Explain this from the mature man perspective

[jhonny9546]

We know that:

a) A woman does not have rules for a man she has genuine burning desire for. Her rules exist only for a man that she considers as the “settle” option. This comes up often in bedroom activities.

b) Women are attracted to men that are confident, decisive, hold true to their convictions, risk-taking, leadership, etc…. essentially, masculine qualities.

c) Women do not care about “nice guy” qualities unless the “bad boy” qualities are in place (masculinity) as it pertains to finding a man sexually attractive.


expand each section with your nuanced experience

 

[Sega Genesis]

A woman does not have rules for a man she has genuine burning desire for.

^^Fair assessment however a high-value woman does have boundaries. And when a man crosses those boundaries (depending on how much value she places on the boundary), it can negatively impact her desire for him. .

Especially before any real foundation has been built. It's instinctive, nothing she has any control over.

I hope you can understand and appreciate the difference.

Women are attracted to men that are confident, decisive, hold true to their convictions, risk-taking, leadership, etc…. essentially, masculine qualities

100% agree with this^ (generally speaking).

 

[intricate design]

It helps to have a lot of continual practice with women as you grow up: Having sisters, mom, and aunts around while you grow up: Having female neighbors, girls at school, and a series of girlfriends (the sooner the better)

it’s guaranteed women are going to punch holes in your “game” no matter how old you are or rich you get, so it just helps to have accumulated experience dealing with their BS

 

[BackInTheGame78]

When you view people as human beings that all have individual personalities you realize things are not so black and white as you want to make them.

 

[Bingo-Player]

In my experiences a woman's attraction will flow in whatever direction you take it

They want to be submissive even the most masculine ones deeply want to be lead by a man as that is what they are hardwired to do

50 years ago a man could walk into a bar smack a woman on the butt , give her some charm and have her sitting on his lap within 5 mins nobody would really have batted an eyelid.

Women didn't need to think too much about all the intricacies of the interaction it was literally " ok this guy has made his move am I going along with it or not " ..... and I mean from what past generations have told me they were pretty happy with this dynamic.

Social norms have made this type of direct male / female dynamic difficult in todays world , I grew up just before "me too" and " creep " cultures really started taking a hold

Around early 2010's I would go out to clubs like a bull in a china shop basically pressing my masculinity onto women until they folded

Vast majority of women tended to respond very positively too , often getting kisses , heavy petting and sometimes sex afterwards too

Problem is in 2026 I think if you go to a club and do this you're going to end up either getting thrown out of the place or having the cops called

 

[jhonny9546]

Problem is in 2026 I think if you go to a club and do this you're going to end up either getting thrown out of the place or having the cops called

And that is exactly what a woman would expect a man to do.

And I mean, from what past generations have told me, they were pretty happy with this dynamic.

Women are realistic, men are romantic, yet women don't want to be seen as realistic.
It's one of the things I hate most after realizing certain things.
As a man, you can't do anything about it except become more realistic and playful, accepting it.