Beautiful women make hard relationships

[jhonny9546]

Hi everyone,

We often discuss how men should behave to become more attractive, but one thing that's rarely talked about is how to behave in a serious relationship with a very attractive woman.

Imagine she's a HB8/9, highly attracted to you, respects you, and has chosen you. And, as Desdinova would say, you're #1 on her HSL.

Because she's exceptionally attractive, she'll constantly receive attention from other men and may also have insecurities, like many women do. So how should a confident, grounded man handle situations like these?
What did you do wrong in the past, and what are you doing right now, having learned the lesson?


a) Other men flirt with her, compliment her, or seek her attention. How do you react? Do you ignore it, set boundaries, or confront them?
Personal experience) I've seen many friends become insecure.. they would tell "who is this friend?"
Also, in situations like going out you and her, at a night out, at a restaurant, or simply in social situations, there will be opportunities for other men to approach her, validate her, or seduce her. These friends of mine have sometimes behaved by teasing the other man, saying to her, "You know, I'd see you together, but who knows, with that prominent forehead, he might mess up your hair when he kisses you," or if they were just upset, they would go to the man and angrily tell him to move away from her, or just try to devaluate or make fun of him.

b) Despite being beautiful, she's insecure and often seeks validation. She receives constant messages from other men. How do you deal with this without becoming jealous or controlling, but rather, live that situation within your own frame?
Personal Experience) You'll always be on the lookout for her contacting other guys, or you'll simply be aware that other guys will message her.. (You can't even imagine how many men everyday contact these kind of women..)
Even if you have her complete trust and openness to letting you see her messages, that's where the deception lies, and you'll never be able to trust her these days. (For example, a friend of mine used to always leave her WhatsApp messages uncoded so her boyfriend could see them, since she used Telegram or Instagram to cheat on him with other guys)

c) What happens if someone touches her or it's just the case a guy get phisical with her, in your presence, like this?

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Personal Experience) I'm short but physically fit, and I've had to do what you see in the video in the past, but the man I did it to was the same height as me or just a little taller.
I wouldn't have imagined what I could do if the man were actually taller and physically bigger. (I'm 165cm)
What would you have done in that case?
So I think point c it's actually an advice to anyone which is inferior in a one to one fight.

Be sure to mention other points you had to deal with women like this in your relationships

 

[plumber]

for one thing its clear you tell that the issue is other men. i agree. for my friends i prefer men that don't play these tricks. but there is a good number that do and many of those tell they will not do that, right before the do it.

i have been in the situation a few times. Its always a good time to be paying attention to the surroundings. also better to frequent places you know and are known instead of taking the hb9 to places you don't know. it is a good rule to always scope out ahead of time any location you expect to take your date/mate/family to.

in my cases, i was in locations i knew. every time the woman shut it down, very directly. one time the guy continues, most of the tables around stopped what they are doing and looked at him. i did nothing. in all cases the men left and gave apology. i never did anything in any case like that. i think in an unknown place it would be different, so i avoid that setup.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Similar to our careers:

The further we progress, the higher the stakes get... The price of becoming the most formidable team in the league is retaining that status

 

[jhonny9546]

The price of becoming the most formidable team in the league is retaining that status.

I feel like it's not for me.
Don't get me wrong, I feel a sense of self-improvement in my nature, but at the same time, I don't want to fit into any "label" or be pressured to maintain a certain "image."
I simply want to improve and remain free.
You know that feeling?

 

[BaronOfHair]

Don't get me wrong, I feel a sense of self-improvement in my nature, but at the same time, I don't want to fit into any "label" or be pressured to maintain a certain "image."

Good luck with that

 

[Barrister]

Generally this is true for a couple of reasons. First, the hottest women have been coddled by society since they were young girls. The most attractive people are generally rewarded for their looks, and this is especially true with women. These women become accustomed to getting what they want for doing literally nothing other than existing and being nice to look at. This develops expectations that are many times unreasonable and sometimes untenable if in an LTR with one. They also usually possess the least amount of social awareness and age quite ungracefully (usually, they try to keep acting as if they were a HB 8.5-9 even when those days are long behind them).

Secondly, because they are very attractive, they are noticed by other men everywhere they go. Normally, this doesn't matter in and of itself, but given women's nature, if you begin getting on her bad side, she instantly has 100 options at her disposal that she can monkey branch out of sight to. It makes the relationship ground much more tenuous.

And yes - they are sometimes the MOST insecure of all women because deep down they know almost all of their worth is tied to those looks and those looks are not a permanent fixture.

 

[jhonny9546]

Good luck with that

Is there any section I should look for? That is hell long.
And, how is this related to what we're saying here?
Thanks for linking btw

 

[Gamisch]

No. Most women make hard relationships.

matter of fact; the man who thinks he plays it smart by thinking it will be easier with a "less attractive " woman will get a rude awaking. This type of women might even be harder to deal wit as she will / might have more insecurities, more jealousy , and be more delusional.

I can give you a few good examples .

1. Lets say you deal with a woman who is a 5 today( 35 y.o) now but she was a stunnner back when she was 20. She will STILL behave like she an 8/9 and demand that treatment from you.

2. Okay ,so she's a 6. The men who are less than 6 ( and even those who are 8's!!!) will STILL treat her like she's "2 points higher" than them. Watch what happens when miss 6 goes to a bar where there are more men than women. Or a bar where "good-looking dude" can't get another woman.

3. Sex appeal . HB6 can STILL have sex appeal. She can still know how to " do stuff " in the sack , and be a generally seductive woman.

All women will be trouble to some degree. Aks me how I know....

 

[Carmina Gadelica]

Similar to our careers:

The further we progress, the higher the stakes get... The price of becoming the most formidable team in the league is retaining that status

Good way to word things!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Find a woman more interested in making your d!ck hard than your life hard, you can find them at any level of beauty.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

Refine your search criteria. Keep an eye out for women who exhibit 2 things that do not derive from looks:

1. Character
2. Emotional Stability

Those things matter more than looks. While pretty women have seen a mirror and know they are attractive, not all are insecure. I am not insecure for example. But a beautiful woman who is confident and secure in herself can be seen as "intimidating" to men, because her confidence then in some cases actually brings out the insecurities in the man, who may feel not enough to deserve a beautiful woman in some way.

So this cuts both ways.

Something else that happens is a weird phenomenon where people will assume that a beautiful woman's success derives from her looks rather than her brains often. I've seen this in STEM fields, and so has my sister (I am in healthcare, she is an engineer)....where good looking men are assumed to be bright & successful on the merits, people sometimes assume a beautiful woman was passed through on looks, and it is annoying to have to overcome that particular bias to demonstrate competency.

I actually downplay my looks for this reason in a professional setting, and STILL get approached with no make up and very conservative clothing. Now that I am older this happens less (yay) but throughout my 20s, 30s and 40s I got unwanted attention no matter what I did or didn't do. Even now in my 50s if I am out socially and my husband goes to the men's room or leaves my side, men swoop in and make their interest known. Obviously I am married and I immediately make that clear (and once they see my husband they realize they have no chance anyway), but its an interesting odessey being a very attractive woman.

But character and emotional stability are FAR more important in a woman. No matter how pretty she is you will calibrate to her looks. And some women are perhaps intolerable despite their looks over time.

Look for those 2 things noted above as highest priority. There are beautiful women with those attributes, but they are rare & get locked down & wifed up quickly.