Why Just 1% Succeed. The Habits That Make the Difference.

[BadBoy89]

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I think its home for a lot of men. The world is designed to keep a man insecure. If he's insecure, he keeps buying and consuming to make him FEEL secure. That's good for society because society's model is built on growth. Now imagine if men were secure and didn't need to buy products for themselves or things to impress women. How long would society last?

Your thoughts?

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THE DAY YOU FINALLY WAKE UP TO YOUR WORTH, THE WORLD WILL TREMBLE

https://medium.com/@marcomizzau/why-society-wants-you-insecure-784901b8bc5b

There comes a moment — rare, sacred, electric — when a man or woman finally sees their worth. And I mean truly sees it. Not through the lens of external validation, likes, promotions, or compliments, but from a deep, undeniable place within.

The day you stop doubting yourself is the day the world around you begins to panic.

Why? Because society, as we know it, is built on your insecurity.

From the moment you take your first breath, you are conditioned to believe you are not enough.

You’re told to be thinner, smarter, richer, more attractive, more productive, more… everything.

You are subtly trained to chase a version of yourself that exists only in the marketing department of someone else’s business plan.

And as long as you feel like you’re lacking, you will keep buying. Keep obeying. Keep consuming instead of creating.

This is not by accident. It’s by design.

The machinery of modern culture is fueled by cognitive dissonance — the painful gap between who you feel you are and who you’ve been told you should be. And into that gap pours every ad, every false image of perfection, every post meant to make you believe that you’re behind.

But here’s the truth: The moment you realize you don’t need to be fixed, they lose their grip on you.

That’s when everything changes.

When you stop trying to “be liked” by everyone, you will quickly find out who really respects you. Spoiler alert: many won’t. And that’s good news.

Because when you stop dancing for approval, you start walking your own path.

A CONFIDENT SOUL IS UNCONTROLLABLE

• The secure person doesn’t consume to feel worthy — they create from a place of worth.
• The secure person doesn’t obey blindly — they choose consciously.
• The secure person doesn’t need to please everyone — they please the right ones.
• The secure person doesn’t crave attention — they command respect.

And when you finally stop asking for permission to be yourself, you will find yourself offending people. And again, that’s exactly how you know you’re doing something right.

Because your value is not measured by applause. It’s measured by whether you can look in the mirror and be proud of the person staring back.

12 BRUTAL TRUTHS TO BUILD A STRONGER, FREER, MORE UNSTOPPABLE YOU

1. Keep your mouth shut. Not everything needs to be shared. Energy leaks where attention goes.
2. Do not tell people your plans until they materialize. Protect your vision until it’s ready to walk on its own.
3. Never expect to receive just because you gave. Give because it’s who you are, not because you’re keeping score.
4. Every day, get up and get better. No excuses. No shortcuts. Just relentless forward motion.
5. Be radically grateful. Gratitude turns what you have into enough and what you want into reality.
6. Let go. Often, what you refuse to release is what’s holding you back the most.
7. If you want to buy things without looking at price tags, stop looking at the clock and start working your ass off. Success costs what laziness cannot afford.
8. God puts people in your path for a reason. Learn the lesson. Bless the experience. Move forward.
9. When success starts knocking, so does the devil. Stay vigilant. Protect your energy. Don’t trade your soul for a spotlight.
10. You will upset people by doing what’s best for you. Do it anyway.
11. You will lose friends. But real ones will never leave. Truth filters out the fake.
12. Life doesn’t get easier. You get stronger. And strength isn’t loud. It’s calm. It’s steady. It endures.

You don’t need another course.
You don’t need another product.
You don’t need another external fix.

You need a decision — a violent commitment to yourself.
To rise. To reclaim. To stop playing small.

Because your greatness is not in question.
Only your belief in it is.

Be the one who finally breaks free.
Be the one who stops apologizing.
Be the one who lives fully, unapologetically, and wide awake.

The world needs your fire.
Light it.

 

[jhonny9546]

I don't know why they want us to be selfish, basically more narcissistic than we are.
Then we also lament the fact people are narcissistic out there.

 

[zekko]

I don't know why they want us to be selfish, basically more narcissistic than we are.
Then we also lament the fact people are narcissistic out there.

It all sounds like grandiose delusions, honestly.
The world needs your fire? So many people have come and gone, yet the world goes on without them. If they're lucky, someone notices.
Of course we can all do better for ourselves. I don't think it's necessary to abandon all humility to achieve that.

 

[Bigpapa]

It all sounds like grandiose delusions, honestly.
The world needs your fire? So many people have come and gone, yet the world goes on without them. If they're lucky, someone notices.
Of course we can all do better for ourselves. I don't think it's necessary to abandon all humility to achieve that.

