"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Giving her too many opportunities

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Do you honestly think that a woman who has a very active life, meets lots of people, participates in many groups, and is very social has the mental and emotional strength not to fall into temptation and cheat?

Personally, I see a lot of fearful men out there who "control" their women in their relationships and don't allow them to do certain things because they know they'd lose their "advantage," or that she simply might "discomnect" and then cheat.

How does it make you feel as a man ?
What are your thoughts on this?

From personal experience, I can 100% confirm that if a woman doesn't have many "opportunities," it's better, because they're weak by nature, so when my father, grandfather restricted mon and grandmother activities there was a reason to.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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control is what happens when not filtering.

if you want a loyal submissive woman, then filter for that. they do exist, you find them in other places then the pole dancers.

if they choose to do what you want, then you have a winner.

you can manage the environment and restrict her moments in polite and friendly ways. it works, but its not the same as if she so chooses.

and finally, yes if she does not choose you but only accepts you then she likely will choose another. law of the jungle.

understand what is occurring around you.
 

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Do you honestly think that a woman who has a very active life, meets lots of people, participates in many groups, and is very social has the mental and emotional strength not to fall into temptation and cheat?
A woman who has very active life, meets lots of people, participates in many groups, and is very social is probably a poor choice for a long-term partner - she has already set her priorities.

But say her clock starts ticking and she settles down…

If the man keeps frame, is a resourceful provider, and leads his woman then yes, I do expect her not to cheat.

Prudent selection of your partner is essential but yes your woman can be faithful.

“I don’t believe in the no-win scenario.” – Admiral James T. Kirk
 

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@jhonny9546 "Do you honestly think that a woman who has a very active life, meets lots of people, participates in many groups, and is very social has the mental and emotional strength not to fall into temptation and cheat?"

The more beautiful the women you link up with, the more you'll have to navigate other men sometimes trying to lure her away. This is similar to what happens in our careeers:

The further a fella moves up the food chain, the greater the liklihood of him making "enemies" who try to take him out becomes, and stronger are the chances of him getting back stabbed by an unscrupulous business partner
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Idk OP but if you take that woman out of Italy she'll have less horndogs hitting on her everywhere she goes
 

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All great advice!



very social is probably a poor choice for a long-term partner
The more beautiful the women you link up with, the more you'll have to navigate other men sometimes trying to lure her away

In fact, imagine that she is beautiful and also social.
The opportunities will be there. He might cheat.
But as @Desdinova says she would never change her number 1 with other men (even if she might cheat on him)



That said.
Filtering out a “Unsocial” woman is quite impossible.
What do you think?
 

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All great advice!








In fact, imagine that she is beautiful and also social.
The opportunities will be there. He might cheat.
But as @Desdinova says she would never change her number 1 with other men (even if she might cheat on him)



That said.
Filtering out a “Unsocial” woman is quite impossible.
What do you think?
 

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“Filtering out a “Unsocial” woman is quite impossible.”

You don’t have to get into a relationship with a mute but women who completely depend on their female or male friends is kind of a red flag.

Bad childhoods often lead to a woman developing a large friend support system. As a man you have to ask yourself do you want her large support structure in your relationship?

Personally, I would pass on those women for anything long-term, not to mention all the childhood baggage they will bring.
 

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Do you honestly think that a woman who has a very active life, meets lots of people, participates in many groups, and is very social has the mental and emotional strength not to fall into temptation and cheat?

Personally, I see a lot of fearful men out there who "control" their women in their relationships and don't allow them to do certain things because they know they'd lose their "advantage," or that she simply might "discomnect" and then cheat.

How does it make you feel as a man ?
What are your thoughts on this?

From personal experience, I can 100% confirm that if a woman doesn't have many "opportunities," it's better, because they're weak by nature, so when my father, grandfather restricted mon and grandmother activities there was a reason to.
I have seen my girl lie to her family, her friends, her sister and everyone on earth within the starting months of meeting me, just so she can be with me. That taught me a simple thing: If she wants, no force on earth can stop it. Rules, regulations, society, culture, a literal iceberg, titanic, war, or money. Nothing can stop a woman who wants to do something.

TLDR: You can't control them. Let them go, treat them like cats. If you don't have one, then get one, and you will see how women work.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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The more beautiful the women you link up with, the more you'll have to navigate other men sometimes trying to lure her away. This is similar to what happens in our careeers:
Not to sound rude or something, but the most happy and secured couples I have seen are two mid or normal people. Two below average, or bad looking couple also last longer for some reason. Maybe related to what you mentioned.
The way promiscuity is normalized nowadays, it is very hard to have a genuine intimacy for love (not for desires) between two people who are both high value, and above normal.
 

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Those who completely depend on their female or male friends are kind of a red flag.
It made me think... not just about their friends... but that they depend on their family, their grandparents, great-grandparents?
What do you think?

For example... what do you think of a woman who has small children, and great-grandparents who help her a lot when she's at work, and also finds dinner prepared, sometimes even clean laundry, for her? Are you talking about this?

If you don't have one, then get one, and you will see how women work.
This is so interesting.. I always wanted a cat.. haha!

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I think for each of us there's a feeling of being happy, of feeling enough, of having enough..
For us men, it's when we give up the new Mercedes GLK, or the Jeep Wrangler, but we love our Toyota Yaris. You know?

The sense of satisfaction that makes us happy anyway.
Is that a bit of what happy couples feel too?
 

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This is so interesting.. I always wanted a cat.. haha!
If forced, she hisses, bites, and smacks you with nails.
If allowed being free, and yet loved. She comes back, snuggles to your body, licks you, and craves for you till she dies.
 

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“It made me think... not just about their friends... but that they depend on their family, their grandparents, great-grandparents?
What do you think
?”

Depending on family is a good thing, that is what family is there for.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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“It made me think... not just about their friends... but that they depend on their family, their grandparents, great-grandparents?
What do you think
?”

Depending on family is a good thing, that is what family is there for.
Say more about that. Since I'm Italian, I can write books about this.
The general thing is that it simply seems that even at 40, we tend to depend too much on family, especially financially.
 

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Close family ties often mean the woman is more likely to stay and be faithful in a committed relationship. Stable family means stable relationships.

If she depends on family for finances it means her man is not resourceful and not a good provider. Women often cheat on this issue. It is a big deal.
 
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