is it easier to slay post university?

[revannt]

Title. What are yall thoughts?

 

[Clockwerk50]

You need more context. For example, it will be easier for people with more experience than for those who do not.

 

[BaronOfHair]

If you develop yourself, physically, intellectually, and psychologically? Yeah, absolutely. Many of us sadly choose to stop cultivating ourselves, once there's no professor standing over our shoulder, threatening to dish out a failing grade

 

[corrector]

You don't get much better social opportunity then you would get during University. You have cohort young women, studying, and there is plenty of natural opportunities to interact in class, campus, on the grounds, and you have a common aspect of why you are there (ie after all you are studying for something, they are studying for something, etc...). When I was in University back in the day, getting numbers from women at class was as easy as drinking water. In fact, if I had discovered sosuave in the 90s and had an internet connection, there is bascially no way I would have had the same results, (ie writing to yourself and journalling only goes so far since you are limited to your own mind right? That's the extent of tools I had in the late 90s), and likely would have experienced allot more meaningful success than I did. Someone who has access to this board and is in University basically has no excuse with such a target rich environment.

After University, things get very isolated and you are on your own. Your interactions are just at work, and chance encounters if you take public transit to and from work. Then you have to rely on dating apps and unless you have solid looks, then it just goes downhill from there.

 

[Mike32ct]

I commuted to college so I did not have a college experience at all. But looking back, I don’t think living at the dorms would have made that much difference though as a nerdy introverted engineering student.

I did well dating in my very late 20s and early 30s. Had a chance to mature a bit, improve confidence, lookmax, and build a career. And most importantly I had a clean slate. Women I met didn’t know about my dateless past.

Anyway, I would say that if you were popular in high school, you will likely do very well with women in college. Otherwise, I’m not sure.

 

[revannt]

You don't get much better social opportunity then you would get during University. You have cohort young women, studying, and there is plenty of natural opportunities to interact in class, campus, on the grounds, and you have a common aspect of why you are there (ie after all you are studying for something, they are studying for something, etc...). When I was in University back in the day, getting numbers from women at class was as easy as drinking water. In fact, if I had discovered sosuave in the 90s and had an internet connection, there is bascially no way I would have had the same results, (ie writing to yourself and journalling only goes so far since you are limited to your own mind right? That's the extent of tools I had in the late 90s), and likely would have experienced allot more meaningful success than I did. Someone who has access to this board and is in University basically has no excuse with such a target rich environment.

After University, things get very isolated and you are on your own. Your interactions are just at work, and chance encounters if you take public transit to and from work. Then you have to rely on dating apps and unless you have solid looks, then it just goes downhill from there.

you make it sound so depressing. is this really the case? that means looks matter more than ever post university. essentially you're saying that if im not above a certain level, im fried and i wont even have achance

 

[revannt]

I commuted to college so I did not have a college experience at all. But looking back, I don’t think living at the dorms would have made that much difference though as a nerdy introverted engineering student.

I did well dating in my very late 20s and early 30s. Had a chance to mature a bit, improve confidence, lookmax, and build a career. And most importantly I had a clean slate. Women I met didn’t know about my dateless past.

Anyway, I would say that if you were popular in high school, you will likely do very well with women in college. Otherwise, I’m not sure.

wasn't popular at all. quite literally was a jester and a loser lol i was probably like the top 3 lower of my class easily. hence the rason why im asking this post rn

 

[revannt]

If you develop yourself, physically, intellectually, and psychologically? Yeah, absolutely. Many of us sadly choose to stop cultivating ourselves, once there's no professor standing over our shoulder, threatening to dish out a failing grade

so you became a loser/chud???

 

[BaronOfHair]

so you became a loser/chud???

