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Just found this Article from Book of Book and wanted to ask you guys whether you had the same experience regarding those weights relative to muscle mass? (Everything below is from book of pook:)



I have gained over 50+ pounds of muscle mass. There is a saying that when skinny guys get big, when they look in the mirror, they still see the skinny guy. This is true, as my ‘skinny mind’ hasn’t yet caught up with my body.

Let me tell you of the change of reactions I got from the women:

For your reading pleasure,

Fat Girl = Means a big girl that requires an elephant gun.

Ugly Girl = In the same category as Fat Girl. These girls may not be fat, but it hurts to look at them.

Average Girl = They don’t hurt your eyes, but they aren’t amazing enough to attract your eyes. Average girls are the plain Janes.

Cute Girls = Often, they are innocent average girls whose innocence makes them cute. They are a bit picky about who they end up with as they are inexperienced.

Very Attractive = Great curves, long luscious hair, nice everything. These women know they are very attractive and sometimes narcissistically wear outfits to reflect it.

Very Beautiful = Bombshell. Every guy will notice this girl and stare and gawk. You know one of these women are around by seeing the satellites of boys trying to be ‘friends’ with them. Guys fear these magnificent creatures.

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I started out around 155 pounds at 6’3 height. This meant that I was very skinny. I was also considered a nice looking guy. Women loved me being tall.

At this point, I had to deal with a lot of fat chicks hitting on me. These girls were BIG and I wanted nothing to do with them. Ugly girls also would come to me. This was me not doing anything. This was what my body was attracting all alone. If I wanted to get a cuter girl, I had to work for it.

I have problems talking to women, not because I am scared or boring, but because I sense the women think I am ‘below’ them. And the truth is that they do.

I date average women.

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Already, things have changed. The fat/ugly women still go for me but they don’t think I’m as easy. They want to enter oneitis with me. The ‘unworthy’ girls category would now all be staring at me. To the beautiful women, I’m just a typical guy. Cute girls now enjoy talking to me.

I still date average women and now some cute women.

175

“You are looking very good,” my older female manager told me. The fat/ugly women no longer hit on me (thank goodness!) and people (out of the blue) are asking why I don’t have a girlfriend. Average girls are beginning to stare.

I date only cute women with some very attractive ones mixed in.

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Average girls are now hitting on me. Very attractive women are checking me out. At this stage, every woman is happy to talk to me. They all secretly wonder if I’m gay.

I date more very attractive women but still have the cute ones.

195

OK, when you don’t have a girlfriend at this stage, the ladies will whisper, “Is he gay?” all the time. One girl got bold about it and asked me point blankly, “Pook, you are cute and all. So why don’t you have a girlfriend?” I was stunned by her bluntness (rare among women).

Average women consider me out of their league. Cute ones try to become my ‘friend’.

I date only very attractive women. Beautiful women are still a bit of an anomaly.

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When you get to this stage, something very strange happens. All the attention and staring women gave you is gone (mostly). Ugly/Fat women will despise you as will the average women. Most girls will be scared of you (cute girls, very attractive girls)

Let me give you some examples. One Very Beautiful girl was in several of my classes. I start talking to her and she has plenty of time to leave. But she doesn’t… she stays to keep talking to me. The girls now notice me, but are a bit scared to talk and act around me.

One cute girl is like a leech to me in one of my classes. She must sit right next to me, must ‘borrow my notes’, must talk to me 20 minutes after class everyday…

One Very Beautiful woman was a fitness instructor at my gym (think ‘well muscled’ with nice strong legs (those strong thighs come in handy with her dealings with the Pook-man!)). Every time I saw this girl, she always had a ‘satellite’ boy around her. Who does she end up with? Me.

Or the ultimate example: there was a girl I was in oneitis that drove me to this webpage. As I got bigger, her reactions to me changed as well. At 155, I was ‘average’. At 175, she knew something was up. I got her at 195.

Now I date some Very Attractive women but most are Very Beautiful Women.

I know many of you guys are saying the same thing, “I get beautiful women too and I am skinny!” But the thing is, all these examples here is based on attraction on the body alone. I am NOT working to get these women. My body is doing 99% of the attracting. I can just be a statue and get a response. (But of course, you have to take action. This is based on doing zilch.)

Rather than work hard to get one woman, why not work hard on yourself and get all the women? I don’t work hard to get women, I work hard on my dreams which gets the women automatically.

