Where I live, there's a lot of live music and stuff. My friends invited me to a club. I don't drink alcohol and I've never been to a club before, just small parties. Honestly, I don't want to seem out of place. How should I behave?
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How should I behave in a bar/club?
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Observe what others are doing, and just do that.
Most likely drinking, talking to friends, and dancing. It'd be a good environment for you to meet and talk to women, but alcohol would definitely help loosen you up for that if you're not against drinking.
Most likely drinking, talking to friends, and dancing. It'd be a good environment for you to meet and talk to women, but alcohol would definitely help loosen you up for that if you're not against drinking.
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I've had a load of fun dancing so if there's dancing going on, then try that.
Talk to people who you want to talk to, like people who look interesting.
I don't drink. You don't have to drink to have a good time. When people get too intoxicated, I personally think it's gross.
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Agree with above. Talk to people, dance and enjoy the music.
What do you usually order at the bar/club if you’re not drinking? (I don’t drink either, so just curious.)
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If anything, water.
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Club soda or Sprite with a lime. Even a cola with a lime. Nobody will know its not an adult beverage and you stay sober. Win-win.
The other thing I'll do (I'm a very light drinker or non-drinker myself) is get a cordial neat. Or a flavored spirit. Then just walk around with it. It doesn't water down & you can take a whiff or tiny taste once in a while.
In my ex-husband's nightclub I always had neat Drambuie in a sniffter. Very classy & sophisticated.
Now I'll do neat Kahlua or Fireball in a highball glass, not a shot glass.....Same thing. Sniff or the occassional tiny sip. Less calories than soda over an evening too.
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If you don't drink you will feel and look out of place. Frankly, drinking is the least of evil things people are doing. Drugs. Party drugs. Cocaine. Weed.
You need somewhere between 1 and 2 beers per hour to feel good. Since you not doing it everyday, prolonged use won't kill your liver.
You need somewhere between 1 and 2 beers per hour to feel good. Since you not doing it everyday, prolonged use won't kill your liver.