After asking for her number, how do you write it down?

[f(x)]

If the interaction goes well during a cold approach, I have started handing over my phone with the contact screen open to let her add her info.

This has worked the last two times I’ve gotten a number and I find that it doesn’t put her on the spot by directly asking for her number, especially in a location where she can’t be isolated.

Just wondering how everyone else does this. Any tips and tricks to save the number are appreciated.

 

[BPH]

This is fine, but what I do is TELL her to give me her number rather than ASK for it.

Whether I put it in myself or give her the phone doesn't matter too much. After that, I'll usually call it so she has mine (and to make sure it's correct/not fake), and text my name plus something memorable, like "BPH hot flamingo shirt guy".

I don't ask for socials like Snapchat or Instagram, and I don't give her my number instead.

EDIT: Also, if the interaction is going really well, make sure NOT to just take the number and eject. I see that a lot. If she's not on her way out or something, keep going.

 

[quodlibet]

"Hey, text me now so I can have your number".

 

[f(x)]

"Hey, text me now so I can have your number".

I have actually used a variation of this successfully which led to scoring. I didn’t have my phone on me so I suggested she text me her number.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

If a girl is into you. She will make it easy. I was at a client location. And flirted with one of the nurses. She came by the workstation I was at and dropped off her # on a card.
i was at another location in a break room, before a presentation. One of the attendees came up. Started chatting with me. Then. She demanded my #.
girls do half the work.

 

[Velasco]

If the interaction goes well during a cold approach, I have started handing over my phone with the contact screen open to let her add her info.

yeah that’s what i do. just hand them over my phone with the contact screen open without saying anything. never fails

 

[Velasco]

I don't ask for socials like Snapchat or Instagram, and I don't give her my number instead.

i don’t ask for socials either but sometimes i see that girls respond better in snap vs sms. so after getting their numbers, i’ll add them to snap because their number is connected to snap. i had a girl not respond to my texts but then we send snaps to each other every day so that’s where i communicate w her.

Also, if the interaction is going really well, make sure NOT to just take the number and eject. I see that a lot. If she's not on her way out or something, keep going.

in my experience most girls are not going to be down for a same night lay (and i say this as someone whose had a lot of same night lays). so ur limiting how many girls u could fvck on a day2 if u just settle on one number. 5 numbers in one night. better odds you’ll fvck at least one of them than putting all ur eggs in one basket.

 

[BPH]

i don’t ask for socials either but sometimes i see that girls respond better in snap vs sms. so after getting their numbers, i’ll add them to snap because their number is connected to snap. i had a girl not respond to my texts but then we send snaps to each other every day so that’s where i communicate w her.

Sometimes, but I've gotten plenty of compliments from women I approached because I asked for their number when they were tired of guys being pus**es and asking for a Snapchat. At some point, the girl and I would probably follow each other on Instagram, and my exes especially all loved Snapchat with the streak feature.

in my experience most girls are not going to be down for a same night lay (and i say this as someone whose had a lot of same night lays). so ur limiting how many girls u could fvck on a day2 if u just settle on one number. 5 numbers in one night. better odds you’ll fvck at least one of them than putting all ur eggs in one basket.

Agreed, and most guys wouldn't know what to look for to know when that's possible, so it's unlikely much of this forum would benefit from that advice - but I think it's worth noting because it happens often enough that it might help somebody see that opportunity.

I had that happen just this last weekend with a girl I met at Seacrets during our bachelor party weekend. I approached her, she stopped, her friends left her with me, so I took her to the bar, we had some drinks, ended up making out, and I very directly invited her to come back with me, to which she agreed. The only reason that didn't result in a new LR is that one of the friends in the group had their boyfriend call her and admit to cheating and that he was breaking up with her, so that friend went into hysterics and needed her friends to comfort her - my girl included. She tried to satisfy both parties for a while, but eventually she apologized and said she had to leave with her. Considered writing a FR about it, but I don't know what lesson it teaches...maybe that you can do everything right and still fail?

Anyway, TL;DR it happens enough that guys shouldn't stop at the phone number if things are going well enough.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Just wondering how everyone else does this. Any tips and tricks to save the number are appreciated.

Tip: Try to get in the habit of not getting her number. Rather, give her your number.

That way, if you hear from her, you kow that she has genuine interest in you.

Trick: Make yourself some business (contact) cards, with your contact info on them.

When you request that you give her your number (and she agrees), hand her one of your cards.

Since I'm an avid cold approacher, I keep between 3-5 cards on me at all times when I'm out & about.

 

[BPH]

Tip: Try to get in the habit of not getting her number. Rather, give her your number.

That way, if you hear from her, you kow that she has genuine interest in you.

Trick: Make yourself some business (contact) cards, with your contact info on them.

When you request that you give her your number (and she agrees), hand her one of your cards.

Since I'm an avid cold approacher, I keep between 3-5 cards on me at all times when I'm out & about.

You're trolling...

Mr. Mode One wants to put the ball in HER court?

I have an older friend who's a lawyer. He keeps business cards with his info on them and hands them out to girls instead of getting their number. He thinks they'll do a Google search of him, find out he's a lawyer and makes good money, and then they'll be more interested. It has NEVER worked.

OP, please don't listen to this advice.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

You're trolling...

