. Please explain WTF happened in the case of RSD Tyler as it relates to your position.
Because that sinks everything you and everyone else is sprooking here. And means the advice on the forum is for the most part - flat out the same old PUA dreaming.
 

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@BPH "The point I'm trying to drill into you here is that looks do not correlate with game"

Efforts to persuade dude out of beliefs he's clearly superglued himself to will remain more futile than convincing folks who are clamoring for a revival of The OC that

-Yes, the series really did air back in the early 2000s, much as it may seem like yesterday

-As such, the shows's primary stars are old as f-ck now. We're talking periomenopausal if not full blown menopause insofar as the ladies go, and thinning hair/regular prostate exams for the fellas


-Chances of a contemporary rehash soiling your rose-tinted memories of childhood are thus higher than a dope fiend who's gained unlimited access to the neighborhood methadone clinic
 
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no buddy. I’m looking for you guys to display some acfual evidence . Which of course you cannot. Because there is none. Please explain WTF happened in the case of RSD Tyler as it relates to your position.
Because that sinks everything you and everyone else is sprooking here. And means the advice on the forum is for the most part - flat out the same old PUA dreaming.
I don't know what would satisfy you.

Looks matter, but they clearly aren't everything, or every attractive guy would automatically be swimming in pu**y - which they aren't, as evidenced by how moronic most men are in the current dating market (plenty of evidence on this very forum of that).

Furthermore, women have types, which is why a conventionally attractive man isn't necessarily a universally attractive man.

Improving in other areas of your life (confidence, money, status, power, leadership, etc.) WILL improve your abilities with women. Neglecting them and relying on looks alone WILL lead to less success than you'd have otherwise.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I don't know what would satisfy you.

Looks matter, but they clearly aren't everything, or every attractive guy would automatically be swimming in pu**y - which they aren't, as evidenced by how moronic most men are in the current dating market (plenty of evidence on this very forum of that).
Lololol.
Says WHO that they aren’t?! Wtf is this nonsense.
Cos every Chad dude I see IRL, has a hot girlfriend ? And are swimming in pvssy on the apps.
Like, obviously. This is inarguable.
Nonsensical statement 1

Furthermore, women have types, which is why a conventionally attractive man isn't necessarily a universally attractive man.
ah yes he is. David Ghandy would be a universally attractive man . He’s a globally recognised super handsome guy. As are all the other sex symbols of Hollywood. Clooney, Pitt, Mamoa etc etc
nonsensical statement 2

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An aside -btw I forgot to mention in reply to your post 2 back - there IS guys here that would agree with me dude. I can think of 3-4 guys . All guys that went through the PUA journey for many years , got success with women and then later dumped almost everything they had studied, just focused on LM, confident approaching and doing the numbers. Same thing you’re doing.

And it’s pretty funny you are arguing with me. Cos your position is very close to mine :oops:
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Now the 3rd point
Improving in other areas of your life (confidence, money, status, power, leadership, etc.) WILL improve your abilities with women. Neglecting them and relying on looks alone WILL lead to less success than you'd have otherwise.
and you are the example of a dude whose game is only ONE of those things. Confidence. And whose success is based on only ONE of those 5 + categories .

You do not have money, status, power or leadership ..Afaik?

So your game is , mostly your looks , plus a confident approach.. that’s pretty much IT.

So? You’re the proof mate.
That it’s pretty much all Looks to getting great success with women. Same as the guy next tier up from you The Chad.
(Maybe you are even Chad tier looks idk)

What else can I now say.
I’m right and we are done, I think is all I can say.
 

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Lololol.
Says WHO that they aren’t?! Wtf is this nonsense.
Cos every Chad dude I see IRL, has a hot girlfriend ? And are swimming in pvssy on the apps.
Like, obviously. This is inarguable.
Nonsensical statement 1



ah yes he is. David Ghandy would be a universally attractive man . He’s a globally recognised super handsome guy. As are all the other sex symbols of Hollywood. Clooney, Pitt, Mamoa etc etc
nonsensical statement 2

———
An aside -btw I forgot to mention in reply to your post 2 back - there IS guys here that would agree with me dude. I can think of 3-4 guys . All guys that went through the PUA journey for many years , got success with women and then later dumped almost everything they had studied, just focused on LM, confident approaching and doing the numbers. Same thing you’re doing.

