How to DM someone on social media?

[Plinco]

Never done it before. I want to give it a shot. Any suggestions?

 

[BPH]

Don't.

 

[Slowhandluke]

Never done it before. I want to give it a shot. Any suggestions?

jist DM. the more followers/internet clout you have, the higher the chance she will respond. I think Paul Skenes ask his gf out that way.. I think Justin Verlander did the same thing? I could be wrong, but obviously you will be 1 out of thousands depending on how attractive she is... need a way to show you are 1 out of a thousand.too.

 

[Plinco]

jist DM. the more followers/internet clout you have, the higher the chance she will respond. I think Paul Skenes ask his gf out that way.. I think Justin Verlander did the same thing? I could be wrong, but obviously you will be 1 out of thousands depending on how attractive she is... need a way to show you are 1 out of a thousand.too.

To be clear, it's from this site:

iNaturalist

iNaturalist is a social network for naturalists! Record your observations of plants and animals, share them with friends and researchers, and learn about the natural world.

www.inaturalist.org

Don't.

Why?

 

[BPH]

Why?

You're not good at texting and don't have any good pictures to show off - you yourself didn't even want to be on the dating apps when we were working together.

You're doing yourself zero favors with this approach.

Even me, out of all the women I've been with, only one has come as a result of a social media DM.

ONE...and part of the reason it worked is that we went to college together and knew of each other already.

 

[Plinco]

You're not good at texting and don't have any good pictures to show off - you yourself didn't even want to be on the dating apps when we were working together.

You're doing yourself zero favors with this approach.

Even me, out of all the women I've been with, only one has come as a result of a social media DM.

ONE...and part of the reason it worked is that we went to college together and knew of each other already.

I figured you'd say something like that. Low return on investment.

Personally I don't think it is likely either, but I thought it might be worth a shot anyway.

 

[BPH]

I figured you'd say something like that. Low return on investment.

Personally I don't think it is likely either, but I thought it might be worth a shot anyway.

It's worth a shot in the same way that tossing a coin into the fountain at a mall and making a wish is worth a shot.

 

[Slowhandluke]

It's worth a shot in the same way that tossing a coin into the fountain at a mall and making a wish is worth a shot.

so is playing the lottery... and a lot of people do that anyways. Just dm, and then forget about it... agreed chances are low. really low given the data that was just posted in this thread...

 

[Bingo-Player]

The days of dropping messages into randoms inboxes and hoping for the best are long gone

You could get away with it Early 00's because nobody really had a fvcking clue what they were doing on the internet and there was a high novelty factor

everyone wanted high follower counts and would engage with anyone to make themselves look more popular online

Now people are a lot more aware that allowing strangers a window into your life can be very dangerous and kind of wierd

I mean when was 18 I was happily accepting anyone that added me on Facebook , For some reason I accepted a few managers in the restaurant I worked at it who in turn used it to undermine me and cause a lot of problems for me in the workplace

I was too young and stupid to understand what was going on at the time but I quickly realised the downfalls of engaging with effective strangers online

 

[BPH]

so is playing the lottery... and a lot of people do that anyways. Just dm, and then forget about it... agreed chances are low. really low given the data that was just posted in this thread...

My guess is that he's asking this question because he's looking for "easier" ways to supplement the approaches he ISN'T doing in-person, which is the REAL problem he needs to solve.

Reinforcing these alternatives won't help him.

 

[Plinco]

My guess is that he's asking this question because he's looking for "easier" ways to supplement the approaches he ISN'T doing in-person, which is the REAL problem he needs to solve.

Reinforcing these alternatives won't help him.

That's not true. I want to take advantage of every opportunity I have

 

[BPH]

That's not true. I want to take advantage of every opportunity I have

Well, you don't have one there.

You're playing the dating app game, but with the entire world, and without a good profile or strong texting ability.

The only thing I could see coming from this is actually a lower sense of self because it will just be more failure in a different medium...

 

[plumber]

To be clear, it's from this site:

iNaturalist

iNaturalist is a social network for naturalists! Record your observations of plants and animals, share them with friends and researchers, and learn about the natural world.

www.inaturalist.org

Sure. Just be nice, not clever. be direct but classy. if she ignore, don't follow up. if she rejects, no worry because your message was direct and classy. no big deal. maybe she will tell other your available... and ...

just do it. then don't worry.

 

[Plinco]

The only thing I could see coming from this is actually a lower sense of self because it will just be more failure in a different medium...

I've been rejected so many times, it has become entertainment and par for the course. Perhaps more rejection will help me get rid of my hubris anyway.

With that said, I'm a plant nerd and I don't want to be kicked off that site either. So the downside risk (loss*probability) is not worth the upside risk (reward*probability).

 

[SmoothHendrixPS2]

Women are leeches for attention... Especially on socials... don't be an orbiter. Be the guy who they wonder why you won't even look at their story. Not worth it. The inner game is feeling confident knowing you aren't chasing anyone. I look at my IG as a business card... if they wanna check me out or contact me there it is, but won't go out of my way unless a chick hits me up first.