Like the article says on top, only the extremely beautiful women will risk being with a hunk like you. If you want a girl with a great body, you ought to work on your own body.

Coming from a skinny guy, being big is a totally different world. The worst thing is finding out how people really viewed the old you. People now openly insult my past skinny self and it hurts. It hurts because I never knew they had thought that way of me. Clothes no longer hang on my body properly, but I look terrific naked (I am saying this for the mental imagery of our lovely lady readers).

Big guys are allowed to get away with more things. I allowed to be cruder, to be bolder, to take advantage of women more (I’m serious!), and so on. You can also be stupid as well. My biggest problem is women only wanting me for sex (no, this is not a joke. Yes, it is a problem). You try to find a girl that fits your life and all she is interested in is your body! It is like getting rich and putting up with gold diggers.

So how do you go from being skinny guy to brawny guy? There is a lot of information on the Internet. Diesel’s Guide to Bulking Up threads in the Health Forum is a start. For myself, I used Anthony Ellis’s program. 30lbs in 3 months, no joke. Though, for most people beginning, it will be like 30lbs in 4-5 months. The big problem with fitness is that there are so many different opinions. Many of them are wrong and will waste your time (including trainers). What I loved about Ellis’s program was that it cut all the hype and came up with very in-depth information. It works.

However, the risk with body building is that it can turn into a highly narcissist womb. I often think the mirrors in the gyms are not so much to perfect the form, but to perfect the ego. The risk is that you will try to become perfect and we all know that perfect is boring.

Now for a note to the skinny guys who are successful with women. They will, no doubt, post replies to challenge the relevancy of this post. Know that the central… thrust… of the post is not a bettering of image. It is an increase of testosterone. If you are naturally skinny, and are at a higher muscle mass, your body will continually be at a high state of testosterone building and rebuilding muscle mass just to stay the same. High rates of testosterone affects not only your actions, I believe women can sniff it out. So take a guy, stuffed with testosterone, and push him into a room full of lovely young ladies. He doesn’t speak a word. He won’t have to. The women will go to him automatically.

Such is the power of testosterone. Such is the power of sexuality.
 
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Isnt this something we already read on the book of pook or something like that?

Anyway in my experience a decent body gets you great results.

Personally I'm in the athletic type range (decent muscle mass, decent body fat) think of a light heavyweight boxer but with big delts and it's common to have cute girls getting in my proximity on purpose or being smiley and when chatting but no active attempt from them.

It probably takes a way higher than normal physical shape to be actively approached or probably some more asset like a pretty face or way above average height.

Above average physical shape and a good hairline/density made wonders compared to when I was skinny in my late teens or didnt turkeymaxxed my hair in my early 30s.
 
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but I look terrific naked (I am saying this for the mental imagery of our lovely lady readers).
Hey @BeExcellent and @Sega Genesis , I guess this part is for you :rofl:

30lbs in 3 months, no joke.
30lbs and 30lbs of muscle are two very different things. It is impossible to put on 30lbs of solely lean muscle in that timeframe...unless you're using gear (which I do not recommend unless you're competing).

Anyway, the lightest I was when I lost my virginity and started getting girls was around 170lbs. Throughout college, I got up to about 220lbs at my heaviest, then back down to about 170lbs when I needed to get shredded for modeling.

Currently, I'm about 225lbs.

There was never any real correlation between my weight and the attractiveness of the girls I could seduce. Back when I was 16 doing cold approaches on the boardwalk, I ended up making out with one of the hottest girls I'd seen up until then on the beach, and at that point, I was probably only about 155-160lbs. My standards have always been roughly the same, and I might've attracted more women of a certain "class" related to my weight at the time, but it never prevented me from meeting and seducing very attractive or very beautiful women.

I would say the combination of your weight, along with your height, and general attractiveness, creates a more complete package to give you an idea of what your "league" is - rather than JUST your weight.

For example, being 205lbs at 5'9" is going to look very different from 205 lbs at 6'2". Just as 205lbs of fat would look different from 205 lbs of lean muscle.

Don't strive for perfection. Strive for improvement.

Body dysmorphia is a stepping stone to steroid use - something not helped by its current popularity on social media. At that point, you're no longer impressing women; you're just competing with guys by sacrificing your health for simply the appearance of health.
 