And it’s pretty funny you are arguing with me. Cos your position is very close to mine :oops:
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Now the 3rd point


and you are the example of a dude whose game is only ONE of those things. Confidence. And whose success is based on only ONE of those 5 + categories .

You do not have money, status, power or leadership ..Afaik?

So your game is , mostly your looks , plus a confident approach.. that’s pretty much IT.

So? You’re the proof mate.
That it’s pretty much all Looks to getting great success with women. Same as the guy next tier up from you The Chad.
(Maybe you are even Chad tier looks idk)

What else can I now say.
I’m right and we are done, I think is all I can say.
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Furthermore, women have types, which is why a conventionally attractive man isn't necessarily a universally attractive man.
Yeah out of personal preference I have a more clean cut aesthetic. Short hair, clean-shaven every 4 days, no tattoos, tidy clean dress with no ott jewellery etc.

Birds who want a rock star/biker look would completely swerve me! Don't care.
 

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boom. Thanks for letting me know you’ve got good looks. So how would you describe your Game in a few bullet points ? Nutshell it for me pls.
You falsely attributed that remark to me. I never said it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You falsely attributed that remark to me. I never said it.
I did .my bad, the replies were coming thick and fast.

I learned in my 50s that less than stellar genetic looks can easily be compensated for. I simply decided to believe it once the light was turned on in my little brain.
This is the problem with this forum. Zero context. There is no useful ‘stats ‘to any of the members next to their names.
Ie face rating, Age. Height, ethnicity, location etc
to put their perspective and advice into context.

You say above yoi discovered something in your 50s about compensating for lower looks.

As if the Dating market in 50s bracket is anything like the current dating market of the 20s or 30s etc landscape is different for each decade mate.
 
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I did .my bad, the replies were coming thick and fast.



This is the problem with this forum. Zero context. There is no useful ‘stats ‘to any of the members next to their names.
Ie face rating, Age. Height, ethnicity, location etc
to put their perspective and advice into context.

You say above yoi discovered something in your 50s about compensating for lower looks.

As if the Dating market in 50s bracket is anything like the current dating market of the 20s or 30s etc landscape is different for each decade mate.
I’m finishing up with you now but I’m a generous man and I’ll leave you with a golden nugget. I came here clueless. The record of my enlightenment is here for all to read. I had zero context while a member here and during my years as a mod. I simply got my hands dirty. I mined the gold and sifted out the noise. It was not up to the posters to provide context. It was up to me to intelligently sift through the information. I wasn’t a know-it-all by any means, I just kept on trying to learn. I knew I was ignorant, and that makes for a very teachable spirit.

You, my friend, are a dog chasing its tail. You demonstrate a profoundly strong inability to learn and succeed, and only additional painful hard knocks in life are going to knock you off your high horse. You remind me of the wise old high schooler who has all of life figured out.

The value and sheer magnitude of knowledge here on this forum is immense but you need to DESIRE to mine the gold. Last hint: The old timers here from decades ago got a lot of this stuff figured out. The knowledge of how to succeed in life and with women is within these pages. However, the forum keeps reverting back to needing something new as the younger “sages” join up.

Absolutely none of this will register with you today. I write it for the benefit of other readers who have a teachable spirit, and for the future you who might return to these cringe discussions after the humbling life is sure to throw at you. Don’t waste your years, friend. Recognize that you don’t know what you don’t know, and learn from those who have paved the way before you. Read the history here on SoSuave and you will discover knowledge that is timeless. To do that you will need to dip those well-manicured hands into the dirt and pull out the gold.
We’re done as I’ve lost interest. Enjoy the last word.
 

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@Cheeky_James The problem with SOME fellas on this forum(and many additional individuals of both genders within our civilization more generally)is that they refuse to cease their hunt for panaceas. Such as: "If I were a dead ringer for Sean O'Pry, women would simply walk up and start dry humping me. I wouldn't have to cultivate additional traits to become more attractive"

In doing so, they're the equivalent of aspiring actresses who really believe that enlarging their A Cups to Double Ds will, in and of itself, land them plum roles, subsequently refuse to sharpen their craft via drama school/reading every acting book in existence, learning how to dress, etc etc
 
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