"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Going to Barnes and Noble or Starbucks in the morning

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I work remote and write books for a hobby and part time career now, it helps supplement my Air Force retirement money and these chilled out coffee vibe places sort of get me focus while being in a social situation which is refreshing. While I'm on my breaks I'd probably get a latte, get some desserts and talk to the coffee barista there to practice my social skills. If I have time and I see a cute chick that I fancy, I'll say hi and start a conversation with her. I've gotten a few instant dates because coffee and a sitting station is so near off of this approach. I think these are some of the most auspicious time to get to know a woman in these places because the vibe is so chill, anyone familiar with this situation first hand? I think it's the most laid back time to meet women at these places and their shields are down and they're more open compared to a weekend evening where they know guys are on the prowl.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I still think Libraries and Bookstores such as Barnes and Nobles are great for picking up Sophisticated women. Starbucks on the otherhand, is great for remote jobs or 'laptop' camping. Lol, where you BS and go on youtube or something entertaining for a bit and scope out the ladies in the area while you're on. It's better if you bring a wing man or if there's a badass patio outside, bring your dog or puppy.
 

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Define sophisticated women. Such a thing does not really exist.
 

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I still think Libraries and Bookstores such as Barnes and Nobles are great for picking up Sophisticated women. Starbucks on the otherhand, is great for remote jobs or 'laptop' camping. Lol, where you BS and go on youtube or something entertaining for a bit and scope out the ladies in the area while you're on. It's better if you bring a wing man or if there's a badass patio outside, bring your dog or puppy.
USA or Philippines ??
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I work remote and write books for a hobby and part time career now, it helps supplement my Air Force retirement money and these chilled out coffee vibe places sort of get me focus while being in a social situation which is refreshing. While I'm on my breaks I'd probably get a latte, get some desserts and talk to the coffee barista there to practice my social skills. If I have time and I see a cute chick that I fancy, I'll say hi and start a conversation with her. I've gotten a few instant dates because coffee and a sitting station is so near off of this approach. I think these are some of the most auspicious time to get to know a woman in these places because the vibe is so chill, anyone familiar with this situation first hand? I think it's the most laid back time to meet women at these places and their shields are down and they're more open compared to a weekend evening where they know guys are on the prowl.
This was actually my earliest concept and approach to 'game.' I would essentially do the same thing. I met very many interesting people. I never secured instant dates then, but I would often bring first dates there. It was more of a "base" for my OLD "operations." lol I was on a few sites (before every icon that is clicked to RUN an .exe file or application that ACTUALLY runs the program became known as an "app.") I would have my laptop as well as a set up chessboard. Every once in a while someone would sit opposite me and make a move. I met and played against virtually every clique imaginable. No ladies played, but I'd get onlookers as soon as a game started.

I do at times miss how interactions like this used to be. Now it is entirely too lame. I tried this in a city much larger and 'diverse' than my hometown where I did before and it was an underwhelming experience. At an establishment known for a trifecta of coffee, c0cktails (SS censors that?!?!) and board games called "Pawn and Pint." I sat reading ebooks and had a chessboard set up and was there at least 3 hours. I decided to go do something else. hah.

I never had any luck in bookstores. It seems that unless you pull a "quagmire" in the sense "She's into fitness, she's a feminist, and she's figuring it out! Watch this! 'Hey honey, it's ok to be shy, I like to take things slow too!' 'Oh my gosh! The plight of the modern day woman is just TERRIBLE!' 'I can bench press 500 lbs!' There we go Peter, two for me, one for you!". Unless I read correctly what their stance was and did the chameleon (lucky for me I've never been THAT hard up for poon. Frustrated and without for a period of time? Bet on it, but not bad enough to do 'sneaky effer game.') having an independent critical thought of my own seemed to turn off ANY women who were intellectuals.

For some reason, the coffee shops inside of upper scale bookstores have DELICIOUS coffee drinks and they're comfy. I think the last time I attempted this I was reading through "Bicycle Diaries" and "How to argue and win every time." I only made coffee and bookstores essential to my application of "game" roughly from 2004-2011. I did notice that the kind of woman I WISHED I could get with were the kind of women who went to bookstores. Capable of having an intellectual conversation, understanding my wittiness (it gets REAL old when I need to explain every damned joke), dresses in trending clothing and she's a (NOT FAT or at least 1 beer effable) HB-6+. It seems different now, but fewer women who frequent bookstores seem to be in this 'tier.'

The long short of why I don't like the vibes anymore (although I will still on occasion revisit the vibe) is because I'm not the 'type' for nearly all women who frequent these venues. I'm a biker, vet, like to challenge the way people think (that's normally met with opposition now when curiosity used to be the norm) and a biker correcting someone on a logical fallacy, biology or thermodynamics (why there is no 'free' energy) they start obviously ignoring me to the point you'd think I have no game whatsoever. It's actually quite amusing. LOL Put that same chick in a dive where sweaty dudes in leather are shooting pool and throwing darts and that same chick would sit in my lap and bat her eyes.
 

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Hi Travels,
Never been to the States,never even conversed with an American,but I guess our Women are only marginally different and the sort of Ladies you find in our Bookshops are intellectuals generally Feminist,That's not you!Your only hope is to spot someone looking for a Gift and lend advice,but could you?Guess Coffee Shops are always a good possibility... Your best shot might be Cooking Classes,you are a good Chef and in the land of the blind,a man with one eye is King!....The Philippines I have visited,the Women are lovely if not the sharpest knives in the drawer...Wouldn't have thought they were into books,the Cell Phone is more their metier...Do what I did,line a few up on one of their dating sites,mention your Yankee Pension and You will be in like Flynn!
 

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Barnes and Noble has always been a great way to meet chicks.They just opened one down south here in Miami where im at.
 

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Barnes and Noble has always been a great way to meet chicks.They just opened one down south here in Miami where im at.

Hastings is also a good one. But unfortunately they closed most of the stores down in the late 2010s. That store was badass for checking out books, dvds and new music. Lots of trendy peeps went there.
 

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Hastings is also a good one. But unfortunately they closed most of the stores down in the late 2010s. That store was badass for checking out books, dvds and new music. Lots of trendy peeps went there.
I feel the same about Virgin records!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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