Well, well, well.

Mr. Simp himself is here to school me on this prestigious game he be kicking to these hos .

Mr. Mode One wants to put the ball in HER court?

Bruh, you sound like a damn fool.

Even if you ask for her number, the ball is still in her court because she still has to make the decision on whether she will give you the damn number.

And I already gave the reason why I choose to give women my number, and you had no response to that.

So, fall back, junior.

I have an older friend who's a lawyer. He keeps business cards with his info on them and hands them out to girls instead of getting their number. He thinks they'll do a Google search of him, find out he's a lawyer and makes good money, and then they'll be more interested. It has NEVER worked.

Wtf does your failure lawyer friend have to do with me, and my program?

Nothing.

And you are as good as the company you keep...so what does that say about you?

OP, please don't listen to this advice.

Notice you gave no cohesive response as to why my advice is invalid.

You just want to argue and be emotional, like a biatch.

Anyways, like I said; give women your number...because for a woman who will probably NEVER see you again..for her to reach out to you after you gave her your number, knowing that if she doesn't, she won't ever see you again...that shows genuine interest.

And that is what you want a woman to display (especially early on); genuine interest.

 

[crowolf]

This is dwelling on irrelevant details.

At some point you shouldn't feel like taking the number is "taking" value in any way. It should be the normal continuation of your meeting.

 

[RangerMIke]

I don't. I just remember her name and number she gives me and put it in my contacts when I get a chance. If she offers to put it in my phone herself, I open my contacts, hand her my phone, let her.

Not sure why this is important... but okay. The important part is calling her later and see if she'll meet up on a date. Most numbers I get do not result in anything... it's just the way things are.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

İmpress her by memorizing it.

 

[BPH]

Well, well, well.

Mr. Simp himself is here to school me on this prestigious game he be kicking to these hos .



Bruh, you sound like a damn fool.

Even if you ask for her number, the ball is still in her court because she still has to make the decision on whether she will give you the damn number.

And I already gave the reason why I choose to give women my number, and you had no response to that.

So, fall back, junior.



Wtf does your failure lawyer friend have to do with me, and my program?

Nothing.

And you are as good as the company you keep...so what does that say about you?



Notice you gave no cohesive response as to why my advice is invalid.

You just want to argue and be emotional, like a biatch.

Anyways, like I said; give women your number...because for a woman who will probably NEVER see you again..for her to reach out to you after you gave her your number, knowing that if she doesn't, she won't ever see you again...that shows genuine interest.

And that is what you want a woman to display (especially early on); genuine interest.

Your advice is bad because it is passive and requires the woman to do more.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Your advice is bad because it is passive and requires the woman to do more.

???

A woman reaching out to you after you've given her your #...you consider this requiring her to do more?

That's next-level ridiculousness.

 

[BPH]

???

A woman reaching out to you after you've given her your #...you consider this requiring her to do more?

That's next-level ridiculousness.

Even average women have unlimited options.

If she's single, she probably has at least 1 dating app with plenty of matches, guys in her DMs on Instagram, and a couple of guys texting her. Expecting her to be interested enough in you after maybe 2 minutes of conversation in order to text you first is a LOT to ask.

Just look at Bumble. That is an entire app predicated on women sending the first message...and it performed so badly that they removed the feature.

This isn't rocket science. Requiring her to initiate is an extra piece of friction that doesn't need to exist.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Even average women have unlimited options.

I agree.

If she's single, she probably has at least 1 dating app with plenty of matches, guys in her DMs on Instagram, and a couple of guys texting her.

Okkk.

Expecting her to be interested enough in you after maybe 2 minutes of conversation in order to text you first is a LOT to ask.

Ohhh, so a woman can't be interested in you, unless you converse with her for 2 minutes or longer?

Wait a minute, isn't there a such thing as IOI's, when a woman shows you interest, without you uttering one word to her?

Again, you sound like a fool, brethren.

Just look at Bumble. That is an entire app predicated on women sending the first message...and it performed so badly that they removed the feature.

This isn't rocket science. Requiring her to initiate is an extra piece of friction that doesn't need to exist.

This is a straw man..

Straw man - Wikipedia

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No one said anything about requiring her to initiate..or her requiring her to "send the first message".

How about responding to what I actually said, instead of disagreeing just for arguments sake.

 

[Velasco]

No one said anything about requiring her to initiate..or her requiring her to "send the first message".

if u give a girl ur number or business card (lol) by default she has to send the first message silly. it creates unnecessary friction if you simply refuse to a ask any girl for their number.

if a girl asks for my number, ofc i’ll give it her. if i want to just get her number so i can still go get more numbers, ill ask for her number, say ill text u and continue on w my night. in my experience it doesn’t matter. both lead to lays and no lays.

 

[Bigpapa]

Just look at Bumble. That is an entire app predicated on women sending the first message...and it performed so badly that they removed the feature.

And even when they would write first, in the very vast majority of cases it was very cringe or an emoticon

women are very cringe when it comes to pushing things forward, that is why men have to lead the push forward

women have the ability to be predators, but most of them never really had to develop that side of them, hence that is why they are cringe

you can use indirect ways to make them do things, same as they do to men, but they are still followers

But this, giving her your number and expecting them to write first, unless you have really high relevant status to her, it will not really work