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We talking guys like The Hound and The Mountain from GOT? Yeah, EVERYONE gets nervous when freaks of nature like that walk into.a room.
 

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Isnt this something we already read on the book of pook or something like that?

Anyway in my experience a decent body gets you great results.

Personally I'm in the athletic type range (decent muscle mass, decent body fat) think of a light heavyweight boxer but with big delts and it's common to have cute girls getting in my proximity on purpose or being smiley and when chatting but no active attempt from them.

It probably takes a way higher than normal physical shape to be actively approached or probably some more asset like a pretty face or way above average height.

Above average physical shape and a good hairline/density made wonders compared to when I was skinny in my late teens or didnt turkeymaxxed my hair in my early 30s.
Yeah I exactly wrote as the first sentence that it is from book of pook lol, nothing about that is from me except that sentence
 

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Yeah I exactly wrote as the first sentence that it is from book of pook lol, nothing about that is from me except that sentence
You're right, I need to catch some sleep..it was basically the intro and my brain didnt register it.
 

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Oh Jesus.

Ok @OngBak pics or it didn't happen.

My pic is me....BPH's pic is him. Pony up.
 

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Hey @BeExcellent and @Sega Genesis , I guess this part is for you :rofl:



30lbs and 30lbs of muscle are two very different things. It is impossible to put on 30lbs of solely lean muscle in that timeframe...unless you're using gear (which I do not recommend unless you're competing).

Anyway, the lightest I was when I lost my virginity and started getting girls was around 170lbs. Throughout college, I got up to about 220lbs at my heaviest, then back down to about 170lbs when I needed to get shredded for modeling.

Currently, I'm about 225lbs.

There was never any real correlation between my weight and the attractiveness of the girls I could seduce. Back when I was 16 doing cold approaches on the boardwalk, I ended up making out with one of the hottest girls I'd seen up until then on the beach, and at that point, I was probably only about 155-160lbs. My standards have always been roughly the same, and I might've attracted more women of a certain "class" related to my weight at the time, but it never prevented me from meeting and seducing very attractive or very beautiful women.

I would say the combination of your weight, along with your height, and general attractiveness, creates a more complete package to give you an idea of what your "league" is - rather than JUST your weight.

For example, being 205lbs at 5'9" is going to look very different from 205 lbs at 6'2". Just as 205lbs of fat would look different from 205 lbs of lean muscle.

Don't strive for perfection. Strive for improvement.

Body dysmorphia is a stepping stone to steroid use - something not helped by its current popularity on social media. At that point, you're no longer impressing women; you're just competing with guys by sacrificing your health for simply the appearance of health.
From my experience and my friends, it was similar to what Pook described: girls actually approached me more, and average girls were openly more interested in taking things further, sexually. I didn’t need to seduce them, they wanted to seduce me, when it comes to average woman. (Makes me wonder why you didn’t have that kind of experience.)

When I got up to 200 lbs at 6ft1 tall, muscular things changed. Girls became more nervous around me, even the confident ones who are usually social butterflies and bubbly. The girls who are more sexually forward with me now tend to be 8s or 9s basically very attractive, model-like women. Sometimes even an 8 can get nervous around me. (Makes me wonder why you didn’t have that kind of experience as well.)

in short: with my stats now resonating with Pooks, I have it very easy with model like looking woman, they make sure you know they are interessted in you sexually and much more, everything below tend to be insecure
 
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I’m a former bodybuilder and still hit the gym regularly (obviously).

1. This guy likely didn’t gain 50 pounds of muscle naturally or gained that much specifically.
2. I don’t think women give much a damn about muscle. But I’m biased perhaps. I’m in my mid 40s. Back in the 90s around my way women didn’t a flying f—k about muscles. I mean truly didn’t care!
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I’m a former bodybuilder and still hit the gym regularly (obviously).

1. This guy likely didn’t gain 50 pounds of muscle naturally or gained that much specifically.
2. I don’t think women give much a damn about muscle. But I’m biased perhaps. I’m in my mid 40s. Back in the 90s around my way women didn’t a flying f—k about muscles. I mean truly didn’t care!
I dont believe it either that he gained it naturally. I do agree though that only muscles dont make you attractive overall and a handsome face along with other attractive features helps a lot more .