I don’t think anyone wants to live in a world of anarchy, not even the anarchists themselves

 

[The Duke]

The world only keeps you insecure if you allow it. I am very much the person the article describes. And it doesn't make you selfish, you guys are missing the message. These inadequacies will cause struggles with women.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@BadBoy89 "From the moment you take your first breath, you are conditioned to believe you are not enough"

We're NOT "enough" in our raw, natural state. Becoming formidable requires conscious effort

 

[Gamisch]

I love this.

Imo the "redpill" NEEDS to evolve towards something like this; the deeper meaning beyond the superficial shyte, and we should as "why" after the anwer and then another" why?"Women are "just" a superficial byproduct in the grand scheme of things, even tho a woman / women can give a man the ILLUSION that he "made it" in life.

Even here most still argue back and forth how to approach, open a set, what to say blah blah

But those things ( to use a boxing metaphor ) is like asking how do I knock someone out the ring TODAY. People chime in and say "left hook! No, uppercut! No right cross!


But the real answer is: by training daily, conditioning yourself to the max/ stamina , ofcourse training the basics( including the hook, jab and uppercut) but also by studying the game and life deeply, understanding human phycology AND physicality, eating right, staying away from distractions and temptation . In other words; that "simple "one thing you want (p00sy , the knock out) is a mere BYPRODUCT of being the best version you can be and your adventures

Annoying anwer, I know. Especially when you want a quick fix that works RIGHT NOW with Stacey as Stacey is already slipping away. But if you do approach the game on a deeper level you'll see that there will be an INFINITE amount of Staceys to choose from. They will come and go.

The latter also is the reason why I'm "against" marriage ,cohabitation, kids under not ideal / bad circumstances ( and I say that as a father !). Because you basically say to yourself "this is the best I can ever do in life ,no need to explore any further." And now you just might trap yourself in a situation while those things could've been experienced under MUCH better circumstances IF you would've pushed yourself harder.

Great post all together and I'll read it a couple of times to let it sink in.

 

[Bigpapa]

@BadBoy89 "From the moment you take your first breath, you are conditioned to believe you are not enough"

We're NOT "enough" in our raw, natural state. Becoming formidable requires conscious effort

i think that as women are aggresive and feel oppressed by everything, guys started copying the same thing becoming aggressive and feeling oppressed

this leads nowhere and is mostly in the mind not in reality

 

[BaronOfHair]

i think that as women are aggresive and feel oppressed by everything, guys started copying the same thing becoming aggressive and feeling oppressed

I don't endorse viewing oneself as an oppressed person, nonetheless "aggression" can be defined in a few different ways. Being vigorous in pursuit of one's self-development included

 

[jhonny9546]

@The Duke
You advised me to put this plan into action.

I’m generally a frugal person, which allowed me to avoid getting caught up in things like luxury travel, traditional weddings, or the "happy wife, happy life" mentality traps that all my friends fell into.

"When you stop trying to please everyone, you’ll quickly discover who truly respects you."
That’s a good thing, you know.
And I often wonder whether you should keep in touch with people you consider "negative" influences, letting them see your life through your posts, stories, and social media profiles, or if you should block them or cut them off from seeing your updates.
(This is a real question for you guys)

Having a social media presence doesn't mean you're insecure.
It’s a nice thing to have in today’s world; if you know how to use it, it acts as a tool that amplifies who you are on the inside.
(Provided you don't let yourself be manipulated.)

And when you finally stop asking for permission to be yourself, you will find yourself offending people. And again, that’s exactly how you know you’re doing something right.

I don't quite get that point.


But, anyway, to put it simply, this AI-generated post listed 12 rules for men, but they all boil down to the same thing: your value as a man is defined by you, not by others.
Realistically speaking, a homeless man might be 100% happy with his life, but he’s still a homeless man.
A man with nice clothes, a car, a home, solid finances, women in his life, friends, relationships, a career, and so on, might be 80% happy with his life, but he still has to devote 20% of his effort to signaling, in a humble and subtle way, that he is a man of value. Unfortunately, as previously mentioned, while you certainly need to have your own internal guide or compass, you also need to signal your intentions.
We're still, social species.


What do you think?

 

[Arete]

Article Below:

I think its home for a lot of men. The world is designed to keep a man insecure. If he's insecure, he keeps buying and consuming to make him FEEL secure. That's good for society because society's model is built on growth. Now imagine if men were secure and didn't need to buy products for themselves or things to impress women. How long would society last?

Your thoughts?

