Oral Sex

[zekko]

I recently saw a video where a guy was asking women which they preferred: pleasuring their man orally, or by hand. IIRC, the guy mostly stopped couples and asked the woman the question. To my surprise, most said they preferred oral. That surprised me, because it seems like the hand would be a little less, gross, shall we say? But they gave reasons for their preferences, mostly that it was more intimate. Of course, I think all the guys said they preferred to get oral, no surprise there. IMO oral is more intimate and erotic, plus more submissive to boot.

One woman gave a unique reason for her preference I had never considered: She said that a woman could never perform as well with her hand as a guy could, but that few guys are going to be able to give themselves oral. So there's no competition there lol.

As I said, I found the answers somewhat surprising. There was a movie from 2020 called Downhill, and the Julia Louis Dreyfuss character talked about giving a lot of oral in college. Another woman asked her: "Did you enjoy that?", and she replied "Well, I don't think anyone really enjoys it". The idea being the pleasure came from giving the pleasure, not from the act itself - that's the way I always figured it was.

By the way, I saw some other vid where most girls preferred to swallow as opposed to spit. That matches my experience, but then I'm usually seen as good boyfriend material - they might think more about STDs when dealing with Chad. Anyway, I've always heard that particular split was about 50/50.

A former girlfriend of mine once told me that when giving oral, she liked to fantasize about being forced to do it. I thought that was interesting, but that's a whole other story, I guess.

I felt sorry for one poor guy, because the girl he was with swore she would never do it. Also, I think every girl who gave expected the guy to give back in return. I know some guys here felt that giving a girl oral was weak and beta, a submissive act, though most disagreed.

I tried to keep it clean, and stay away from any porn terminology here. I also didn't include the link to the video, because I thought maybe it might be too graphic. If there's demand for it though, and a mod gives me the okay, I'll try to track it down.

 

[zekko]

I'm going to try bumping this once, since I have a hard time believing no one wants to talk about oral sex.

 

[Bible_Belt]

The irony of a woman being bad at it is that no guy will ever tell her, so she never knows. And maybe that works both ways across genders. Maybe everyone who is bad at oral never knows. Women don't want to hurt your feelings, and guys don't want women to stop trying.

 

[zekko]

The irony of a woman being bad at it is that no guy will ever tell her, so she never knows.

Well, unless she is so bad that the act is actually uncomfortable, yeah guys mostly appreciate the effort. Everyone does it a little different - they're a bit like breasts - basically they're all the same, and yet they are also all different. So you sign up for a unique experience. Anyway, if she's TOO good at it, it might not be pleasant to think about how she got so skilled...

 

[jhonny9546]

From the female mind, the act of giving a man a BJ, may be an act of power over him.
That is why they prefer it

 

[zekko]

From the female mind, the act of giving a man a BJ, may be an act of power over him.

Could be. Interesting that it could be viewed as both a dominant and submissive act.

 

[Mike32ct]

I'm going to try bumping this once, since I have a hard time believing no one wants to talk about oral sex.

BJs used to be a common topic, but that seems to have quieted down.

I’ve only had maybe three of them in my lifetime just because the women offered it. I have no idea if they actually enjoyed it or just wanted to please me at that time. Maybe a mix of 20% / 80%? Not sure.

The funniest one…

One time, I was watching a movie on the couch with this nurse. I had the TV volume a bit too loud.

HB-RN: “Do you want to get sucked?” <very low sexy whisper>

Mike: “What?”

HB-RN: “A B L O W JOB” <screaming at me>

Mike: “Umm ok” Lol

 

[ThisIsSparta]

A woman that didnt suck at least on date 4 was allready half way out of my life as the ones that didnt suck, sucked in general at sex.

Looking back, about 2/3 gave oral without me having to ask for it and about half of them swallowed.
Most of the women that DID swallow, were smokers...... dont know if any of you guys made a similar experience or if this is just random.

Being kind of a pvssy connoisseur myself, i have to say, giving oral to a woman you fvck since 10 years isnt the same as giving oral to a woman you know since 10 hours. Its like having steak for a year every day. At some point all you want is a burger or pasta for a change.

That said, i guess that most women stop at some point into a relationship unless they are REALLY into it and that i further guess is a rather small minority and the majority does it to impress you or to stay in your favor.

 

[zekko]

Looking back, about 2/3 gave oral without me having to ask for it and about half of them swallowed.

I don't think I've ever asked for it, so it's always been their idea. I feel like it should be like a gift. I know I've read guys here say they would grab a girl's head and force it down there. I suppose that has its charms, but I digress.

I dated this one girl, and she had this idea in her head that guys needed sex every day, or they would stray. So if there was no intercourse on any particular day, she always would give some oral to make sure I was satisfied. Well, I have a little more self control than that, and I didn't want her to feel obligated, so after awhile I told her it wasn't necessary. One of the dumbest things I've ever done, lol. We didn't date that long anyway though.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

So if there was no intercourse on any particular day, she always would give some oral to make sure I was satisfied.

This is the way

 

[jhonny9546]

I dated this one girl, and she had this idea in her head that guys needed sex every day, or they would stray. So if there was no intercourse on any particular day, she always would give some oral to make sure I was satisfied. Well, I have a little more self control than that, and I didn't want her to feel obligated, so after awhile I told her it wasn't necessary. One of the dumbest things I've ever done, lol. We didn't date that long anyway though.

At a certain point in my life, I realized how sex was just a tool of manipulation for women, precisely when they said things like this.
They made themselves known, without asking questions.

 

[zekko]

This is the way

I've always wondered who taught her that. I always got the impression that it was a belief that was infused into her - by someone, not sure who.

 

[Prepostereax]

Ah, you are talking about bj's
From the title, I assumed cunnilingus

Very few gf's I've had were any good at it, and those who were, possibly had plenty of experience with feedback

Some were so terrible that I had to move things on (eg by going down on her)
I suspect a lot of women think that a guy will blow his wad in 30 secs when she takes him in her mouth, maybe because they've experienced that.
And that might give them the impression that they're good at it.

One of my fwb's tried to blow me in the shower for what felt like half an hour. All she could do was make me laugh.
She called me "evil" after that

It's really more about an expression of their enthusiasm though.
So it's hard to discourage them

 

[Bingo-Player]

A former girlfriend of mine once told me that when giving oral, she liked to fantasize about being forced to do it. I thought that was interesting, but that's a whole other story, I guess.

I felt sorry for one poor guy, because the girl he was with swore she would never do it. Also, I think every girl who gave expected the guy to give back in return. I know some guys here felt that giving a girl oral was weak and beta, a submissive act, though most disagreed.

The women that like giving it are often in their feminine frames and want to do It becuase it means they get to submit to their male partner and that alone is a turn on for them

But I think this just goes for sex in general .

Again women like doggy because they can fantasise about being forced into it , there is something dark in female nature that pushes some of them to fantasise around the idea of a controlled r*pe scenario

It's amusing because in my time I've experienced this quite a lot

once a woman is behind closed doors and offered the opportunity to take multiple men think 8/10 will go for it as long as theres little risk to anyone finding out about it or she can blame it on alcohol / drugs