But I did experience, the difference resonating to Pooks as mentioned under the comments, but I do also know that Im handsome objectively, what People nowadays would call a Stereotypical Chad look like
 

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From my experience and my friends, it was similar to what Pook described: girls actually approached me more, and average girls were openly more interested in taking things further, sexually. I didn’t need to seduce them, they wanted to seduce me, when it comes to average woman. (Makes me wonder why you didn’t have that kind of experience.)

When I got up to 200 lbs at 6ft1 tall, muscular things changed. Girls became more nervous around me, even the confident ones who are usually social butterflies and bubbly. The girls who are more sexually forward with me now tend to be 8s or 9s basically very attractive, model-like women. Sometimes even an 8 can get nervous around me. (Makes me wonder why you didn’t have that kind of experience as well.)

in short: with my stats now resonating with Pooks, I have it very easy with model like looking woman, they make sure you know they are interessted in you sexually and much more, everything below tend to be insecure
I never really paid attention to the girls who approached me. They weren't the ones that I wanted. It was always less attractive women going for a shameless YOLO play.

The attractive ones I still had to approach myself; they were just more receptive. And I have been told I make them nervous. Many have said that they found me "intimidating" and expected me to behave a certain way because of how I look.

But, again, I believe that's more a combination of my height, weight, and overall attractiveness - not just my weight.
 

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Hey @BeExcellent and @Sega Genesis , I guess this part is for you :rofl:



30lbs and 30lbs of muscle are two very different things. It is impossible to put on 30lbs of solely lean muscle in that timeframe...unless you're using gear (which I do not recommend unless you're competing).

Anyway, the lightest I was when I lost my virginity and started getting girls was around 170lbs. Throughout college, I got up to about 220lbs at my heaviest, then back down to about 170lbs when I needed to get shredded for modeling.

Currently, I'm about 225lbs.

There was never any real correlation between my weight and the attractiveness of the girls I could seduce. Back when I was 16 doing cold approaches on the boardwalk, I ended up making out with one of the hottest girls I'd seen up until then on the beach, and at that point, I was probably only about 155-160lbs. My standards have always been roughly the same, and I might've attracted more women of a certain "class" related to my weight at the time, but it never prevented me from meeting and seducing very attractive or very beautiful women.

I would say the combination of your weight, along with your height, and general attractiveness, creates a more complete package to give you an idea of what your "league" is - rather than JUST your weight.

For example, being 205lbs at 5'9" is going to look very different from 205 lbs at 6'2". Just as 205lbs of fat would look different from 205 lbs of lean muscle.

Don't strive for perfection. Strive for improvement.

Body dysmorphia is a stepping stone to steroid use - something not helped by its current popularity on social media. At that point, you're no longer impressing women; you're just competing with guys by sacrificing your health for simply the appearance of health.
Unless he is taking grams of steroids and even at that point some of that is likely going to be water weight.

Without taking steroids, at least 3/4, if not more, of that weight in that timeframe will be fat. There is no other option because the amount of lean muscle the body can actually create in that timeframe is extremely rate limited due to multiple pathways involved and enzymatic limits creating multiple "bottleneck" points.

There include anabolic signalling, resources available, tendon/ligament strength (the body will never allow you to add more muscle than tendons and ligaments can support without steroids and these take FAR longer to actually strengthen due to lack of blood flow to the areas), and enzymatic pathways, etc.

Also one of the biggest and least talked about areas that can greatly enhance this process is sleep and most people are nowhere near optimal levels of sleep which derails the entire process from ever approaching peak performance levels in that regard.

These images go into more detail about how all of this fits together.


If you add 2-3 lbs of pure muscle in a month you are at peak performance, the body simply cannot add more than that.
 
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I think the sweet spot for most women is that lean somewhat muscular look. Once you get past that into a more bulky look or get too shredded you start moving away from whats preferred. Most women dont want a man that looks like he spends hours every day at the gym.

There will always be women more into the bodybuilder physique of course, just like some women are into dad bods, but you are narrowing the number of women who find you attractive as you get swole beyond a certain point.

So I dont think intimidated is whats happening as much as a combination of them not preferring that look combined with them not wanting to date someone who obviously spends so much of their free time working to look that way.
 

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I've been both skinny and muscular. having a great athletic physique is a turn on for all women, but some dudes dry them up with lack of game, confidence, masculine essence etc. One of my friends has a top tier physique, but women can smell the insecurity in him (mamas boy coddled his whole life with no backbone), another of my friends is built like a penguin with ****ty teeth, but walks around with BDE and has his way with women.

