Talking about the past does not automatically make it dwelling. I live in the here and now, and I don't experience nostalgia. In fact I believe the past is a result of the present, not the other way around.
I am actually approaching this objectively - I bring this up as a point of interest because I don't often here the macho men on here open up about such things. I find it odd how people assume merely talking about something means you are emotionally invested the topic or take. I often say things that I don't agree with just for the sake of discussing or deconstructing them.
...also when did I ever say that I was worried about my looks or that I don't get the kind of women I want? You are kind of just pulling this stuff out of your ass.