----------------------------------------------

THE DAY YOU FINALLY WAKE UP TO YOUR WORTH, THE WORLD WILL TREMBLE

https://medium.com/@marcomizzau/why-society-wants-you-insecure-784901b8bc5b

There comes a moment — rare, sacred, electric — when a man or woman finally sees their worth. And I mean truly sees it. Not through the lens of external validation, likes, promotions, or compliments, but from a deep, undeniable place within.

The day you stop doubting yourself is the day the world around you begins to panic.

Why? Because society, as we know it, is built on your insecurity.

From the moment you take your first breath, you are conditioned to believe you are not enough.

You’re told to be thinner, smarter, richer, more attractive, more productive, more… everything.

You are subtly trained to chase a version of yourself that exists only in the marketing department of someone else’s business plan.

And as long as you feel like you’re lacking, you will keep buying. Keep obeying. Keep consuming instead of creating.

This is not by accident. It’s by design.

The machinery of modern culture is fueled by cognitive dissonance — the painful gap between who you feel you are and who you’ve been told you should be. And into that gap pours every ad, every false image of perfection, every post meant to make you believe that you’re behind.

But here’s the truth: The moment you realize you don’t need to be fixed, they lose their grip on you.

That’s when everything changes.

When you stop trying to “be liked” by everyone, you will quickly find out who really respects you. Spoiler alert: many won’t. And that’s good news.

Because when you stop dancing for approval, you start walking your own path.

A CONFIDENT SOUL IS UNCONTROLLABLE

• The secure person doesn’t consume to feel worthy — they create from a place of worth.
• The secure person doesn’t obey blindly — they choose consciously.
• The secure person doesn’t need to please everyone — they please the right ones.
• The secure person doesn’t crave attention — they command respect.

And when you finally stop asking for permission to be yourself, you will find yourself offending people. And again, that’s exactly how you know you’re doing something right.

Because your value is not measured by applause. It’s measured by whether you can look in the mirror and be proud of the person staring back.

12 BRUTAL TRUTHS TO BUILD A STRONGER, FREER, MORE UNSTOPPABLE YOU

1. Keep your mouth shut. Not everything needs to be shared. Energy leaks where attention goes.
2. Do not tell people your plans until they materialize. Protect your vision until it’s ready to walk on its own.
3. Never expect to receive just because you gave. Give because it’s who you are, not because you’re keeping score.
4. Every day, get up and get better. No excuses. No shortcuts. Just relentless forward motion.
5. Be radically grateful. Gratitude turns what you have into enough and what you want into reality.
6. Let go. Often, what you refuse to release is what’s holding you back the most.
7. If you want to buy things without looking at price tags, stop looking at the clock and start working your ass off. Success costs what laziness cannot afford.
8. God puts people in your path for a reason. Learn the lesson. Bless the experience. Move forward.
9. When success starts knocking, so does the devil. Stay vigilant. Protect your energy. Don’t trade your soul for a spotlight.
10. You will upset people by doing what’s best for you. Do it anyway.
11. You will lose friends. But real ones will never leave. Truth filters out the fake.
12. Life doesn’t get easier. You get stronger. And strength isn’t loud. It’s calm. It’s steady. It endures.

You don’t need another course.
You don’t need another product.
You don’t need another external fix.

You need a decision — a violent commitment to yourself.
To rise. To reclaim. To stop playing small.

Because your greatness is not in question.
Only your belief in it is.

Be the one who finally breaks free.
Be the one who stops apologizing.
Be the one who lives fully, unapologetically, and wide awake.

The world needs your fire.
Light it.

This is simply incredible.

I'm only glimpsing what you are describing sporadically, but it's enough to understand what this is about. There is one thing I don't quite understand. To even get this far, a tremendous amount of effort was necessary (for me). To fully reach what you're describing, even more effort will be necessary from my life experiences.

I don't understand these two parts:

You’re told to be thinner, smarter, richer, more attractive, more productive, more… everything.

You are subtly trained to chase a version of yourself

as long as you feel like you’re lacking

I feel inspired just reading youre post over and over, and will save it this for future reference, you obviously know what youre talking about. I just wonder about that part. Isn't it good to strive for perfection, even if it's impossible?

Can you perhaps clarify that part? I would be very interested in more details of your view.

Gemisch also said something like that.

But the real answer is: by training daily, conditioning yourself to the max/ stamina , ofcourse training the basics( including the hook, jab and uppercut) but also by studying the game and life deeply, understanding human phycology AND physicality, eating right, staying away from distractions and temptation . In other words; that "simple "one thing you want (p00sy , the knock out) is a mere BYPRODUCT of being the best version you can be and your adventures

Which I fully agree with, and it's close to what I'm trying to live by.