The trap is dudes expecting their physical to override the mental and emotional factors. It's simply one tool in your toolbox that you can sharpen.

Just like confidence, big muscles bring on more **** tests.... it gives women more motivation to test you and see if you are fazed or not. Imagine being a muscular dude who she can tell is emotionally attached or needy for attention? lol
 

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From the old lady:

My LTR from my 20s was a man with a beautiful physique. He was 6'2", 195 lbs, and had a 8" drop from coat size to pant size (42 coat, 34 pant). That is the classic "V" physique. He was also Chad good looking.

His best friend was Jr. Mr. Olympia and was huge but juiced. My bf never juiced, he had a very handsome face after dealing with cystic acne as a teen and never wanted blemishes like that again.

His body was attractive (he was very attractive), but when he was lifting the most curling up to cuddle with him was like trying to curl up with a box of rocks. His shoulders and arms were that ripped even at rest. It wasn't comfortable really. So there is that.

I didn't like the way his friend looked (literally like something out of Bodybuilder Magazine) and his friend had red roid face. This was in the 1990s for reference.....

I've always liked definition, not bulk. The male model I dated after the LTR was 2 inches taller and 25 lbs lighter. He was very lean, defined and vascular, had abs but was not bulky. I liked his body style better frankly, he looked better in clothes & could wear whatever Versace or Gucci or Dior had for haute coture and looked cool instead of ridiculous.

My husband now is 6'3" and 170 lbs., defined and lean, so obviously I prefer that physical type. Like the model, he can wear stuff few guys can get away with, and he does with panache.

I always thought pro soccer players have the best physiques. Great definition, lean & muscle but not bulk.

FWIW.
 

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From the old lady:

My LTR from my 20s was a man with a beautiful physique. He was 6'2", 195 lbs, and had a 8" drop from coat size to pant size (42 coat, 34 pant). That is the classic "V" physique. He was also Chad good looking.

His best friend was Jr. Mr. Olympia and was huge but juiced. My bf never juiced, he had a very handsome face after dealing with cystic acne as a teen and never wanted blemishes like that again.

His body was attractive (he was very attractive), but when he was lifting the most curling up to cuddle with him was like trying to curl up with a box of rocks. His shoulders and arms were that ripped even at rest. It wasn't comfortable really. So there is that.

I didn't like the way his friend looked (literally like something out of Bodybuilder Magazine) and his friend had red roid face. This was in the 1990s for reference.....

I've always liked definition, not bulk. The male model I dated after the LTR was 2 inches taller and 25 lbs lighter. He was very lean, defined and vascular, had abs but was not bulky. I liked his body style better frankly, he looked better in clothes & could wear whatever Versace or Gucci or Dior had for haute coture and looked cool instead of ridiculous.

My husband now is 6'3" and 170 lbs., defined and lean, so obviously I prefer that physical type. Like the model, he can wear stuff few guys can get away with, and he does with panache.

I always thought pro soccer players have the best physiques. Great definition, lean & muscle but not bulk.

FWIW.
Haha, at my peak I had a 17 inch difference...50 inch chest and 33 inch waist.

Down to around 13-14 now.

People used to ask me if I was a linebacker :rofl:

Causes some interesting issues...I still cannot push my arms back very far because my lats literally are blocking them.
 
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Here is a picture of my body. It often fluctuates from 175 to 190 depending on the season and what I am currently doing. I am natural, and I have been working out since grade 8.

As per some comments that I have received, one girl in my social circle took a picture of me with another girl after we got wet at Six Flags and said I had a nice body (I didn’t pursue her because I was not interested). On another occasion, I was on a weird blind double date one time, and the girl point-blank asked me for my number after she complimented my biceps (I stopped pursuing her because she was not only being difficult but also kissed someone I knew at a club). Another girl told me she liked my shoulders (she told me after we slept together; we slept together for more than a year).

My point is that a nice body will get your foot in the door, but it won’t put a lock on the door to keep other men from coming in. You still need to pull those emotional strings and keep the train on the tracks if you want to win someone’s heart or sleep with them. Improving your body raises the floor of the type of women you can attract, but the idea that “the body alone does 99% of the work” is idiotic.

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