"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Would you give up your own place to go live in her house?

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If you're renting your own space, and live alone, would you ever interrumpt the contract, and go cohabiting with a woman, in her house, for a LTR?


(and at which point would you believe she might use that as an excuse to have power)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Look up the iron rules of @Rollo Tomassi
I have friends live with their wealthy GF.
3 of them.
2 are married, 1 is not (because she doesn't want to get married).
Just to report.

Roles start getting reversed
That is because your POV of a LTR is that the man must be the foundation of anything we "own" in his life, relationship too.
Also, because you see that from a power perspective.

Given this, I think there are women who are wealthy and that would genuinely not use that as blackmail. (rare))
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If you're renting your own space, and live alone, would you ever interrumpt the contract, and go cohabiting with a woman, in her house, for a LTR?
IF

-She has a twin sister

-Both she and sis are bi-curious

-They're each centerfold beautiful

-The 3 of us will be sharing the same bed most nights of the week

I might consider giving up my own abode for a trial run
 

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If you're renting your own space, and live alone, would you ever interrumpt the contract, and go cohabiting with a woman, in her house, for a LTR?


(and at which point would you believe she might use that as an excuse to have power)
The answer to your question is no. You automatically cede power, which is not a good idea. But you know this, you don't need to ask.
 

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Terrible idea.

You basically speed run towards the end of the relationship. A relationship that might've lasted 3 years will now go bust in 6 months.

You better have the skills of a professional cleaner if you want to make it work. If a woman comes to your house she can " add" the hygiene and neat factor. But what yiu gonna add to her house? Piss stains on the toilet seat? Drool on her satin pillows? And eventually the relationship-ender:not closing of the toothpaste.

Only stupid men do this.
 

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Thanks for your feedback.
That is also my thinking process too.

I would own a house, and eventually rent that, to go rent anotherbigger house we would pay 50/50.
So if anything happen, I have my own house which I could go back, and I risk nothing.
 
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