What effect does a direct cold approach have?

[Plinco]

A question from this thread:

How should a cold approach look?

Ok, so your goal requires you to be more discerning, and you believe the women you'd meet out in the bars or on the street would not measure up to the caliber of woman you want. That is fine. Still, like @Plinco said above, just because it doesn't work for YOU, considering YOUR GOALS, does not...

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I want to make a separate topic to isolate this one question.

Assuming that the direct, cold approach is done right, and assuming all else equal (nothing else is a factor, like looks, etc.), what are all of the effects of a confident cold approach to a woman?

 

[Velasco]

nothing else is a factor, like looks, etc

looks will always be a factor when it comes to cold approach. whether or not she’s single. how long she’s been single. whether or not she’s stressed out about some sh1t and wants to be left alone etc etc. that the same exact approach/questions/conversation topics done by two different individuals on separate days (hours even) could lead to completely different outcomes all depending on said outside factors.

 

[Plinco]

looks will always be a factor when it comes to cold approach. whether or not she’s single. how long she’s been single. whether or not she’s stressed out about some sh1t and wants to be left alone etc etc. that the same exact approach/questions/conversation topics done by two different individuals on separate days (hours even) could lead to completely different outcomes all depending on said outside factors.

I figured I'd get this response, and I understand why, and it is correct.



Regardless of how you look, she would then know that you find her attractive.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Assuming that the direct, cold approach is done right, and assuming all else equal (nothing else is a factor, like looks, etc.), what are all of the effects of a confident cold approach to a woman?

My guy, dumb the question down for me.

 

[Plinco]

My guy, dumb the question down for me.

To clarify, I was brainstorming about all of the possibilities, and was hoping to play devil's advocate with some of the anti-cold approachers on here.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

To clarify, I was brainstorming about all of the possibilities, and was hoping to play devil's advocate with some of the anti-cold approachers on here.

Gotcha.

But I'm having a tough time understanding the question, specifically.

 

[tksniper]

Back in my days back in the 2000’s it was called “breaking the ice.” Most of the time the onus is on the man. Of course sometimes women break the ice as well.

In the real world outside of the manosphere and the pickup artist community, two people that are attracted to each other feel a tension and pull towards one another. They both experience an exciting feeling of anticipation. And that tension/anticipation begs to be released from its prison of “what if?”.

And now comes the million dollar question- who will break the ice?

Most of the time it’s the guy. Sometimes it’s the woman.

The topic of “cold approach” itself is a useless topic. The real topic should be “How can I create sexual tension with women?”. How can I make women anticipate wanting to get closer to me?

When you have sexual tension with women around you, the approach has power and momentum. But if your presence can’t create any sexual tension and anticipation with women, your approach will seem like a nuisance.

What you guys are trying to create is some universal system where even a bum or a socially awkward guy can approach and have success. In reality, this website would have never existed if any random guy could simply “cold approach” a million times and get laid.

It’s not about your approach. It’s about the value you carry as an attractive man. If you are low value, cold approaching a million times could possibly land you in jail for harassment. And if you were high value, your approach would look like a gift to women.


I do not condone guys living in their parents basement spend all of their time approaching women when they could be going to the gym and working on creating businesses.

This over-reliance on game is overcompensating for a lack of masculine purpose and responsibility to be a winner in life.

And women can smell overcompensating behavior from a mile away. That’s because most guys overcompensate. It’s a familiar smell.