For a time, yeah, I did. Today, I'm a certified anti-hero/Villain Protagonist, and life is far more vibrant

 

[corrector]

you make it sound so depressing. is this really the case? that means looks matter more than ever post university. essentially you're saying that if im not above a certain level, im fried and i wont even have achance

You have opportunity now if you are in University so you better use it wisely because you are on borrowed time if you don't. Your looks get worse than they are now as you start aging so you still have youth to your advantage. You don't want to hit your 30s and look back and see that was the only great opportunity you had and feel bitter you didn't land a girlfriend or something steady by that time. When you hit 29 years old it gets brutal (ie like it will "never" happen if It didn't happen by now). So if you want depressing, save that for your 30th birthday if you do nothing while in University/have social opportunity, etc..... If you want to feel great on your 30th birthday, the steps you take today count. (ie of course assuming the world doesn't end by your 30th birthday).

 

[revannt]

You have opportunity now if you are in University so you better use it wisely because you are on borrowed time if you don't. Your looks get worse than they are now as you start aging so you still have youth to your advantage. You don't want to hit your 30s and look back and see that was the only great opportunity you had and feel bitter you didn't land a girlfriend or something steady by that time. When you hit 29 years old it gets brutal (ie like it will "never" happen if It didn't happen by now). So if you want depressing, save that for your 30th birthday if you do nothing while in University/have social opportunity, etc..... If you want to feel great on your 30th birthday, the steps you take today count. (ie of course assuming the world doesn't end by your 30th birthday).

i dont think its as easy as you think it is/make it out to be. these girls aren't just giving it out to anybody. look at the statisics yourselves hypergamy is at an all time high.

what is life like in your 30s then? is it impossible to slay at all? from what you are making it sound it seems to be the case.

so what do you reccomend doing then? Just going out and shooting a 100+ shots? thats so inactionable if you're not a certain looks level. at this point i might as well hop on every substance known to man and literally just go all out if you are making it sounds like the way you are making it sound jfl

 

[revannt]

For a time, yeah, I did. Today, I'm a certified anti-hero/Villain Protagonist, and life is far more vibrant

what changed? what steps did you take? how many slays have you had post uni?

 

[nicksaiz65]

Honestly, in some ways I prefer it. You get your own spot, move out, and cold approach.

 

[revannt]

Honestly, in some ways I prefer it. You get your own spot, move out, and cold approach.

why can't you do that in college?

 

[nicksaiz65]

why can't you do that in college?

You definitely can, but you have more freedom once you start adulting imo vs being a student. More disposable income as well.

 

[corrector]

i dont think its as easy as you think it is/make it out to be. these girls aren't just giving it out to anybody. look at the statisics yourselves hypergamy is at an all time high.

what is life like in your 30s then? is it impossible to slay at all? from what you are making it sound it seems to be the case.

so what do you reccomend doing then? Just going out and shooting a 100+ shots? thats so inactionable if you're not a certain looks level. at this point i might as well hop on every substance known to man and literally just go all out if you are making it sounds like the way you are making it sound jfl

I'm just saying the social opportunity is optimal in University/colleage. I wasn't talking about 30s, I'm saying when you hit 29/30s then it really hits you, that you are getting older. When people on here talk about self-improvement, then they are also talking about socializing, interacting with women. Nobody talking about being a horndog when they talk about self-improvement. You are building up yourself socially, finding social networks, making friends, and hoping something works in your favor along that path.

Let me ask you something. How many female friends do you have? How many women do you know enough that you can go up to them, in person, say "hi", they will recognize who you are, and give you a decent hi back or maybe a chat? Then it's simple numbers from there. If you have a good rapport with a number of girls, one of them might have great chemistry/connection with you compared to others, then you extend that further, etc....

Life after University is tough to make connections with anyone.

 

[corrector]

It’s not that things don’t happen after university — they just require more intentional effort because you don’t have built-in social environments anymore.

 

[Velasco]

thoughts?

100X easier. i left college as a virgin. now at triple digit lay count.

 

[revannt]

100X easier. i left college as a virgin. now at triple digit lay count.

no ****ing way. whats the sauce?

 

[Velasco]

no ****ing way. whats the sauce?

simple
I have my own place. I live in college town. and I go out to small college bars and work in restaurant with attractive servers/hosts while being the hottest guy there
https://realmademen.wordpress.com/2012/11/11/be-the-hottest-guy-there/